View Full Version : Lack of control....uggg
10-31-2005, 01:25 PM
I am very inspired by you all.
My sister has Alissas book. (she is not raw anymore) I haven¬ít read it yet.
I find it hard to stay raw.
I thought I would jump right in, but I already failed. :(
I feel guilty because I have poor self control.
I have seen so many inspiring stories on raw, but don¬ít know how to make them personally closer to me to make me more inspired???
Maybe I will tape one on my frig??
My mind is telling me; well start again tomorrow; (so I can eat what I want tonight)It is my mind or inner voice that is making me fail. :(
Anyways, how many of you had a ruff transition?
10-31-2005, 01:44 PM
It is my mind or inner voice that is making me fail. :(
Anyways, how many of you had a ruff transition?
You've not failed ~ and this is not a ruff transition. You, as most of us do, have a lil scared monkey chattering in your head. Find out what it needs to know; what it's scared of ~ not getting enough nutrients? Not enough (HORRORS!!!) protein? What will people say? What will you eat? Oh my!! Can I ever eat a pizza again?
Stop, listen, talk to the lil monkey. Answer its questions. (Believe me, they are all here if you search for them (points up to the banana thingy). Assure it everything will be o.k. Ask it for it's support.
Rarely do people just go 100% immediately w/out enough info, w/out enough prep. Go easy on yourself. You're on a journey. Sheesh gurl. Take the first step, slide down a bit, steady yourself and take the next one. Be the turtle, not the hare ~
Have fun; let go of the drama; enjoy the journey.
10-31-2005, 01:53 PM
I would not worry about the failures, & feeling guilty will only make you go deeper in the hole (at least that is what it does to me.) Insted of feeling guilty about the failures go throw a party for your sucesses. Forget about the messups. I have read people's journals on here & you will see that many fall off the wagon. It's like quitting smoking or drinking. It took me like 2-3 years to stop smoking, but I finally made it, & YOU WILL TOO.
Keep up the good work.
10-31-2005, 02:02 PM
Falling Off of the Wagon:
The neat thing about the Raw Wagon is that it doesn't progress without you. It can't go anywhere without you, so you don't have to feel as if you're laying of the ground watching it saunter away from you. It will sit there waiting for you to pop up off of the ground, brush yourself off as best as you can, and climb right back on. The Raw Wagon is a Gentle-person and doesn't like to hear you berate yourself for falling off in the first place, when it's spent some patience waiting for you to get up off of the ground where you say you've "fallen off."
I love this refrain: It's not about PERFECTION; It's about PROGRESSION!. Just progress, Hon.
It took me 2 weeks to get ready for Raw. It took me another 2 weeks to screw my head on straight when I began, another 2 weeks to recover, another 2 weeks to learn how to deal with inner and outter objections and situations, and another 2 weeks to decided what how to handle the next month. It might take you longer. It's all good!
We don't hate anyone who slips, slides, falls off, or quits. We love you anyway. Love yourself!
Sharon in Colorado
10-31-2005, 02:04 PM
I'll let you in on a little secret....
You have to come close to the monitor though, so the others don't hear me...
Okay, that's not close enough....
Okay just a little closer...
Okay, here goes....
We *All* have poor self control.
It one time or another, in every single one of our journeys, we've been faced with temptation to succumb to something we knew was wrong, and we chose to take the road most travelled.
It is hard to take the road where the path hasn't been cleared out for us, but once in a while we do, and we are all the better for it.
So please don't think any one of us here have better control than you. We have all been weak, and we have all been strong at different times.
The second secret here is...and you don't have to come closer...
you keep moving forward.
10-31-2005, 03:42 PM
Poor self control - boy can I relate to that!
beating myself up - oh yeh!
saying I will start again tomorrow and so binging all day today - lost count how many time I have done this (and still do)
Are you alone - hell no!!
Have I given up - never and nor should you. I have been at this for 6 months and only stayed 100% raw for a maximum of 10 days. Do I see this as failure - no. Do I get frustrated with myself - often. Will I stop taking the raw journey - no!
For some it takes one go and for others like me it may take 50 goes. I am learning for me that I need to have a long deep chat with my monkey mind
(check out this thread - http://www.rawfoodtalk.com/forum/sh...ght=monkey+mind).
