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09-07-2005, 06:40 PM
i just talked w/ my mom about me eating raw...not too smooth...actually...really bad...really really bad...i tried showing her about what the benefits of raw r and how ppl w/ all these health problems hav been cleansed by it and she won't even look at the website!...i can't even show it to her!...she won't give me a chance...she said eating raw is not for me...at least for people my age...i tried telling her other kids my age r raw and she said, "i don't care about other teenagers! ur not eating enough!"...i eat all the time to make sure i hav enough energy...she thinks i'm anorexic and i'm not!!!!...i know i'm eating the right most beneficial diet...but now, i'm kind of doubting it...how can i eat like i do now w/o the support of my parents?...maybe for a few months but for the rest of my life??...i couldn't even show her the websites Doe posted for teenagers...i need some advice :(
09-07-2005, 08:55 PM
This is tough. If you're a teenager you might have to go about being raw differently than if you're older and making your own rules. My parents (even now...I'm 33) hate that I'm vegetarian...let alone raw. So I just don't mention that I'm raw. But I don't eat with them every day. Start simple...fruit salad or smoothies for breakfast, really big salads for dinner. Don't try to lose weight. Just show how much energy you have and how good you feel. Don't cram the raw information into your parents hands...it's overwhelming if you are not open to it.
Just some thoughts. Good luck.
Oh, and maybe suggest that you talk to your doctor or a nutritionist to make sure you're doing it ok. I make sure my doctors know I eat raw so they can back me up.
09-08-2005, 05:26 AM
Mothers worry. It is part of being a mother. Do not be confrontational because that will only confirm her fears that you are hiding something (aneroxia). You are going to have to work with her but always keep you health as a priority. If you have to settle for partial raw for a few years you will still be way ahead of most of the population. Let your mother see how much you are eating and she will feel better and eventually come round. Dont forget that she is just worried and if you want this to work you have got to ease her worries.
09-08-2005, 09:10 AM
I think that there is an important lesson here. One that we all face time and again throughout life.
How to be true to yourself and your beliefs without threatening someone elses.
You have every right to eat what you choose and how you choose. I am proud of you for becoming aware of your food choices. That is incredible.
Your mother doesnt have the same awareness regarding food and you cannot give it to her if she does not want it, so dont even try.
It would be far simpler to have her support I understand. But as you dont have it at this point, what to do?
Live to please someone else or remain true to your vision?
You can do it with love, it does not have to be a negative thing.
Personally, from what I have witnessed, it may benefit you here to drop the word raw. Eat your raw food, and dont discuss it or point out that it is different. Do share though how wonderful you are feeling and any benefits you feel. In the long run, that is what speaks to doubters. Visual proof.
Maybe make something like Alissa's blueberry pie, not mentioning its a raw recipe and say " I made a yummy pie, want some?" Dont persuade, just offer.
I used to moan while eating things like that and it always peaked my husbands interest in what I was eating. LOL
My point is, you have the right to live true to your beliefs and convictions. Keep in mind, this is just a way your mother is trying to give you love. SO find a way to return some love to her without being false, confrontational or submissive. There is a lesson in this for her also, one that takes so long for us to learn, and that is to grant freedom.
So you are both learning from each other here. What a gift, really, challenging though it may be. I wish you blessings as you find your place in this situation.
09-09-2005, 09:08 PM
thanks everyone for the support...yes, i'm very careful not to be contentious or anything...i just eat in my own lil corner and stick to what i eat and thats it...i don't ever try and suppress my views on anyone...i realize f/ reading ppl's posts that it can hav bad effects...i make some of the desserts and my mom does eat it :p ...and ppl like it...but i'll just hav to see how it turns out...i'll keep posting :)
09-11-2005, 10:12 AM
To me it's YOUR body and YOUR choice. Try not to let her impact you. I understand this may be hard since I"m assuming they buy the groceries? I live with my parents too, but I think it was easier for me to convince them it's good for my health because i have struggled with eating disorders, but it helps me tremendously. I am now lecturing both parents about how they're eating lol, I should stop! Anyway, I think possibly your mom KNOWS the truth that it's extremely good for you health, but doesn't want to face the fact that she isn't healthy? If that makes sense. Also, MOST people on the SAD assume that "raw food" only means a plate of iceburg lettuce or an apple. You must show her that it's much more than that. Dishes with nuts, olives, pates, spaghetti, ect. Maybe make a "spaghetti" for dinner and don't tell her it's raw, have her taeste it maybe? Good Luck!
09-11-2005, 03:15 PM
nahh...my mom really thinks i'm not getting enough nutrition...i should do the fitday.com thing...i try and offer her foods to eat but she shakes her head w/ a grossed out expression...i'm just going to stick w/ what i'm eating...raw always wins ;)
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