Join Alissa's Raw Food
Mailing List
Enter your email:





title

How do you know?

Rate this Entry
3 Comments
by
barose
on 06-04-2007 at 01:26 AM (603 Views)
Friend: "So when are you two having kids?"
Me: Probably never.
Friend: Why not?
Me: Well, because I cant. Physically, that is...get pregnant and carry a baby to term...remember what happened?
Friend: You never know what might happened, keep the faith, things will change.

My thoughts: How (insert curse words) do you know?? Are you God? I've struggled for years with my syndrome and my inability to get pregnant; now the grief of loss. For the first time, I am slowly, just ever so slightly being "OK" with never having children. I am not thrilled by a long shot, but at least I can go to be without crying myself to sleep. It doesn't feel good having someone rock my boat like this. I know it wasn't deliberate and she was very sweet about it, but its not helpful to hear about anonymous 40 year old women getting pregnant or any other so-called positive stories. That isn't me.

I guess there is a fine like between someone wanting to be helpful and supportive and just making me feel even more exasperated with my situation. There should be a book for people like her. Books instructing people just what to say when.
Categories
‎

Comments

  1. Suzanne in Texas's Avatar
    I'm really sorry... sometimes people just don't think... they think they are trying to be helpful by giving you hope, but sometimes people just need to be a bit more thoughtful of your feelings and keep their mouth shut! Here's a hug for you... I know things must be hard for you, and I'm thinking about you! :) Mary
  2. barose's Avatar
    Thanks Mary!
  3. StarFire's Avatar
    and thats exactly why i've learned not to ask. I'm sorry barose for what youve gone thru. I actually considered becoming a surrogate at one point for a good friend for just this reason. If it happens for you - its a blessing - if it doesn't -- your life will be full and beautiful and amazing. You are a wonderful woman, i'm sure your ignorant friend was just that... ignorant. blessings girl -- you rawk. ;)


Raw Food Talk is a friendly forum brought to you by Alissa Cohen. You can find various living & raw food diet merchandise such as her new book or CD on her website at www.alissacohen.com. The Raw Food Talk forum is a great place to meet friends, share raw recipes, find advice and more. The forum is broken into different categories. The "Raw & Living Foods Discussion" is for general chat about the raw diet. The Recipes and Food Preparation is where you can discuss and exchange vegan recipes, vegetarian recipes, & other raw recipes. "Exercise and Fitness While Raw" is for advice, tips, training and more while you are on a raw diet. "Juicing, Sprouting, and Organic Gardening" is for discussion related to juicing & juicers, sprouting, organic gardening & wild edible foods. "Raw Events and Classifieds" is for posting events, products, and advertisements. These are just some of the different topics you will find being discussed in the Raw Food Talk forum. Come on in and meet some new friends.