Attention Couples and Daters! [Archive]

joya

10-13-2009, 10:19 PM

I've recently got back into a more raw lifestyle, and would love to be 95-100% raw soon. My fiance though doesn't seem too thrilled about it, and I'm pretty sure he's hoping it's a passing phase. He really likes going out to eat, and he is very much into wine.

When we first started dating, the first time I came to visit him where he was living (we were long distance) I was practicing a raw food diet. I had been eating 100% raw for approx 35 days or so. He was very accommodating, but it was very limiting what we could do together as far as dining. He was excited to share his favorite restaurants with me and share some bottle of good wine. I did manage to stay raw for 4 days. On the last day we went to a wedding and I completely fell off the wagon (chicken, wine, bread, etc.) ... and from there on out, even when I was back in my state, I ceased to eat as a raw foodist.

We've lived together now for a year, and during that time I've vacillated between vegan to meat-eating, and always shared bottle of wine with him.

I've been on back on a more healthy track now for over a month, and heading more into raw as much as possible. He is rather disgruntled, and I know it will put some stress on us, or at least limit our usual "fun" activities. Sucks, but it is true. I understand where he is coming from. He IS very supportive overall though.

This will definitely be an adjustment.

Thick

10-13-2009, 10:29 PM

My husband will probably never eat raw food, and does want to go out to eat a lot.

But, he sees how much happier and healthier I am when I am raw. He doesn't squawk at the raw food bills--but does try to sabotage me. The more he sees me not give in to whatever it is he is dangling before me, the more he lays off.

Now his big line is "I want you to eat whatever makes you happy".... He sees me happy, not feeling deprived, not crying on the bathroom floor, continuing to cook him all of the stuff he likes--and he sees I'm much happier when I'm raw -overall-...but...

In the same vein, he is not the person I should talk to when I'm feeling deprived or wanting ______ because of the same aforementioned reasons. Don't go unarmed into his (your) favorite greasy spoon restaurant and moan and whine about how you wish you could have _____. Work it out ahead of time with yourself. Make an excellent dessert to have after you get home, bring some avacado or dressing to dress up your restaurant salads and enjoy the fact that you dont have to clean up after that meal!=)>

When someone of even implied authority gives you *permission* to do something, it's hard to be dominant and not give in. The longer you are raw, the more dominant you become with yourself, the more in charge of yourself, the less confused and wavery. (thank you RK)

It's important to enjoy, really love, your food. They see that, and your improved energy, libido, attitude and happiness.

RawSar

10-14-2009, 12:52 AM

I was searching for a man who was into health.
I found my boyfriend who was already a raw vegan. I thought raw vegan was kinda extreme. I tried it and loved it and we both eat the same now. Its awesome. Food is such a big deal to so many people. I'm glad that my boyfriend and I are on the same page when it comes to health, food, life..

ViolinCyndee

10-14-2009, 01:24 AM

When someone of even implied authority gives you *permission* to do something, it's hard to be dominant and not give in. The longer you are raw, the more dominant you become with yourself, the more in charge of yourself, the less confused and wavery. (thank you RK)

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I find myself in this situation often with my husband. We go out to eat Mexican or Indian food every week! I can't say 'no' and he tells me that it's 'no big deal' to have some cooked food every week! But I try to stay as raw as possible on all of the other days.. I have to admit to falling off a little more than usual this week, however, but plan on getting some more fruits/veggies tomorrow.. (my pants have definitely gotten tighter the past few days!) :mad::(

Revvell

10-14-2009, 02:39 AM

Mexican is easy ~ guacamole, salsa ~ bring your own "chips". Also, the topping for tacos ~ chopped lettuce. Can often get a raw salad as well.

Indian? A bit tougher. Most Indian restaurants cook and overcook. I don't think I've ever seen anything raw at an Indian restaurant.

So, is it "no big deal" for your husband to have a raw meal every week? ;)

I find myself in this situation often with my husband. We go out to eat Mexican or Indian food every week!

