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Leiloshka
12-15-2010, 07:08 AM
Hi everyone,

I've been gone for some time. I was mostly raw about three years and was single with my two children. I have a history of an eating disorder that kicked in I think toward the end of my raw period. I had restricted to the point I wasn't eating much of anything because it didn't adhere to raw, or blood type diet or the PH diet or the 80-10-10 diet, etc. and was crazy.

I got married again in summer 2008 and although my husband had supported my "rawness" our whole dating time, he never was raw, so now I've had a pantry full of "bad" things and slowly started eating more and more other things.

It's still healthy by cooked rules as far as organic veggies and fruits, mostly grass fed meats, eggs, etc.

I still don't eat meat and limit my dairy (to only raw milk or yogurt), but will eat other things steamed (mostly) because it's easier when feeding a family.

I want to get back to mostly raw or at least 80% raw, but I have a terrible time with temptation and not eating like other people. I just want to find a menu of sorts where I don't have to think about what I'll do each day. I was stuck on buckwheat cereal (I sprouted and dehydrated) with pears or figs for breakfast, but then the season ended for that and I wanted something just as easy so I started the regular store bought organic cereal.

I remember wintertime was the worst when raw because of the lack of choices. But, I'm getting bigger and softer and tired of this!

I also stopped working out with weights and cardio about two years ago because I had become an overexerciser as well and my nutritionist said I needed to do less punishing exercise like yoga. I've been doing the yoga about 4-5 days a week and do enjoy it. But, I feel I'm not getting enough cardio and I'm not burning enough calories.

My body is bloaty, bigger and SO flabby. I don't even want my husband to snuggle with me anymore and we've only been married a little more than two years. And, it's totally because I feel terrible in my skin.

I'm whining I think more than anything. I can't seem to find a key to make the switch especially seeing how raw finally narrowed my eating world more and more to where I wasn't eating much of anything without guilt, etc. I ordered the Clean Eating magazine for about a year and some of those recipes were helpful for the family and myself.

I just need, somehow, to find balance...like yoga says. :)

beckyh
12-15-2010, 01:27 PM
Hello! First let me say that by coming here again, you are headed in the right direction. I have only been raw for 2 months, and I live in a household that isn't raw. I have to do all the cooking. I have two small children and my husband, who loves sweets. In the beginning it was really hard for me, but I do remember that would eat something that wasn't raw, and then I would feel horrible that day or night. Winter time is hard for me as well, but I have decided that I am not perfect and if I want something to "warm" me up as long as it is vegan then I am going to have it. This is a journey, and you have to do what is right for you. Maybe give yourself small goals, like going raw for breakfast and lunch, then do one day all raw, then try two days raw, maybe try a week raw, then on Saturday give yourself a "cheat" day, but make sure that it is healthy and vegan if you choose. Just remember you are not perfect, but you can learn from the choices that we make. Take it slow, and award yourself when you do something small. Like breakfast and lunch raw, or a whole day raw.

Stay on this site and stay connected. That is what is important. I wish you luck!!!:)

rawmiss
12-15-2010, 03:02 PM
Lving with the temptations right under your nose is the hardest. Maybe you could separate them as much as possible and have different cupboards for different things.

And in the fridge and freezer put his stuff and your stuff on different shelves and put things that smell good or that are too tempting in another container. For example we have some things in the fridge that are kept in a plastic toolbox so that the kids don't get to them and his ice cream is kept in a paper bag - "out of sight, out of mind".

You could use a big container or even dedicate a drawer to the things you don't want to see or smell.

Leiloshka
12-24-2010, 09:14 AM
Yes, I think so much is just being aware. Aware of what you are putting in your mouth and aware of how your body reacts to that thing. My body loves raw. I feel good and my body feels good in digestion. However, eating "bad" things because of lack of time or for emotional reasons isn't good in the long run...or even for that day because my body tells me it wasn't good in bloating, discomfort, etc.

I do have a separate pantry for "my" things, but when I cook, I'm in both. I have to not get all worked up and get into my yoga head where my effort is enough..."this is where I am today", "don't punish myself", etc.

Have a Merry Christmas!

Raw Angel Mom
12-26-2010, 05:46 PM
To tell you the truth, i think it is best to start doing raw food with temptation because you will develop endurance and skill to cope with others in your life doing cook food.

yes, it is challenging at first but at some point, you will hit the self realization that there isn't any turning back once you see how gorgeous your look and feel.

One baby step at the time and focus on your health.

All the best