Emotional abuse

Thanks, everyone! I'll copy all the book titles. Never heard of "energy psyc."..thanks for the suggestion!

Meditation can work wonders too, that's true. Thanks a lot.

Eva, energy work is using the electrical energy already present in our bodies to balance out our mental, emotional and physical stuff.

One has been mentioned here alot .

It is all EFT or emotional freedom technique.
Basically it is literally tapping into the circuitry of the body to free emotional issues.

Here is a link.http://www.eftpractitioner.com.au/index.htm
There is a lot of other sites to teach you how to do it.

Best to you Eva.

I have struggled with this as well.

There were times I thought it was over, that I was done with it, only to have it all resurface as renewed anger time and again.

I think it harder when you get older - and there are pieces of your life that were really taken away because you couldn't heal fast enough and you find that other area's of your life were "collateral damage" and then you get too old to ever have that time back and make it "right". Like the abuse in childhood taints your teen years, and then in early adulthood, you are drawn towards bad relationships, and then you're older - and looking back it's never been made right.

I think it helps to understand that those who hurt us were themselves damaged people, even if we don't know the whole story - or even any of the story. And also that we do a good "cosmic" deed by forgiving them. Releasing them from it as well as ourselves.

And of course - we have to break the cycle - and not pass it on ourselves.....

Do you ever really bury the past? I don't know anymore.

I feel I was emtionally abused my all my familly yet they deny it. I've had to seperate myself. When I did that, over time I realized what control was really happening. I'm very different from them & when I defend myself, they say I'm hateful-mean. I'm not, I just don't let them rule me anymore. I'm not them, never have been, never will be. I'm glad. I do not want to be like them. It's very hard to be so different from your family, always the outsider.
I feel that healing begins with forgiveness. It can happen quickly or take yrs. Just whenever the anger starts to creep in, forgive them. It heal you not to hold on to it. They really don't care, it only hurts yourself. I have to forgive them many times. Now, when I think about them, it's not as hard. The memory doesn't go away but the pain they've instilled lessens.
I do not believe that time heals everything. Time allows us to learn to cope to certain situations. The pain & grief never leave, we just learn to deal with it.

There is a say that we choose our family and parent.

If this sparkle inside, you will see clearly that nothing has change with you, you are still whole and the beloved child.

Many have different life purpose, the healer tend to choose the perfect family or experience to receive the perfect training. It is called the university of life. Everything you have learned was never and never will be in vain. It opened your heart to have compassion and caring for others, which lead to true healing, beyond the physical, but the freedom of the soul.

See a nice youtube that explain it well.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=orxEawi9qro

Margoss, those are my thoughts ( and my story) exactly! wow.......

Thank ou for your post. I wish I'd meet someone like you in real.......but I'm grateful for meeting you here. Take care, Eva

Raw Angel Mom: I hope that learning is possible without pain,-otherwise life would be such a horribly sad place. All the best to you, Eva

i have been abused emotionally, physically and sexually... i notice that when people screw with me, bad things always happen to them. so i get my justice. someone that used to torture me at school ended up blowing his brains out... before he did it, he told me that he was sorry.. so i forgave him and i went to his funeral & put a bunch of roses in his casket...

similar fates have come to pretty much everyone that screws with me... they end up losing everything, dying or being plagued by some kind of horrible disease... the last lady that screwed me on a business venture ended up losing her family, her fiancee, her business, her website and all her business got spread all over the internet like wildfire... lol she's now in hiding. XD to top it off, the first person her fiancee ran to for help and guidance was me. LOL i had warned him about her when he told me they started dating.. he called me and told me i was right and he was sorry & that he should have listened to me... oh the irony!!!

it's also funny that my enemies turn to me for help eventually... because i am a good person! i'm the only one that's left after everyone else has shunned them and turned them away... i am there come hell or high water... and they know it... so they are usually very humbled when they realize that out of everyone, i am the only one left that they can count on... and they were wrong about me...