Sawan

10-14-2009, 04:29 PM

I can't imagine not having the same diet as my partner. When I decided that we should try raw, he was extremely open to the idea. Especially since it meant that we would both be on a healthier path, which is what we both really wanted and needed. We are not 100% raw, I don't know that we will ever get there, but we eat raw 80-90% of the time. We've both lost an extreme amount of weight in a relatively short period of time. (I've been losing between 8-12lbs per month for about 6 months).

Katie P

10-14-2009, 06:23 PM

My man's like Revvell's! He actually thinks it's really easy to go out together b/c pretty much wherever we go he knows I'll just get a salad :) He's supportive & loving & knows how important my health is to me.

joya

10-14-2009, 07:11 PM

Today my man made a comment about how now I'll be a cheap date. I thought that was funny. But then he said something about "losing his playmate".... and that wasn't funny.

:(

RawKnitster

10-15-2009, 12:02 AM

Over the last year my cooking for the family has decreased gradually and they have stepped up and started fending for themselves. It happened naturally without any of us making anything of it.

I keep the kitchen stocked with things they know how to cook, and sometimes I give them cooking lessons on doing new things. I still cook something special for them once or twice a week, and sometimes they get take-out. Eating out isn't an issue. We never did go out to eat that much anyway.

My husband is happy and proud about what I am doing for myself by eating raw.

VeGenesis

10-15-2009, 02:51 AM

My friend made a deal with her husband, he would help her and anytime she ended up eating cooked food, the very next night they would both enjoy a dinner of raw food. He did help her avoid his cooked food, but on the raw nights he discovered he liked eating raw. Now they are both raw!

For me it was easier. My health had me in bed. My Honeybun fixed my food, then ate downstairs with the boys. But she sampled my food and liked it. Now we go out to eat and she buys the same as me! Raw Food fixed her Honeybun and My Honeybun is over 95+% raw too!

Cheap tip! Supermarkets here sell fresh salad makings and will cut up fruit for quick meals. We buy these and take them to the food courts in the same malls, same day. It cost the same as eating at home, and we have a nice mall date!

RawHealthyBeauty

10-18-2009, 08:24 PM

I'm hoping that I'll meet a guy who is open-minded to to eating raw food and such. If I do, then that would be really awesome!! If I don't, then that's why I posted this question..... :rolleyes:

VeGenesis

10-18-2009, 09:07 PM

I'm hoping that I'll meet a guy who is open-minded to to eating raw food and such. If I do, then that would be really awesome!! If I don't, then that's why I posted this question..... :rolleyes:

If you have not met the right guy yet, you may want to make that a requirement!

My wife and I talked it over and we both feel that, God forbid anything would happen, but if we needed to look for a new mate, we would choose not to accept someone that was not attempting to live a raw food lifestyle - it is that important to us.

Most people on raw food find that the connection it gives them to life is far more important than just eating raw. There is a spiritual side for most, in eating what we are designed to eat.

Most of us who have a spouse and family who are into the Living Lifestyle have a connection that is hard to describe to people who do not have it.

Picture my wife thanking the Kalamungay tree for giving us the life within its leaves. I am told its 18 amino acids are even better than wheat grass! If I ate meat or even if I were cooked vegan, I doubt I could understand or appreciate this quality in her. I actually love her more because she talks to our food. Yet, even in the Bible the Lord of the gospel cursed the fig tree that was worthless for food.

Our lives are full of life and personally I would not want to accept someone into my life that was full of death.

Just to be sure, I mean no offense to those who have a spouse or children who are not raw or who are meat eaters. I am sure each of you would rather they ate raw with you because you love them. This reply is about someone still looking and about priorities of life which are important to peace and inner joy. One of my greatest joys of this year was when my wife and I dismantled our stove together - we no longer had any reason to keep it.

Suggestion, go to an open air produce market and look for a guy taking a bite out of a tomato. Ask him if he likes raw food. Who knows what might happen! If you do, let us know how it turns out!

RawHealthyBeauty

10-18-2009, 10:26 PM

Thank you! I will keep that in mind when I'm searching.

laura-jane

10-29-2009, 05:29 PM

I think it would be extremely difficult to be with a partner who was not supportive of the raw lifestyle, especially if the couple had traditional gender roles where the woman cooked for the man.

