predictable dynamics of change
sometimes it is tough when it feels as though our friends and families aren't supporting us... or worse yet, are sabotaging us...
part of the reason we sometimes feel this way has to do with the changes we are making in our lives...
our food choices and the changes that take place don't just impact us, but those closest to us go through the change as well.
you can expect:
1- a sense of loss... no matter how exciting, there will be a sense of loss (for us, sometimes a sense of loss over our choice to not eat certain foods... for others, a loss over the you they always knew)
2- no matter how competent people are, there will be a sense of confusion and ambiguity (for us, maybe we're learning new ways to prepare things... tasting things or combinations for the first time... we not sure even though we are totally competent in many areas of our lives...for others, there can be an uncertainty as to what this means for them... how will the relationship change)
3- because there is a sense of loss or ambiguity this can lead to self-preservation mode (for us, we can feel like we can't do this and revert back to more familiar things or we can feel as though we are not understood and for others they can feel as though their own life choices are being attacked and feel a need to defend their choices by demeaning ours)
understanding that these things and feelings are predictable and normal will help us identify it when it happens... we'll be better equipped to work through the changes together...
the first step... keep the lines of communication open... call things what they are... understand everyone is not where you are on your journey... and share the glow.