Questions on Raw Food and SEX...

[ladyfiremedic5]

Ok at the risk of people misunderstanding I have a question on sex and being RAW.
I have been RAW for 2.5 years now and I have noticed my sex drive is way higher than what it was pre RAW.
Is this something you all have noticed as well??:confused:

Also I do play in the BDSM realm and have noticed my skin is thinner than it used to be... Is that something anyone else has had happen??
I have a RAW friend who believes that the longer I am RAW the farther away from that type of play I will get... but I find that I am even more drawn to the lifestyle than while I was pre RAW...

Am I the only one or do RAW Foodies have these issues... and do you find it a turn off to have relations with a spouse that is not RAW???

[Conscious Midwife]

:oRAW definately heightens my libido

not sure what BDSM is however:confused:

[snoops]

ahem...google is your friend:)

[Conscious Midwife]

ahem...google is your friend:)

Nope not gonna. Cause if it's freaky kinky then that's a good way to get swarmed with ynsolicited popups and other adult content. Which I don;t desire on my family computer.:D

[VeGenesis]

Most people experience becoming more spiritual. Some realize the connection between spirituality and sexuality.

Sometimes we get more than we bargained for. I came to raw food just to avoid gluten that sends my brain into a Celiac Rage - anger I cannot stop.

I did not realize I would be half my weight three years later, nor that my diabetes and heart problems and gout and angina, etc, etc, etc would all disappear. Disease gave me years of thinking my sex life was over, through, finished! Raw Food changed it!


my skin is thinner than it used to be...

I don't think my skin is thinner, but it is softer and more sensitive!

However, thinner skin - or more sensitive - could be an advantage if you are into the BDSM lifestyle (I am not, but I do understand it.)

Honestly, I do not think that one has to do with the other in direct ways. Perhaps your friend was looking for a way out of the lifestyle. Perhaps you are feeling better, more healthy and more in control? I am sort of assuming you are not a dom.

But in indirect ways, Raw Food could have very profound effects on all parts of any person's life. I have noticed literally hundreds of things in my life that have changed - like my hair getting darker!


do you find it a turn off to have relations with a spouse that is not RAW???

I can't believe I am posting this for all the world to read, but yes. My wife went to her friends for a baby shower and ate a lot of fish and roast pork and when she got home she smelled terrible to me! I even asked her to take another bath, but it didn't help! I had to consider just sleeping in the same room - anything more was beyond my thinking at that time...

Expect your senses to become more acute. Enjoy it - that is not a negative, it can be very positive! There are many post here about the sense of smell increasing.

[sport]

Nope not gonna. Cause if it's freaky kinky then that's a good way to get swarmed with ynsolicited popups and other adult content. Which I don;t desire on my family computer.:D

Well this is my computer and mine alone so I can do as I please. I did not open any site but the word bondage did come up a lot in the google list.

You go girl. Life is for living.

[Revvell]

Also I do play in the BDSM realm and have noticed my skin is thinner than it used to be... Is that something anyone else has had happen??

Not sure what that means to you. More bruising during impact play? Less? Cuts easier?




I have a RAW friend who believes that the longer I am RAW the farther away from that type of play I will get... but I find that I am even more drawn to the lifestyle than while I was pre RAW... Not surprising to me. I think you'll find more inner aspects of your being as you play more. It's sort of like when I was teaching taiji. I told one of my students that her art would change as she got deeper into it. I'm thinking same thing here. You'll be more creative, have more fun and more pleasure.




Am I the only one or do RAW Foodies have these issues... and do you find it a turn off to have relations with a spouse that is not RAW???I don't see any issues and my spouse is not raw. Is your spouse your primary play partner? Are you top, bottom or switch?

[ladyfiremedic5]

Yes I am a Switch, but in this case I am speaking of impact play on the bottom side.
Yes my spouse is my primary play partner and I am a very high level player. We have noticed that after going RAW my skin breaks open much more easily and bleeds and that my blood is thinner than it used to be pre RAW.

I do not seem to bruise though... no idea why that is???
This causes major issues when I can't play hard enough to get to sub space.
I end up VERY frustrated as it is my stress release.
We have considered trying to up the mental game to see if that would help balance it out... but my spouse is just not that kind of guy... So that brings us to trying to add another play partner... That could open an entirely different can of worms so to speak... Just the thought of trying to find one we connect with and than add RAW into it and well.... I was not even sure anyone else that was RAW would know what I was talking about. So I am thrilled to know at least a few of us have gone RAW!

I do believe that all things interconnect and that when I changed my diet and got healthy that my need for sex went way up... My spouse has actually gained weight and has less energy and feels terrible most of the time from his diet.
This is making for a very difficult situation.
He would never ask me to go back to eating cooked food and I don't want to press him on the Raw Foods...

I don't want this to sound bad as I love my spouse very much and he takes such pride in my being RAW even though he states he could never do it.
BUT I am trying to keep the "To each his own." thought in mind yet I am getting to the point I hate cooking food for him... or anyone for that matter... I can't stand to feel as if I am contributing to his demise.
l.....................................,It is effecting me on levels I never thought it would... things I used to love to do for him and to him are now a question of wether or not it is ok as a RAW Foodist ... Back to that "You are what you eat!" remark and I can't stand the idea let alone the taste or smell...


I fully understand how sensitive the sense of smell can become. I get turned off so easily and don't physically want to kiss him if he has been eating/drinking animal products of any kind.

