Such a Letdown (Warning - Negativity Overdose Potential Very High..)

[Graciebeliever]

If I have learned one thing about Eating and staying Raw is that you need the help of others that walk your journey.

I had my own trial recently and got all the help and support I needed right here, so you are doin the right thing by coming and letting the people that have already been through this tell you their stories or offer you advice and support. That is using your own wisdom.

There are varied things that happen to everyone when they begin and try to live RAW. David Z Mason is totally accurate, There are NO RAW Police! This journey although it is shared by others, is one that you must decide for yourself what makes you feel best.

Just before I went RAW, I read a book called "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" By Susan Jeffers PhD. I Really believe that it set me up for a Deeper level of success and Commitment for any life change and my Raw choice has benefitted enourmously!

Don't give up on yourself because you are not totally successful the first try or the 100th try going Raw. Keep at it, be good to yourself and know that Eating Raw is a Daily Journey NOT an End Destination!!!

[JinxieKat]

Another thing to think of is that evil 'P word' aka perfect. It should be a four lettered word as far as I'm concerned. If your like me then from childhood there was a emphasis on not making mistakes, high rewards in school and at home if you were 'perfect'. It is very hard, but I am working on takeing the 'p word' out of my vocabulary and changing my view on mistakes as well. A mistake is not a negative, no matter how much that has been drilled into our heads. It is an opertunity that is given to us, an opertunity to learn! Look at the event, see what is to be learned from it, and move forward!!! I can see that you learned alot from the last few days and you've already created a plan to deal with today. Would you have been able to make that plan if you hadn't learned the lessons of the day before? Or would you even have thought to make the plan thinking it was unnessisary?

(((((HUGS))))))

You deserve them!

Jinx

[Feebee]

Just my 2 cents from the newbie. ;)

My husband made me feel a lot better when I fell off the wagon after going raw 100% for 2 weeks. I really felt like a loser, cause I was so gung ho about doing this. He said "Nobody goes into a gym and bench presses 400lbs their first try."
That made me feel SO much better. I think going 100% raw takes practice, and 'falling off the wagon' is natural and nothing to be ashamed of.
Just keep practicing, don't beat yourself up, and allow yourself to make mistakes. You are human, after all! Hey, it took me about 10 tries to finally quit smoking, but I did it. I wouldn't say my 9 attempts were failures, they were just practice for the final time.
((((hugs)))) I'm really glad to see that I'm not the only one going through this. I love this place! :)

[codajess]

A lot of these posts are pretty inspirational. I have to keep reminding myself to let go of my yoda-esque thinking of "Do, or do not. There is no try."

[Jordann]

-Do you feel bad because some outside circumstances are making you feel bad? Or are you just comparing the situation you are in NOW - with some 'other' situation?

Essentially the former. I tend to internalize my experiences and take most things WAY too personally. And then I fester. So I festered to the point of (stomach) rot yesterday... over an incident that happened the previous weekend. I wish I would've thought to do a writing & burning release of that incident, alas.... anyhow - very observant.

-You see....it is the comparison in our minds that distratcts us away from our true paths.

-You cannot help ONE other person in the world by disturbing your own harmony. You cannot make ONE other person happy by feeling bad yourself.
-David Mason

Very well said. This may be the very crux of my struggle right now. I'm a compulsive thinker. It served me well in acadamia

I really appreciate your thoughts - your post was really really helpful to me. Thank you.

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lifeAgift : Thank you for pointing me to that thread. And I am in the process of writing out my pros/cons list - I like the idea :)

Gracie : "This journey although it is shared by others, is one that you must decide for yourself what makes you feel best."

Great way of putting it, and not only raw, but life itself.

Jinx, Feebee - Thank you both for sharing your experiences too.

As codajess mentioned... it is very inspirational to read of other's challenges, and successes. I feel about 37,000 x better than I did last night when I started this thread!!!

[*SunChild*]

"The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed."

Chinese Proverb