You are so so right!! I knew a lady who colored her hair black. She was in her late 60's. Then she got breast cancer, lost all her hair and decided to tell us the it all grew in again gray!! Oh yeah. BUT she looked so much better gray. You're right it totally softened her face. And she did look harsh before.

I color my hair not to cover gray which I don't have much of yet (thanks mom) but because I have mousy brown hair and blond streaks just make my face look brighter. I am currently growing it out to see how I feel now. I'm just sick of paying to get it done. And never being totally happy with the job.