Please help

[Giaya]

:confused: Hi. Ive been on and off Raw for the last month and Im really trying hard to atleast eat 80% raw, but and this isnt a profound excuse but my husband is a devote meat eater as well as cooked (unhealthy foods) such as white rice and the only veges he will eat are steamed or baked. And I just dont know how to make the transition to 100% Raw, which I really want to do with a loved one that isnt going to be able to be a support system for me. Now dont get me wrong Im not saying Im trying to change him, but I just need advice on this situation and may be some tips on how to really get lifted off into the joyous life of Raw foods.

And one other thing, Im in my normal weight range for my height and even when I excersize, (which I havnt been doing over the holidays) I seem to always have this layer of fat just sitting on me, everywhere, and it makes me look rather inproportionate in certain places. My question is, will going Raw, 1. make me too thin for my height which is 5'8" at 140, or 2. will it help to get rid of the almost ackward fat areas that I have and still allow me to excercise and not get overly tired from not having lots of carbs etc. :confused:

[sweetgoddess]

Hi Giaya.
How to get started on 100 percent raw is to jump in with both feet and ignore what your mind says about it.
Realize that your mind is offering you excuses and fears, which are not true experiences.
Do you have Alissa's book? If you do read every word multiple times, and if you do not, it is an invaluable resource. Truly a must have.

Take a 30 day challenge. 30 days is nothing, and yet it is enough time to feel a tremendous change. You can do that! Daily Journalling is also a very helpful tool.
Have a ton of raw food around you and eat whatever you want for 30 days as long as it is raw. Reading online journals and transformation stories is very motivating. Feed your excitement for raw foods and what they will do for you on all of your levels. Visiualizing the end result is also a useful tool.

I live with 2 other people and they not only eat cooked food, but I cook it for them. ( they also eat raw food, but have no desire to be 100% )
While at first this challenged me, I learned how to deal with it.
I made them smoothies, and things like raw stir-fry and didnt tell them it was raw. I began offering a dinner salad a couple times a week for their dinner.
I also learned for myself, I had to have something on the counter, like Alissa's date nut torte while I cooked their food. Everytime I felt the urge or noticed I was focusing on their food, I took a bite of torte and continued cooking.

I realized that cooked food is everywhere, there is no hiding from it, and so I better begin by dealing with it in my own environment. I also taked to my family-told them my raw goals and why, and what I needed their support with and they truly surprised me!

It all comes down to, feel the fear and excuses and do it anyways. For 30 days. Such a teensy blip of time. This forum is here to support you along the way.
Believe in yourself. Really believe.

MANY Blessings~
Carmel

[Naturegirl]

Hi, I'm sort of in the same position as you are, living with an omni. I haven't made the complete transition to 100% raw, but like you I'm striving for 80% for now. I've talked about raw foods to my partner but I have not told him about my plans (I recently became vegan a few months ago and I figure that is enough for him to take for now) I just sneak it in (like salads and smoothies which are normal.) I did ask him to help me build a dehydrator and he didn't seem to think that was odd (we haven't started on this project yet). Like Sweetgoddess, if and when I become 100% raw (I know he will never be) I will still be making cooked foods so I will just have to accept that just as I accept him still eating meat (which he eats very little amounts of).

[Giaya]

Wow, thank you Sweetgoddess, that is very helpful.

[levamssg]

Giaya

LIke sweet goddess says - 30 days is a short blip of time and you CAN do it.

My husband is a carnivore (I tease him about having a SAD tongue). I am 100% raw. The major thing is, he prefers to fix his own meals, so I don't cook for him. I do keep lots of raw munchies around for myself so I have something to snack on when he is chowing down on fritos, popcorn, or the like. Feeling deprived is never good.

If you are doing the cooking ... when you steam/bake his veges - leave some for yourself raw. Slice them thin,combine them with some spices, & oil perhaps, and make yourself an attractive yummy vege platter. Chop them/grate them, put them in a salad with some great raw dressing ... throw together a few veggie burgers or whatever for your main meal. Alissa's book has some great recipes,and there are heaps more books out there and endless sites on the net with recipes as well. I do a lot of "vege or tomato sauces" over zucchini noodles.

Make yourself up some desserts to have on hand. I like puddings and cookies ... After a while, you may find your husband eating a lot of YOUR stuff. (that's what's happening in my house!!)

Re: the weight. When I went raw, I lost 30+ pounds and am back to the weight I was in my late teens and early 20s (I'm now 56). I'm 5'5' and weigh 105, and have been stable at that weight for quite a while now -- thin, yes, but it fits me. Trust your body. It knows what it should be and will get there. Let your focus be enjoying great food and feeling great.

Good luck!!! Enjoy this journey - it's awesome.