My husband and I both work from home and we're around each other all day, but we pretty much prepare our own food. He eats about 80% raw voluntarily (and he's a vegetarian), and I am 100% raw. We eat similar items, but we prepare them differently. For example, I love salads and almost always have salads for lunch. But he prepares similar vegetables, but eats them in a SAD wrap/tortilla shell and will sometimes top the wrap with tofu, falafel, etc.

He loves all the raw food that I prepare and he'd love to be 100% raw IF I COOKED EVERYTHING FOR HIM! But, because I don't make food for both of us consistently, he supplements with some SAD food.

We are quite compatible when it comes to food. He's been a vegetarian for over fifteen years, and he converted me in about 2000.

revdrcyn

10-30-2009, 09:00 PM

Hi whoa-raw - I am pasting part of the text from an earlier post a while back. As bad as it sounds, I still have hope for my dh!

Here goes:

. . . My husband has the WORST eating habits of any human being I have ever known. He is the saddest of the SAD.

Fortunately, I do not cook for him, and he does not expect me to. We have only been married a year and a half, and he is 21 years older. But I have know him for many years, so he knew I was a "health nut" and that we were opposites in that way.

He prefers canned vegetables, which makes life easy for me as far as grocery shopping for him. I insist we eat at home at least 5 nights a week, and I make him eat a salad at every meal (although he drowns it in ranch dressing.)

He cooks a piece of dead animal on his George Foreman and microwaves a can of something. I feast on fabulous raw foods and he looks at me like I'm insane.

I dread going to restaurants with him, but when I do go, I take my own salad dressing and a stash of seeds or nuts - sometimes even a flax cracker if I have it.

The hardest part is watching him deteriorate physically. He has diabetes, osteoporosis, acquired hemophilia, emphysema, and has gone from overweight to obese.

In a perfect world, he would go raw and allow his body to heal itself.

. . . sorry to go on so long. I just want to make the point that you MUST put your own wellbeing FIRST. I struggle with this every day, but at the end of each day, it is thrilling to know I have taken such good care of myself.

RawHealthyBeauty

10-31-2009, 10:04 AM

Hi Revdrcyn,
I feel for you and your hubby.
Maybe your hubby might be more of a transitional type to go raw.
Like slowly adding healthy food to his dishes and maybe explaining to him why enzymes from fruits, veggies, and etc. is important for him, his body, and how it is a really good step in the right direction toward healing.
There are tons of substitutes like for ranch dressing and etc.
Or challenge him to a green smoothie daily for a week and see how he feels afterward! :)
Make a deal with him that he has to have a raw meal once a week to help him open up his mind to see that raw food is tasty and good.
I wish you all the best with him! From being a strong woman that you are, it is possible that maybe later on down the road that his mind will open up after seeing what raw food has done for you and for your well being.
I do hope that one of these days, he'll wake up and smell the wonders of raw food!

I was a transitional type to go raw, there was no way that I could have done it 100% raw from day one. That's how I did it and I'm now 100% raw! :)

So I guess if I fell in love with someone who isn't raw, that I'll be driving him bananas about raw food till he caves in! :p

Your well being, my well being, and everybody's well being is important.

It's a choice to be raw. I think that by keeping it simple, fun. easy, and making delicious dishes is a way to go!

Keep Rawk'nn girl!!!

revdrcyn

10-31-2009, 01:22 PM

There may be hope for my dh!

I am juice feasting this week, and every time I make a juice recipe, he drinks a small glass -- I'm gonna get some enzymes in him one way or another :p

Katie P

10-31-2009, 01:29 PM

My boyfriend actually eats more raw when we're together (he lives out of state). He will eat anything you put in front of him which is a good thing b/c he's open to trying whatever I prepare. Lets just say he eats alot more fruit when we're with each other & he likes that. He isn't opposed to eating raw food but not all the time, he likes his meat & cooked foods. I love him for the way he is & he loves me for the way I am. We've been together for 4 months so if eating raw vs. not eating raw was a real problem we wouldn't be together! We just accept & love :)

rawffle

11-23-2009, 05:13 PM

I can say without hesitation, that if I were ever in a new relationship, he'd have to be a raw foodie or pretty close to it. For me, it's difficult to keep it going when the other person is eating other things. The temptation is too great. My health is bothering me so it has become a big priority for me.

