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Notpinsky
10-31-2009, 03:25 PM
I'm new to the forum, and can't figure out how the "Raw Challenge" works. I was hoping it was an online goal tracking and support group. I was planning to keep a journal of my diet and exercise. Is there a place here for that? Or is it part of personal blog?

about me:
I did a month long raw food stint over a year ago, lost 20 pounds, and felt wonderful (after the first week of psychosis and cravings) empowered. Then I slipped off in a drastic way, gained it all back plus 20 pounds, taking me up to 269 pounds on my 49 year old (in 2 days) sedentary 5'2" bod.

My introduction to raw foods was my mom, who had Ann Wigmore's book "Why Suffer" back in the 1960's. My mom said that raw diet was the only thing that ever worked for her "uncontrollable diabetes" but she didn't have the will-power or energy to do it, what with family pressures and being totally disabled and dependent on family or Welfare (government aid) for all food. She died of kidney failure/ complications of diabetes when I was 12.

I just found out about Epigenetics, genes "turning on" or off, based on exposure to chemicals like Bpa. My mom grew up on a farm where they did aerial spraying with pesticides and herbicides multi-times a year. She developed diabetes only 6 months before getting pregnant with me. I wonder if that is related to why I am fat when my older brother and sister aren't? Interesting thing-- the only other person I've met who had "uncontrollable diabetes" was a Vietnam Vet who was exposed to Agent Orange (dioxin--also commonly used on farms). Reading about Carlene Jones and her liver flushing when she was starting her Raw Journey made me think that I need to do that too. I wish my mom had done that. All americans have Bpa exposure, I'm sure eating raw and not canned food (epoxy is about 50% Bpa and used to line most cans) will help reduce the systemic load of toxins. Well, if organic raw then I'm sure....

I must be in total denial, because usually I don't think of myself as fat, I have "reverse anorexia" or something. In my bathroom mirror I see myself as not terribly fat, just me. BUT--In public I am in shock if I see myself in a mirror or reflection in window. I don't even recognize myself. Same with photos. shock and horror. (happy halloween today....) Or if I sit in a "normal" chair, the kind with arms, or one of those little desks at school with the flip up/down writing thingee in front. oiy! So, occasionally it hits home, but then more denial, I buy clothes online to avoid THOSE mirrors.... or usually at the thrift store because I can't justify spending money on clothes when I will surely lose weight soon and not need "fat 28wp plus size-wth!" clothes. Right....

Truth: I am really morbidly obese and it is wrecking my life, and especially my social life--for my whole life since I was 12 and my sister let me know I was fat (at 125 pounds) and not good enough--now I'm 49 and still not good enough! Actually, I stayed around 130/135 until my first pregnancy, it has been all uphill gain since then. Every time I go on a diet I gain more back. Every time I go on the pill I gain another 20 pounds. Praying for menopause but just found out about the bone loss that accompanies it! shocking and scary.

I want to be healthy and fit and be able to do things like be socially acceptable and have friends, and sail and go hiking and fishing. I want to be happy. I've never done these things in my life and now I feel old and too disabled to do them.

As a full-time homemaker and mom (kids grown) now going to community college for the first time (for what I don't know yet! I feel like I'm such a social pariah that it isn't going to get me anywhere) I am made VERY aware of the stigma of being fat and old. I've been nearly a total "shut-in" before this College experience. Too fat to go out. Too depressed to do anything about it. So now I am going out into public. Emotionally, it is really hard, and until this quarter (Calculus 2) I was doing really well academically but menopause or something (gaining 10 more pounds?) has sent me over the edge. Everywhere I see condescending looks and I don't feel like I have friends even after going to this school for 2 years, probably because of my low-self-esteem and thinking no one wants to be friends with me because of my weight. I feel so lonely and desperate and am willing to do a 30 day raw diet while I try to pull myself together into having a healthy lifestyle plan.

Moderation does not work for me, I can't contemplate "eating less and losing weight eventually" plan. It doesn't work. I binge.
I need to do something drastic and get real results quickly. Sorry about the depressing whinge. That is where I'm at. I don't want to be in that head-space anymore. I want to live and be free!

I'm going to the library today to look for Alissa's book, until I can afford it.

RawHealthyBeauty
10-31-2009, 04:01 PM
The 30 day challenge on here is to track how well you are doing on raw food and about the positive results from it.
There are people on here who have gotten really good results and feel younger than their age.
Lots of before and after stories on here also that is truly inspirational!
I find that for those who starts eating raw and is living on raw feel a whole lot better about themselves physically.
Allissa's book and DVD are definitely worth the investment that'll last a lifetime! :)

snoops
10-31-2009, 04:14 PM
-for my whole life since I was 12 and my sister let me know I was fat (at 125 pounds) and not good enough--now I'm 49 and still not good enough!