also, just knowing that those that have wronged me are suffering or WILL suffer makes me feel like justice is done/will be done and it puts me at ease.. once i know that they've paid for what they've done, i can forgive them..... except for one person.... i don't know if i can ever forgive him.. but i work on it every single day.

all i know is that someone up there loves me and looks out for me. whoever messes with me gets what they deserve. and i can go on with my life, because those people really don't matter!

i've been through anger management therapy for multiple years.. it took me from angry and abusive to just cranky and loud mouthed. lol so that's an improvement! i also went through a helpful christian therapy place. learned a lot & was helped a lot. :) regular therapists have never really helped me much. i find that a lot of them are more messed up than the people that they treat... for example... the lady that we bought our house from was a juvenile delinquent counselor at the local juvi... she was a weirdo!!!! she had to have the fire department come get her out of a tree, because she got stuck up there trying to put a prayer stick at the top... she also tried to dig up her husband's remains on halloween and a bunch of other weird stuff... and that was a lady that was supposed to "help" kids... LOL i also went to a therapist that would have me fill out paperwork and talk to my mom for an hour... she never talked to me. lol so i don't see how that helped me at all. when i played world of warcraft, our guild leader was a psychologist.. she was VERY paranoid.. so i don't know if i would ever recommend regular therapists.. though i did have success with the anger management.

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Raw Angel Mom: I hope that learning is possible without pain,-otherwise life would be such a horribly sad place. All the best to you, Eva

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There isn't any need to suffer to learn sweet heart. Sometime, go figure why we choose such experience and other time, it is just life. No matter what is, we really can reach this place of peace, oneness and happiness.

You are allowed to give a voice to your feeling and don't appologize for that. Once you are ready, the help will come to you. I can feel your pain, but i can feel also this amazing soul you are. You are beautiful, worthy and loved no matter what.

[QUOTE=Aleesha Sattva;494876]of course you can heal... you can heal anything with time, love, support and understanding.

journalling is a great way to start creating (and noticing) change in your life. go to your nearest library or bookstore and pick up some self-help books.

and i'm a huge fan of therapy. amazing how much healing you can get with some well-guided therapy.

of course, there's always EFT as well (emotional freedom technique) i just reviewed this dvd "Try It On Everything
The Revolution Starts Within" for the mag. /QUOTE]

Yes, EFT works a lot with me. I just watch videos online to learn and I read a lot articles here (http://eft.mercola.com/), very cool technique.

I have been on the end of emotional, verbal, financial, etc abuse and have found that time is a healer and choosing positive people to be in your life. A counselor told me once to picture yourself as being on a long mountain climb. At points in your journey you have been caught in storms, sometimes you were so fatigued you had to rest for long periods, at times you encountered obsticles that felt overwhelming. You have now reached a ledge and just above you is the spot that will make you feel safe and peaceful. The problem is your backpack is preventing your going further because it is too heavy with large rocks that are weighing you down.

The excercise is to journal what is in your backpack that is weighing you down. Everything from your job, relationships with others, financial difficulties, anything. Then journal what is it you need that will be the essential things to keep your backpack light and get you to the safe place. See if the rocks that are holding you down were in the backpack five or ten years ago.

This is a very enlightening excercise. Journaling is very healing. Also a book I would highly reccommend is The Four Agreements. Great book to help one cope with others and free yourself of letting others negatively affect you. VERY inspirational.

Good luck on your journey.

I think it is only the time factor which is responsible for the healing of emotional abuses. With time people get busy with their own lives so much so that they don't have any time left for thinking about all that abuse stuff, and gradually they all forget about it.

I recently had a book that was recommended to me called The Emotion Code. The premise is that we all have trapped emotions working counter to our health and even causing sickness in our bodies. It is a very easy to learn technique. The book has some dramatic stories to tell. It is very easy to do and it is just muscle testing and using a household magnet. The muscle testing is done in conjunction with the questions posed in the flow charts to determine what emotions need clearing, etc. There are two types of emotions: those in the body and those contained in a heart wall.

Its worth trying.