VeGenesis

11-23-2009, 09:36 PM

I can say without hesitation, that if I were ever in a new relationship, he'd have to be a raw foodie or pretty close to it.

Amen! But God forbid anything would happen to my Honeybun. She makes the best green mango smoothie!

RawHealthyBeauty

11-23-2009, 11:30 PM

Yeah, I think someone should invent a dating site for raw fooders. That would be sweet, sweet, sweet, and so sweet!!! :)

rawffle

11-24-2009, 07:59 PM

There is one! It's kind of like myspace (you can just be friends with people, too). Last I was there, though, it was still so new that not much chattin' was happening yet.

http://www.rawfoodfriends.com/ (http://www.rawfoodfriends.com/)

rawffle

11-24-2009, 08:00 PM

Amen! But God forbid anything would happen to my Honeybun. She makes the best green mango smoothie!

Mmmmm! Mango is my favorite!!

xPIXIEx

11-24-2009, 08:15 PM

My husband eats raw right along with me. It's something we've been trying off and on for about 8 months. We're on our 3rd day of 100%. He's always so supportive. If he wasn't, I don't know if I'd be able to do it. I'm pretty weak. :/

If I was out in the dating world, I don't know if diet would be a factor or not. It's hard to say. I think I would at least like to date someone who is a vegetarian.

RawHealthyBeauty

11-24-2009, 10:30 PM

Oh Rawffle, you're the best! Thanks!!!

RawHealthyBeauty

11-24-2009, 10:47 PM

There's a lot of varieties here so far, as being a raw foodie whether the spouse is raw, partial raw, or not raw at all.
It's really been a learning experience to see this from all different angles.
Thank you all for sharing!!! :)

:cool:Attention Couples and Daters: any more stories you would like to share... :)

RawHealthyBeauty

11-24-2009, 11:13 PM

Yo xPIXIEx, you're lucky to be with someone who is interested in raw food. :)
Especially being supportive too, that's a big plus! Oh girl, go on strong for raw with your man!!! Yeah, that's a way to go!!! :)

xPIXIEx

11-25-2009, 08:36 AM

Thanks whoa-raw. :) I'm trying to hang in there!

lovenlife

11-25-2009, 09:22 AM

I feel for those who have a person with them who doesnt eat raw. That must be a challenge. If I were around cooked food all the time or had to fix it, I am not sure I woud do as well as I do now.

xPIXIEx

11-25-2009, 09:33 AM

^Exactly! It's hard enough cooking food here and there for my children, who are not 100%. It's such a difficult task! If I had to do it more often, I would cave more so than I do now.

Green_Woman

11-25-2009, 01:43 PM

My fiance went RAW with me nearly two years ago when we first started dating. He lost over 30 lbs in the first couple months, and ever since then his energy level has been in overdrive and stayed there - even when he's under extreme stress!

He's not 100% right now but as soon as we're able to live together again (we spend about half the year living in entirely different States :( due to Work/School commitments) he tells me he'd like to go 100% with me!

He is the #1 Most Supportive Man in my life. I wouldn't be here without him. I wouldn't be RAW today without him.

I am thankful everyday for this amazing Man...

...and if he were not RAW, he would STILL be my Hero. :D It's just him!!!

RawHealthyBeauty

11-25-2009, 04:48 PM

That's awesome!! I'm glad to hear that he wants to be 100% raw!! :D

lunabear

11-29-2009, 06:24 PM

Some of you people have amazing patience, and I mean that in the best way possible. Call me intolerant, but if my partner in life didn't just understand but also RESPECT my deeply rooted desire to eat only raw foods, then I'm not sure if that relationship would be possible. If he tried to jeopardize my efforts (as in, making fun of me or trying to "trick" me into eating cooked foods) I'm pretty sure I would end it. Values are important, and believe it or not raw food is a value I hold close to my heart.

That might sound extreme, I know. Still, I've always maintained that food is like religion. You don't need to necessarily be with someone of the same religion - although it helps (and I'm pretty sure that studies have shown couples of he same religion stay together longer. I'm just saying that I would find it difficult to stay with someone any less than supportive. It's not just about love though, love is complicated and makes many exceptions, but to stay with someone hostile towards raw foods would make living together nearly impossible.