You might want to try one of Revvell's classes. You sound just like me and the other ladies in the teleclass!! We're struggling with "not good enough" either!! She is a regular poster and if I was the least computer literate I would post a link but you can find her in the blog section or the appreciations thread and her posts have links to her classes and the info that goes with them. Its using EFT - emotional freedom technique, which you can also read about online. Its tapping on meridian points on your body and using affirmations and sentence completions. The group energy is excellent.

I'm going to go away now and try to give you some links.

Welcome to the forum by the way. Lots of good information and wisdom here.

snoops
10-31-2009, 04:19 PM
http://www.rawfoodtalk.com/blog.php?b=16248

http://www.bodaciousliving.com/classes-and-coaching/idealweight

http://www.emofree.com/

There's some good reading for you.

I should add that those of us in the class realize its not the food...its the past emotions that are keeping us from expressing our optimal health.

katchmoleen
10-31-2009, 06:14 PM
Welcome to the forum! I know you will find the answers you are looking for in raw food.

spicyfull
11-01-2009, 02:10 AM
I wish you everything you need to Stay RAW............Welcome to MY World.

revdrcyn
11-01-2009, 10:10 AM
Hi Notpinsky, welcome to RFT.

There is so much support to be found here, so stick with us as you embark on your journey. I enjoy the accountability of the 30-day challenge. A new one just began today!

By the way, you can have pie in the sky dreams, as long as the pie is raw :)

So glad you are here!

Notpinsky
11-03-2009, 03:37 AM
Thank you for the kind welcomes and links! I'm on day 2. Actually still drinking coffee, although cut back to 2 cups, and had a couple tablespoons milk in it, otherwise all raw. Definitely eating too much seeds and nuts especially today. I don't want to exchange binging for binging raw, but also think I'll probably go through some withdrawal/food sensitivities this first week, so I'm doing "whatever" to get through it. I got my quiz back in math and can breath again. whew! I will check out the links tomorrow I hope, and find out where to post.

I do need to read motivational rawfood because I'm feeling deprived. Drinking a lot of water when that happens, but something like flax crackers sounds heavenly. I'm just too busy to deal with cooking.

katchmoleen
11-03-2009, 09:27 AM
Please don't worry about eating too much of anything right now....or ever for that matter. Once you are raw for awhile you will learn to trust your body and it will tell you what you need, I promise. For now, as you say, just eat whatever sounds good and whatever will keep you raw.

Raw food is not about guilt and numbers and plans and restrictions. It is about freedom!

Moretta
11-03-2009, 12:48 PM
Welcome and good luck on your RAWNESS journey.

Notpinsky
11-04-2009, 01:05 AM
Trusting my body.... interesting notion, because it seems like "the enemy." I would like to feel at home in my body. Someday!

I am counseling myself to be patient and kind to myself. Patience!

Day 3 raw... Must remember to drink heavily (water that is. ;)

I ordered clothes from Woman Within (plus size) and they came. Nothing looks good on me, and I'm returning them even if they were only $5.88 an item. I am not investing in being fat and miserable about it. I have lots of clothes packed away that are too small for me, all the way down to my "fat" size 14 jeans from pre-pregnancy. Maybe next month I will have "new" things to wear.

Thank you all so much for the hand holding and inspiration. I feel like I am leaning on the kindness of strangers, which has always worked well for me in the past actually, and I try to pass it on. But I do appreciate the moral support. Hope to explore the website more this weekend.

Katchmo, Congrats on your perserverance! What does the stats. HgA1c 5.7 mean?

Veganforlife
11-04-2009, 05:32 AM
Welcome! You can't NOT afford to get Alissa's book and DVDs. It is the best out there.
You soooo can do this!

Ilse W.
11-04-2009, 10:09 AM
Welcome to this place! Where in the Seattle area are you? I would let you borrow my copy of Alissa's book, but I'm currently in Germany and won't get home for a couple more weeks. I have other great books as well including some Ann Wigmore books etc. Maybe you live out my way? I'm in Sequim. Hang in there with raw, it's worth it in the long run. Even without the weight loss it would be worth it for how good it makes you feel. Have you tried green smoothies yet? Sooooo worth the effort!

magglepie
11-04-2009, 10:16 AM
Welcome to the forum! You said you are worried about eating too much, but if you are eating all raw, please don't worry! If you are hungry, eat. Make it something like a really big raw salad with lots of great veggies in it, or a really big green smoothie or something. And if there is anyway that sometime in the near future you can get Alissa's book, do it! It is such a great investment.

Frugal Raw
11-14-2009, 07:07 AM
Welcome!! I wish you the best of rawesome health!!!