struggling (long, sorry!)

[IamLoved]

Hi

I am really struggling with my decision to be raw right now. There are a few different factors. I just wonder why I have to be such an extremist? For me it has always been all or nothing. Why can't I live happily in the middle? I feel better when I eat raw and I know that I have more control over my eating. When I am not eating raw I tend to have a live to eat attitude and eat in excess, instead of an eat to live mentality making healthy choices. I just wonder why that is. What is wrong with me? Is anyone else struggling like this?
I know I must be driving my poor sweet patient husband crazy. Another mitigating factor is the children. Well really my whole family, they are not raw. So it is just me. Well me and the baby, and that is another problem. We have a little one who is almost one year old (her b-day is Nov. 28) So far she has been all raw except for the lady who gave her a cookie one time ( I was so mad) and her brother feeding her crackers once (he said she was hungry, he is 2). But I feel like my family is divided. I am not sure what to do. How can I explain to her as she gets older why we eat different foods then the rest of the family. I have tried getting everyone raw and so far it has not worked out. My goal was to have the whole family raw before she turned one but that is not likely. So I am just very frustrated and confused. Sorry for such a long rant I just don't know what to do. Any advise? Aghhhhh, why does there have to be such an issue with food?

[Rawkinlocs]

Missionary...I'm going to PM you!

[IamLoved]

Thanks
How do you PM?

[Rawkinlocs]

Missionary,

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[Angelina]

Hmmm...I don't know what to tell you about the rest of your family, but priority #1 would be you and your baby ~ if she knows no other way of eating then thats 1/2 the battle won!! I don't think its too late for your two year old either (do you have more children?) ~ turn him on to yummy raw desserts, what kid turns down sweet treats? And maybe transitional foods for him such as manna bread (in place of regular), very easy to make pb & j with almond butter and crushed berries. Maybe the goal shouldn't be to make the rest of the family 100% but rather include lots of raw side dishes, smoothies and desserts?

Now on to your struggles, thats what this board is all about, look around, everyone has their slip ups. Thats why we're all here, to support each other. I can definitely second you on the whole control over food while raw. While I'm raw I eat less without even thinking, but the minute I slip up its a free for all ~ thats the addiction. You said you felt great on raw, now think of that wonderful gift that you are giving your daughter, that she'll never feel the ickiness of processed unhealthy foods.

[rawpriestess]

It's only being an extremest if we eat the dead decaying carcasses of other animals, and the molding lactace of another species, i.e. meat and dairy,

this is what is extreme.

Eating fresh ripe raw produce off the tree is natural and normal for humans.

This is NOT extreme.

I am an all or nothing type of person, so I do understand how you say your daughter is raw, except these two things that were given to her by other people.

But what if one day, she makes a conscious decision to try some cooked food, or raw meat or dairy?

Will she have that right and your blessing?

I hope so.

As she is just as much an indiviual as you, and has the same rights as you do.

Please know that I totally believe the 100% raw foodist lifestyle is the right lifestyle for me.

I also believe that each person needs to make their own choices.

ONLY by making the internal choice to change, will we actually change.

We can change our behaviors, but this doesn't really change our internal beliefs.

So, we can make smoothies and buy raw food, and special equipment all we like, and tell everyone we meet that we are a raw foodist, but the ONLY way to BE a rawfoodist, is to simply DO IT.

Good luck on your choices.

"There is no try, there is only do, or do not." Master Yoda