Raw v?s Anorexia

[saltywater]

Hi,
I need help!!! My family think i´m anorexic!!!! It´s kind of scary, just because i eat fruit and am not as hungry as usual (i know when i´m satisfied) and because i have lost weight...they say i should go to a shrink???!!! Can you belive this??? It doesn´t matter what i say, or that i show them that i´m eating a delicious carob avocado mousse, or some wraps with peanut and almond sauce...they still think i´m anorexic... what can i do???
I feel better than i have in years!!!actually ever!!! My energy is returning and i see the "glow". People that don´t know me say that i look GREAT, but my family say i´m too skiny...etc... Any ideas on how to proceed???
thanks

[Denise Nicole]

A little more info would be quite helpful in helping you. :)

How skinny is too skinny? What do you weigh now, and do you think you should still lose? Do they have anything to base this on, have you had an ED in the past?

[spockafina]

my mother is the same exact way.

I haven't lost any weight since going raw (I've always been at a healthy weight) but she keeps making comments... for example, this morning she said to me: have some real breakfast, you're starving yourself to death.

I don't really knwo what to tell you... whenever I tell my mother the truth, she says "you're in denial!" or something along those lines. If your family doesn't know too much about raw, maybe just show them some information about it so they understand it better...

[cornvalley]

I feel your pain..... Learning to deal with family and freinds well intentioned concerns in a positive and loving manner is one of the great challenges for keeping your happiness intact. Know what's going on here for them. You are acting independantly outside of the group. The family/friend group dynamic is the strongest interaction with the deepest levels of emotion attached as well. There are forces at work here that were developed over the millenia in order to maintain order within the social heirarchy. Do not fear! Give status to those most domainant figures while downplaying your new obsession (that's what it seems like at this point in your experience). "I'm just trying this out for awhile...seems to work pretty well right now." Or something like that. Just don't make it a big deal. Saying "you may be right" acknowledging what they are observing helps to diffuse the tension. You may be quite thin, acknowlege that if true. Are you doing this for a certain look? You may need to do some weight training along with more calories to fill out a bit more. Hard to know what to say about the details with your situation, Sure sounds familiar though!!!
Don't get too exasperated with thier responses, just learn what's going on with where they're coming from. Stay loving and happy when you feel the buttons getting pushed. A new strategy is in order.

[AutumnBreezColordLeavz]

Are you eating nuts at all? Because you could prove them wrong there....most people have this preconceived notion that nuts make you fat. Avocado's too :p If you are eating fruit, and eating nuts/avocados and veggies often to ward off hunger, how could this be anorexia? Eating all the time on raw. Seems like I always have food in my face on raw food plan. To my knowledge, anorexia would be causing me/you/us all on raw, to also limit the portions as well. I like raw because I can eat constantly! Fruit and nuts! Veggies too. FOOD!!! Lets eat!!!

[saltywater]

Thanks for replying!!!
I haven´t lost that much weight...2 kg...
I do eat many times a day. I don´t do avocados everyday but every two days, or when they are ripe. But i do eat nuts everyday...macadamias, pistachios, cashews... i eat bananas, etc... so i DO eat, and i know i am NOT anorexic!!!! I am just losing excess weight from all the "bad" stuff i´d been eating before, getting rid of all those toxins!! I have a spirulina shake everyday, and take msm suplements, i have my greens, and all my fruit. Yesterday i made carob mousse with a whole coconut (yummy) and Raw cinamom role ( double yummy). So i do experiment cause i love to cook, i used to be a vegetarian chef. It´s just that i eat diferent stuff. I still have love handles!!!
I think it´s kind of what´s happening with SPOCKAFINA it´s just that my family is gigantica and have too much medeterranean blood in their system (hehehe) We are from portugal, and i was already the looney vegetarian, imagine what they think about the Rawie in me now now!!!!
It´s just comforting to have you guys to talk too!!!!!!
I just feel "alone" in my choices sometimes, even though my whole ME knows that this is right!!!
Thanks for helping me out!!!

[Secret Heart]

Saltywater,

How much MSM do you take every day if you don't mind me asking? Also, how much spirulina? I take 2,000 mgs and 1,000mgs of MSM.

thanks,

secret

[saltywater]

I take 1 to 2 tsps of Spirulina in a shake, usually almond milk with strawberries and some pieces of frozen banana, a day.
MSm i take 2 capsuls a day. One in the morning acompanied by 500ml of water and another in the aftrnoon with 500ml of water too. I´ve been reading David Wolfes book on "EAting for beauty" all about raw foods and your body and he advises to take MSM acompanied by a lot of water for better absorbtion. I hope this helps!!!

[saltywater]

P.s to secret heart...your paintings are AMAZING!!!!!

[Secret Heart]

Thanks Salty!
Secret