I think I am afraid I will be missing out on something if I am 100% raw. Like NEVER having chocolate again or pizza, hot chips etc. I now need to work out for me why that is a problem. I believe that when I work out some of the thoughts / fears I have then the struggle will decrease but that is me. I have had a binging (behind closed doors) disorder all my life and am working on this.
Whatever the reasons for you know you are not alone - so not alone - stay on path and whenever you fall over gently pick yourself up, dust off and keep on down that path knowing you are never alone.
Take care - big hugs
10-31-2005, 03:50 PM
Besides, having poor self-control sometimes proves we're human...we're fallable and I personally am horrible HORRIBLE for all-or-nothing thinking
that I've failed if I make one slip up and enduring guilt for the remainder of the day.
I think that the fact that we are on this path is a wonderful thing and that our bodies are thanking us for eatin' rawwww..
10-31-2005, 04:59 PM
I've been where you are. I started out 80% raw back in March of '04. I made it until the following thanksgiving and then just couldn't get back on the horse.
I went 100% raw this last September, and it's been surprisingly easier. Don't be hard on yourself. There are some good things you can do to help yourself. One thing that helped me tremendously was making sure there was NOTHING in the house that wasn't part of my rawness, and I keep my fridge stocked with only those things that I can eat raw.
I live 5 miles outside town and it's easier to stay raw when in order to fall off the wagon I have to take all the trouble to get in my car (3 bucks a gallon) and drive somewhere to binge. This might be a little harder if you commute to work, in which case always make sure you have a cooler with you full of the "good" stuff. I don't travel anywhere without my cooler full of raw goodstuff.
But remember, we're all in this together, we've all had troubles with self control, we're all taking it one step at a time.
You are not alone.
11-01-2005, 12:16 AM
As you have read from all these wonderful posts, we all give in to cooked foods...It is a journey. I have been on it for several years and still keep falling back into it. I have NO self control. But I keep picking myself up and going back,,, WHY??? Because I can't forget how good I feel on raw, how I lose weight, how I feel so much more beautiful to my husband(even though he loves me anyways :) ), how my clothes fit better, how I"m not afraid of heart attacks because I feel so healthy, etc..
The benefits from raw keep going on and on and you will find that you feel so good you really never go off for long. So just start NOW!!! Make it your goal to get further than you did last time and go WAYYYYYY further.
Just keep trying and remember that we have all been here and alot of us are here with you right now :rolleyes:
Go online and read and read and read about raw and you will be encouraged!
Just don't give up Raw Wife!! You can do it, you can eat raw for your health!
11-01-2005, 08:22 AM
You are all very kind!!
11-01-2005, 08:58 AM
You have NOT failed. To fail is to fall and NEVER get back up.
You have not done that! You are calling out for help to help you get and stay on track.
I have fallen off about 4-5 times just since September 1st!
But, here is what I have been doing and TimmyC put it into words that I didn't have! LOL..maybe he will post his analogy here!
But, anyways, instead of "starting over" each time I fall, I just get right back up and continue on my journey or marathon.
If I had to restart my raw journey each time that I fell, I would be oh so discouraged and would have possibly quit by now and thrown in the towel because I was not "perfect" on the raw lifestyle.
So, instead of going back to day one each time I fall, I just pick up where I left off and continue on.
You know, it's not about making it through each day, sometimes for me it is about making it through each hour! Each hour that I make it through when I have INTENSE cravings, it is a huge victory for me!
Something that I can stand up and be proud of that I did not cave into that chocolate that was calling my name and that I had a dream about...cannot go into detail about that dream, it's just to wierd! LOL
But, RW, you are the right path and I think I saw that you are doing the November 30 day challenge. Good for you!
You can and will do this! Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time and you will be successful and in no time I will be reading posts from you encouraging others.
Do you have a journal set up?
If not, get one, it is awesome to get feedback! I am going to go check now if you have one!
Good luck for your raw journey! You are in good company here! :)
11-01-2005, 09:03 AM
Hey, I went to leave you feedback and I can't post in your journal.
If you put up another picture and label it leave comments here, then we could leave you some feedback! :)
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