Over the past week (while in Maine) I've realized that nothing pleases me more than being underestimated.
Stick with me here. It's a two sided coin.
I can't stand the feeling of being pitied, or judged, or misunderstood.
But for me it usually causes something deep inside of me to well up like a warrior going into battle. It actually deepens my intensity and determination!
It seems I am at my BEST when there is an obstacle to overcome, when there is resistance ...when I'm the underdog. There is very little joy in an easy victory, but those hard fought battles...ARE SWEEEEEET!
This started at a very young age, being the youngest (several older brothers!), my mom said I came out kicking. It was survival of the fittest around our house. LOL I hate being told NO, or you're not good enough...and I hate it when other people are told that too! It makes me angry just typing the words.
But I'll let you in on a secret. (whispers)
Psst. If someone underestimates us, it actually disarms them for battle leaving the door wide open for us to kick down in victory! WHOOHAH!!!
I'll give you an example...I used to play volleyball. Anyway, I'd play in leagues and tournaments. But there weren't many women's leagues, so I played in the men's. The opponents (if they hadn't played me before) would chuckle, make comments and try to psyche me out saying what a gimme the game was.
But those things just made me grit my teeth and dig in even harder.
You see it all the time in sports. When teams don't give their best against a team that is a heavy underdog. Take Michigan's first loss of the season, there is no way they should have lost that game. BUT...they did!!!!
Ok, so what's your point Beppa?!?
The point is, when someone says you can't, you shouldn't, or why bother...it's your response that matters more. There is always going to be an obstacle or someone eager to intimidate or bully you. But it's your response that determines your destiny...victory or defeat .
We use resistance at the gym to work on building our muscles. Without it we can be flabby. Same thing holds true in life. What I discovered this week is that if you embrace that resistance it actually will work in your favor. I discovered this in a weird way. You see I was actually worried I wasn't headed in the right direction with RAW because I haven't encountered a single lick of resistance...from anyone...only support...so it sort of freaked me out!!!
That's when the lightbulb went off in my head. As the Borg always said...RESISTANCE IS FUTILE!!! (& they assimilated everything in their path! - sorry non-trekkies)
So my question is, if you knew that nothing could stop you...what would you reach for? Underdogs...let's go kick the door down!