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Erynne
02-12-2010, 10:51 PM
All right... if you can stick with it through this entire post until I get to the questions at the end, you truly deserve a pat on the back.

My husband and I have wanted to go raw for a couple years, but we've never been able to make it. We've gone as high as 85% raw, but never crossed into the 100% raw way of life.

Lately, I have felt a real push to move into 100% raw. I have Systemic Lupus, a heart murmur, and a synovial cyst on my lower lumbar spine that puts pressure on my sciatic nerve in my left hip/leg. He is hearing impaired, has recurring chest pains and depression, and gets migraines and headaches almost daily. We both have very poor eyes and a lot of sleep problems. And we are now parents to a wonderful 10-month-old son who is beginning to explore the world of food (we are doing baby-led weaning, so he doesn't get purees... he eats what we eat, or rather plays with it and tastes it; amazingly, his favorite food so far has been raw cucumber with a little olive oil and vinegar dressing).

We have every reason in the world to go 100%... but there are problems.

Problem #1: We live in an "extended family" situation. My husband, the baby, and I make up one family unit, my brother and his wife make up a second family unit, and my mother makes up the third family unit. We all share a kitchen space in the house, which means that there's no way to clear out all the junk and cooked food... because we'd be pissing off three other people who spent their money on that food!

Problem #2: Due in part to me wanting to be a mother full-time for our son and due in part to the job market being rather depressed so I can't find any part-time jobs, my husband is the only one working. While my mother doesn't mind occasionally helping us buy groceries, she might get a little sniffy if we stopped eating a lot of cooked foods (more if I stopped cooking those foods and sharing meals with her) and started asking for help on a lot of raw things. I don't know if we could afford all the ins and outs of a 100% raw diet on just his salary, without resorting to eating not enough food (and since our son still nurses for 99% of his nutrition, I need food to produce milk). We HAVE joined a local food co-op... and we are planning on frequenting the farmer's markets once the growing season is well underway. I'm hoping those will help somewhat with the cost of live foods. And I'm used to turning down foods for health reasons... my son is allergic to dairy proteins, and since he's nursing, that means I can't have any. I haven't been allowed to have dairy products for roughly seven months, except for the occasional slip-up and total will cave-in.

So... help! What recommendations do you have for living in a house where not only will there be lots of cooked foods available, they will be encouraged for us to eat and be merry? And how do you stretch your budget to make your raw life possible?

- E

DopeRawAbundance
02-12-2010, 11:37 PM
One thing I can suggest is to not expect the influence of junk and/or cooked food not to surround you, unless you move to the middle of nowhere and never watch TV you're not going to escape that, its comes down to your own willpower, and remembering that you want to do whats best for your beautiful baby.

For starters, I'd advise that you get comfortable with abstaining from cooked and junk foods, even when they're around you constantly. If you think you have to not have junk food in the house for you not to induldge in it, you're setting yourself up for a binge on junk in the event that you stumble upon it.

As for your mother providing for you, you may be surprised how flexible and open she is regarding your diet. I've helped my mom realize that it's not always about the cost of things, its about the quality. You can get a pack of organic, nutritionally dense, clean strawberries for 6 dollars or get 3 packs of pesticide ridden, nutritionally inadequate strawberries for the same price. You are getting more food out of the organic, in my superior holier-than-all opinion.

You could always share your raw foods with your mother. Just make something extremely tastebud friendly. My mom liked RawKnitsters cinnamon rolls, she was pressing me and brethren to get the ingredients required so we can make them again.

http://rawfoodtalk.com/showthread.php?t=58189

Theres the recipe. It does require a dehydrator. If you don't have a dehydrator there's still plenty of simple, amazin' recipes to choose from. How can you go wrong with a strawberry banana smoothie? Don't have a blender? Iunno mash it up with your footsies.

Aleesha Sattva
02-12-2010, 11:51 PM
well said dope!

i live in a house with my hubby, daughter and son. when i went raw 2.5 years ago i was the only one who went raw. i was surrounded by smells and cooking and and and and. not only do i eat raw... but i also fast (a lot)... and i can say it's my WON'T POWER that assists me the most!

as for how to handle the budget issue... that's really between you and your mom. raw is about health... it increases your health tremendously in ways you can't even imagine!

a great way to keep your milk up and your health up is green smoothies. adding them to your daily regime is yummy and nutritional. perhaps your mom will join you in this? it's soooo good for everyone (and a good food for little ones as well)...

i wish you all the best. if this is something you really want... you'll find a way. after all... someone i know is homeless and raw. they are very poor... yet they still eat raw live foods everyday (perhaps not much some days, but always raw). if they can do it... anyone can! (((hugs)))

T-Bird
02-13-2010, 09:07 AM
ok - here's my well tempered advice.

Have green smoothies for breakfast - and see how junior likes them too!

Make HUGE HUGE salads to go with dinner, plus one side dish that is raw, with the regular meal.

On the days you feel strong - just have the salad and the raw side. other days - whatever.

If part of your household contribution is to cook meals - and you guys are not independent financially - you really don't have that many options.

I'm the single parent of 2 teens, so I do cook for them. I've been 13 months 100% raw - and yes - cooking your former favs and not even tasting - not the easiest. But once you do it for a few months, it becomes second nature. I was always a "taster" cook - never measuring - no written recipes, etc. So now I have to call one of the kids in to taste and tell me how the seasonings are.

So - it can be done. It's only a question of how much you want it, and how much are you willing to work for it?

In my situation - whenever I make a raw dish that tastes good - I always have the kids take a bite with my "here try this....tell me what you think?" Some things - they want a 2nd or even 3rd bite, sometimes - not. But over the course of 13 months of this - I see more and more openness on their part, and they're starting to like things more.

Here's your first task - should you choose to accept it-

Walnut taco meat.

me and dd put it into romain lettuce leaves with guacamole and salsa, ds heats up tortillas and puts his stuff on there - so he's 80% and we're 100 for that meal.

don't be pushy, but thy to slowly find raw recipes your family will accept at the table.

freshlight
02-13-2010, 09:38 AM
you described all the problems....start looking for possibilities and focus on them and you'll get so inspired that you won't be able to stop the beautiful flow anymore,- enjoy!