Just to fill you in, my husband does not eat raw (he likes salads and fruit, but he's also a big fan of the veggie burger and hot soup, and of course his beers). What is important is that he understands how much eating raw means to me, and he respects what I do. If he does nothing more than support me verbally and occasionally buy me some produce, then that is enough. I'm hoping that as I become more skilled with raw foods I can get him to join the bandwagon too. :)

I don't think you can convert anyone though. People have to convert themselves.

RawHealthyBeauty

11-29-2009, 09:25 PM

Raw food is important and so is LOVE.

Your husband is not raw and it sounds like he is supportive of you eating raw. Since he's supportive of you eating raw, he may eventually start eating more raw at some point. So it does sound like it is workable between the two of you. Yeah, raw gourmet dishes are R-awesome!! That's really good you're with someone who is supportive of your strong desire to stay raw. :)
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And one of the famous quote that I love, "Be the change that you want to see in the world".

ladyfiremedic5

12-05-2009, 09:10 PM

My DH is a total unhealthy carnivore... I do cook for him but it makes me feel as if I am poising him, every time I cook for him when I know how bad cooked food is for him...
He is very supportive of my RAW Lifestyle and is always bragging about my 126 lbs weight loss to others... yet he can't make the change for himself... I worry he will have a heart attack and I will feel responsible for not working harder to change his habits... but he has to want to change... and he does not want to at this point. Jodi

RawHealthyBeauty

12-06-2009, 03:18 PM

Hmm, here's an idea. How about the un-raw spouse has to get and make his/her own un-raw food? Has anyone done this? And be more than happy to fix them up something raw for them when they get too lazy to get or make their own un-raw food? :D

And you're right, each person has to make the choice to want to change for the better self.

So, maybe have him try green smoothies once a day to see how he feels in a week. A lot of people say they feel a huge improvement in their energy level after one week and actually craves them! So it's better than nothing. Maybe for him, it's better to gradually eat more and more healthy as time goes by.

This is how I became raw far as gradually eating healthier and healthier! :)

VeGenesis

12-06-2009, 04:33 PM

He is the #1 Most Supportive Man in my life. I wouldn't be here without him. I wouldn't be RAW today without him.

I am thankful everyday for this amazing Man...

...and if he were not RAW, he would STILL be my Hero. :D It's just him!!!

Very well said Green! My Honeybun and I feel so much the same. From time to time she will eat something cooked with her sisters... It doesn't change how we feel. Likewise I could not claim to be 100% raw every day. I have malabsorption diseases that force me to either take supplements or suffer from being deficient. Since some of the supplements are not fully raw, perhaps I am only 99.999% Raw in actual fact.

When we are rushed to the hospital, near death, most will evaluate the meds on the bases of risk/benefit (or trust of your doctor - which I do not recommend!). When we think of medicines I doubt if any of us actually refuse them based ONLY on the fact that they aren't raw!

We talk about effectively raw. That is, Raw is about improving your life, getting what your body needs. Some bodies here just cannot get everything they need from any kind of food. Perhaps if someone would have reached my mom, and if I was raised on raw vegan food, and if I have no damage to my digestive tract... But those are not the facts.

The facts are my body was destroyed by diseases that started at the moment of conception for me! (Celiac Disease is in your genes!)

The facts are that my wonderful Honeybun came into my life and we faced the facts, often the terrible facts that we only had one choice besides death. One of those was going raw and it changed everything!

But if my Honeybun was not so supportive in eating raw, I doubt I would eat raw. And if I did not eat raw, I am 100% sure that today I would not be alive.

I guess what I am trying to say is that my Honeybun is so smart, so loving and so supporting of me! Funny thing is that she tells people she feels that way about me! :) Nice Huh?

VeGenesis

12-06-2009, 05:41 PM

Values are important, and believe it or not raw food is a value I hold close to my heart.

That might sound extreme, I know. Still, I've always maintained that food is like religion. You don't need to necessarily be with someone of the same religion - although it helps

lunabear - funny you should say this... It doesn't sound extreme to me!

