Dilemma

[meg1111]

Hi everyone!

I'm 22 and hope to start myself and my family on raw food but have a few questions that I need help figuring out.

First is I weigh 108lbs and don't want to lose any weight, everyone says I need to eat a big mac! So I am a little nervous about starting this. What I think will happen is I might lose some weight at first but once my metabolism balances out I will maintain an even weight? I hope I am right.


Second, I have 2 year old twins and am concerned about starting them as well. I have read somewhere before that toddlers need a high fat diet in order to maintain optimal brain growth during this stage in life. I breastfed them for 1 1/2 years and then started giving them cows milk. Big mistake due to them getting lose stools forever.....Recently I began them on almond milk. Their bowels have solidified. It's amazing. I have gotten so much grief from my boyfriends (Alex) family (who are diabetic and overweight) about how perverse breastfeeding my girls was. See I wanted to nurse them until age 2 at least. Oh no, I would get men staring at me in resturants even with a nursing cover on. With toddlers and a nursing cover sometimes they would get a peep show. I hated feeling like I was doing something wrong.

I do not like giving my children refined sugar as I feel that I am poisoning them. I cannot stand when Alex's family gives my kids cake and cookies all the time! I even asked my mother to not get them cake for their birthday. What did she get them?? A Hello Kitty cake. You know why because it was cute to her. Disgusting. Mind you my mother who has been diabetic since I was born 22 years and has smoked a majority of that time just had open heart surgery this year. She just doesn't get it. I am tired of struggling and just want to run away from my family and Alex's who constantly wants to be oblivious to what they poison my family with.

Now I understand Diabetes is a disease. Sugar addiction. The aftermath of what destroys the endoctrine system from sugar. I just don't know how to go about telling the family we have that we are not interested in eating the certain things that they eat without being offensive. Maybe I will have to alienate my girls and I. I don't know yet. I do know that I feel a fight coming on if I do not eat what they serve. They pressure you to eat and eat. To overeat. I can't stand it. Telling them "no thank you" just doesn't seem to click in their mind.

Hope I posted this in the right place. Forgive me if I didn't. :confused:

[sport]

I think that life is better if everyone knows the rules so lay down the rules. Do not be afraid of anyone. You kids and their health is what is important so decide what you want and convey it to all the relatives and do not make any apologies to anyone.

[Mindatrisk]

I feel for you. A big reason why I don't want children is because of how mindless ignorant people would treat my children with 'treats' and BS comments like 'oooh a little sugar never harmed anyone' etc. etc. It would drive me nuts! I'd be constantly battling with people, and I'd just be so sad to watch my children grow up and slowly become corrupted and diseased by our society. I really admire your courage. Please stick to your beliefs... your children are worth fighting for. :)

[blizzardfrisbee]

I agree -it is your health and you have to lay down the rules. I have always had trouble gaining weight(100 lbs) until I turned 40. Then I gained and was up to 135. Since my change of eating I am now down to 102.5. Yes, people are worried about my being thin! Horrors! (for them not me) But from what I understand your body will level out to its ideal weight and so I figured I just won't worry about it.

[janicejourney]

I just wanted to add that your worries about the toddlers not getting enough fat is one thing that you can fear not :) There are so many healthy fats that you can eat in a raw food lifestyle. Avocados, olive oil, flax seeds, seeds, nuts, etc. There are so many wonderful raw foods that are high in healthy fat.

[meg1111]

Thanks guys I guess it didn't dawn on me that mothers a long time ago didn't have all these processed foods to feed their tots. It don't matter if everyone thinks I'm nut either. :p

[sport]

Your kids will thank you later in life for what you did for them and when you are a mother, nobody else matters.