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Okay, I pretty much am set on moving to and going to Boston for school in the fall. I know I only visited once but I fell in love with the atmosphere of the city and felt very comfortable in it immediately. It seems like a great place to meet lots of people my age (after all there are a load of colleges in Boston) as well as have a more diverse experience. I've always wanted to live in a more energetic city atmosphere where I could be in close proximity to a variety of things such as schools, museums, shows, cultures, etc, etc but found certain cities like New York City just a bit too overwhelming for me. Boston is certainly a big city but at the the same time its small enough to not make you feel like a speck of dust sitting at the foot of a pyramid or something. Also, my friend that i visited wants to find a roommate or two to go in on an apartment with and i figured that it would be a great oppurtunity for the both of us. Well anyway, my mom doesn't seem to keen on the idea. She thinks I should just go to a school around my house, like a local state school. Now I have nothing against those, but deep down I know its not for me. I don't just want to go to school on an isolated campus, i want to be immersed in the city. My mom is like "oh well you can just take the bus up to new york or boston or whatever." but that won't fix my problem. She thinks i should just go to whatever school is cheapest even if i am unhappy there and stick it out until i graduate. maybe that would be fine if i had a set career path in mind but i don't. I want to major in philosophy, but beyond that I really don't know what i want to do yet. Thats why i think the city is such a good idea. I won't be isolated like i was at my old school. I will exposed to so many different things that Im sure i will be able to carve out some definition in my life direction. I mean, i understand truly where my mom is coming from but I dont want to be like so many people who merely settle for the safe route. I have this single life and i want to utilize it and go after my absolute dreams. I don't want to take the safe boring route and then regret it later. I don't want to be a victim of fear or laziness. I won't be. I know school in Boston could likely cost a bit more than a local state school but thats why I want to work my butt off and save a lot of money as well as search for and hopefully get a good amount of private scholarships through things like Fastweb. I know its going to be hard work and its going to be a lot more work than i did preparing to go to college the first time around but i was in a completely different state of mind back then. I am a different person now. Now I relish in change, the unknown, taking chances and going after what I really deeply desire. I suppose I need to devise a more concrete plan of action to give to my mom.

Like, right now I'm searching for a second job and I hope to work 2 jobs and get as many hours as possible. I also have started the application process for a few schools in boston and im just doing a lot of research right now.

So, what do you guys think? Am i crazy?
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  1. snowdrop's Avatar
    i see both sides, mom worries about her dear little 18 yr old, & you are ready to stretch your wings and fly. i liked boston too, it has a feeling that isn't able to be duplicated. you'll come up with the right plan of action, sweetie. :)
  2. Authenticme's Avatar
    okaaaaaaaay...I don't want to brag or nothing but I live in Boston. And I think it's the best city. Not to brag! There is so so much to do and see here. And we have it all socially, culturally,night life,great food, wonderful sites, the ocean.... I could go on and on and on. As a young college student, I would check out Craigslist Boston. It's gonna be your new best friend. A way to find everything from an apartment to a job.
  3. Authenticme's Avatar
    I understand your mom's fears of you moving to the city. My mom had the same fear when I left the burbs for Boston and I was 32! But your right about it being much more manageable then say New York. It's relatively small with little boroughs and each with it's own culture. You'll get the swing of it pretty quick, I'm sure.
  4. cinnamon panda's Avatar
    DO IT!
    you will have the time of your life. Boston is a great city. the college experience is a must. but really, follow your heart and give your mom lots of love. i always wanted to do the city life and the college life at the same time. but i went the "better" route for money, which was living in the suburbs and local college. bleh.

    i am 26 and STILL want to do it. and i probably will.

    did i mention Boston is rad!?!!? all my family lives in NE. GO Patriots!
  5. samariah's Avatar
    yes, this is really what i want to do. i love the city and i will be living with a person who is pretty much one of my best friends. it may seem "extreme" to my mom, etc but i want to do this very badly and am willing to work really hard and really making this work! and go for it cinnamon panda, maybe we will meet up one day, not too mention authenticme too. :)
  6. beppa66's Avatar
    I think following your dreams is never a bad thing. But it is wise to listen to her concerns and address them. My mom was scared to death watching me drive away, but she bit her tongue. Neither of us has regretted it. Be true to yourself, tell her those things you said above. She is probably just afraid to let you go. That's normal.
  7. StarFire's Avatar
    My daughter, now age 30 sprouted her wings at a very young age. She left her island home and ended up going to scad university (?) sorry may have gotten the name wrong... in Georgia. she has since graduated and has landed an amazing job as an architecht and interior design artist - she travels the globe and loves life.
  8. StarFire's Avatar
    But she worked for it -- and worked hard... I am so proud of her -and letting her go was the scariest thing I ever did.... but I raised her - and I know who she is.... Don't be afraid to follow your dreams samariah ... follow your heart! and .... make wise choices... always - think ahead and make wise choices.... your actions today will affect your tomorrow.... ;) blessings and good luck!


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