I find that I am having a very hard time with all of this and wondered if anyone else out there struggles with this as well??
I do Thank Each of you for your time and response to my questions as it helps me see that I am not alone and I hope to learn from you how you handle these things in your life.

It is so much easier to answer a question about how you manage RAW when out to eat than it is to admit you have no idea how to work a relationship where one person is RAW and one not... So Thank You for your thoughts and advice and your willingness to help another RAW Foodist out.

[Thick]

Fine, deleted my definition.

Perhaps you should tell him that if you are made to bleed, there will be harsh consequences=)> But, perhaps you shouldn't tell him just how averse you are to his carrion breath..haha

[ladyfiremedic5]

Exactly!! So many things have changed and I sometimes wonder if my relationship can withstand the changes...

I like you lost half my body weight and I got rid of several life threatening allergies. I now eat the things I was allergic too. I believe my body was so toxic from my SAD diet that when I would eat the Pineapple and not be able to breathe it was from the pineapple trying to detox my system.

Raw has influenced my life in many ways and I do agree that sexuality and spirituality go hand in hand with being RAW for me at least.

[Thick]

And perhaps you could make him something with Maca in it, to balance your needs.
Or, make him eat lightly for a week in preparation for the weekend.

[Revvell]

Yes I am a Switch, but in this case I am speaking of impact play on the bottom side.

Got it.


Yes my spouse is my primary play partner and I am a very high level player. We have noticed that after going RAW my skin breaks open much more easily and bleeds and that my blood is thinner than it used to be pre RAW.
Well, I know very few raw vegan or even vegans who play. Those I work with are not even close. Some may be vegetarian but no vegan so, I don't have experience with blood getting thinner. That sounds weird to me.

Are you taking any medications at all? What's your primary diet consist of? Are you doing lots of the colorful foods such as oranges, red/yellow bell peppers?




I do not seem to bruise though... no idea why that is???

You've gotten beyond that point. I've found that those who bruise most is when they've not played for awhile and the toxins have built up. After they play, toxins are released and they don't bruise as often or as much.




This causes major issues when I can't play hard enough to get to sub space.

Actually, there are other ways to reach "sub space". It's more about the breathing than the beating. Reichian breathing can take you there. They just call it something different.


... That could open an entirely different can of worms so to speak...

Well, I'm thinking you know the safety of where to go with that.



My spouse has actually gained weight and has less energy and feels terrible most of the time from his diet.

How's he feel about you playing with someone else?



.... now a question of wether or not it is ok as a RAW Foodist ...

You make your own rules about that.



I find that I am having a very hard time with all of this and wondered if anyone else out there struggles with this as well??

There are. There's a whole thread about it.

[Conscious Midwife]

... I do agree that sexuality and spirituality go hand in hand with being RAW for me at least.

Hmmm this statement got me to thinking about something not related to you but realted to what you said.

For a long while I've definately seen sexual interactions as a higher form of spirituality and god consciousness and when consistently raw the flood gates of sensuality open way up for me. So much so that I think that lack of confidence regarding how and the frequency of channeling the energy has made me back away from RAW in the past ( that and 15 other slacker excuses).

[Revvell]

Great awareness.


Hmmm this statement got me to thinking about something not related to you but realted to what you said.

For a long while I've definately seen sexual interactions as a higher form of spirituality and god consciousness and when consistently raw the flood gates of sensuality open way up for me. So much so that I think that lack of confidence regarding how and the frequency of channeling the energy has made me back away from RAW in the past ( that and 15 other slacker excuses).

[ladyfiremedic5]

My primary diet consists of LOTS of RAW Cole Slaw with MAC nut dressing and I drink major amounts of Tangerine, Orange, Red Grapefruit and pineapple juice, Young CoConut and I eat a bunch of RAW GUACAMOLE with scallion,avocado,tomatoes,red or orange bell pepper as well as Jalopeno peppers. I do eat bananas and strawberries,blueberries, and melons on occasion... I also eat RAW SUSHI veggi with nori at least 2 times a week.

[ladyfiremedic5]

I take no meds at all. My spouse is open to another play partner... we just can't find one we like that works for us.

[Revvell]

O.k., what jumps out at me are the jalapeno peppers. They're good for thinning the blood (not necessarily the skin) and to use when someone has a heart attack or stroke because of the capsicum.

That's the best I can give you now.

Yeah, finding an adequate play partner could be as intimate as finding a spouse. Good luck!

[Green_Woman]

Up your greens. I don't see GREENS anywhere on your list...


Actually, there are other ways to reach "sub space". It's more about the breathing than the beating. Reichian breathing can take you there. They just call it something different.

This.

THIS is SO true.

And yes, I've been there... done that... and used to play, myself, so I know where you're coming from. :)

[VeGenesis]

My primary diet consists of LOTS of RAW Cole Slaw

Do you watch your B-12 - that can thin blood too.

[ladyfiremedic5]

Yes I do add a bit of Nutritional Yeast 2 times a week, and I am adding spinach for the nest month to see how that does.

[ladyfiremedic5]

I want to Thank Everyone for all your help. Getting the hot peppers out of my diet and adding more greens has made the bleeding less and the skin breakage much less. :D

Still not sure what to do about being turned off by the non raw spouse... :confused:still struggling with that one... who knows maybe something good will come of it..:)