How do you know?
byon 06-04-2007 at 01:26 AM (603 Views)
Friend: "So when are you two having kids?"
Me: Probably never.
Friend: Why not?
Me: Well, because I cant. Physically, that is...get pregnant and carry a baby to term...remember what happened?
Friend: You never know what might happened, keep the faith, things will change.
My thoughts: How (insert curse words) do you know?? Are you God? I've struggled for years with my syndrome and my inability to get pregnant; now the grief of loss. For the first time, I am slowly, just ever so slightly being "OK" with never having children. I am not thrilled by a long shot, but at least I can go to be without crying myself to sleep. It doesn't feel good having someone rock my boat like this. I know it wasn't deliberate and she was very sweet about it, but its not helpful to hear about anonymous 40 year old women getting pregnant or any other so-called positive stories. That isn't me.
I guess there is a fine like between someone wanting to be helpful and supportive and just making me feel even more exasperated with my situation. There should be a book for people like her. Books instructing people just what to say when.