My Honeybun and I do not really have a organized religion. Not that we do not have Faith or belief. We have friends who call themselves Muslim, Hindu, Jewish. Buddhist and various flavors of Christian! (and a few others that slip my mind!).

We take most of our belief from the Original Bible (those ancient scrolls in Hebrew and Greek, not the ones translated into a different language mostly by religions!) But we accept that ALL Ancient Books have some wisdom in them about food, relationships and many other topics. Almost all Ancient Books speak of a vegan life at some point - some show the evils of cooking, it is hard to find a core ancient book that does not warn of eating pigs! I can think of none that say you should eat pork daily!

When I invited friends over for dinner (pre-raw) they would some times ask about pork, kosher or halal. Amazingly, post-raw, no one asks anymore. All the food we eat is acceptable to all our friend's religions!

Of all religions my Jewish friends say my home is Kosher and my Muslim friends say it is Halal! Pretty amazing considering that we just eat Raw Vegan Food!

In case anyone didn't get it, this post is NOT about religion, it is about Raw Food! For my Honeybun and I - RAW FOOD is more important that any organized religion on the planet! Does that mean "RAW FOOD" is our religion? :D Is Alissa my Imam, Priest, Pastor or Rabbi? (Note that Pastor in New Testament Greek is the same word as "Shepherd", and Rabbi actually is the Hebrew word "Teacher!"). Of course this is a bit tongue in cheek and just for fun!

I am not promoting any religion here, nor do I wish to debate the eating principles of them. I certainly respect any beliefs a person has for their own life. I just wanted to simply point out that my friends, of many different religions, all accept that the Raw Food I eat is acceptable to their religion!

I am also so glad that I am walking my Raw Food path with my Honeybun whom values this way to eat as much as I.

VeGenesis

12-06-2009, 06:14 PM

My DH is a total unhealthy carnivore... I do cook for him but it makes me feel as if I am poising him, every time I cook for him when I know how bad cooked food is for him...
Jodi

Hey Jodi, ever consider letting your husband know how you feel? We actually say anything cooked IS poison around here. So I get what you mean.

I am not saying that you should suggest he should change or anything like that. I am suggesting that you should tell your DH how badly it makes you feel - because you feel like you are poisoning the very man you promised to love and care for as long as you both shall live!

For almost two years I have pretty much ignored a nagging pain about where my appendix is. If you are a fire medic, I was previously an EMT, so you know where that is! Test all have proved negative so I basically chalked it up to aging. Three days ago my Honeybun told me she was having a pain near her hip. A few questions later and I realized she was feeling the same as me! (Now this is a confession about NOT hearing my body talk!) Well, at that point it was about my Honeybun's feelings - I love her more than life itself! I went into action and right now I am waiting for the Health Food Store to open. I am 99% certain that we are both suffering from lack of B-12. Advice from Jack at Vegan Health will prove this with a simple supplement for a couple weeks. Then we can figure our next step.

Please note that it was because of what my Honeybun was feeling that spurred me into action - after ignoring the problem for two years!

Your DH may want to change things if he knows that you hurt by cooking what you believe is poisoning him.

I have read that other DH's have decided to cook for themselves and therefore support their wives FEELINGS! Others who realized that it did hurt, have woke up and smelled the green smoothie!

I caution you and all readers, DO NOT try to change him! Just let him know how you feel about your actions that effect his life and ask him for his help to find an agreeable solution. Remember the topic is how you feel.

Being a guy, I can tell you that all guys who love their wives want to he her hero. Guys LOVE it when their lady asks, "Will you help me with my big problem?" Or "Would you mind if I asked you how I can stop feeling so bad about something I am doing?" My wife tells her friends that Will? and Would? are magic husband questions and to avoid questions starting with Can and Could! You might just give it a try. Remember to focus on what you feel - you are NOT trying to change him - you love him just the way he is!

MrsJohnnyG

12-06-2009, 08:56 PM

My hubby is definitely coming around -- amazingly!

It's interesting, he was a vegan throughout most of his 20's (we didn't meet until we were almost 30), but it was the WORST kind of "vegan"... he thought he was stuck eating beans and [white] rice *shudder* and boring little salads.

Needless to say, he couldn't put on weight... he is 6'4" and weighed 135 lbs. He looked like he was dying!

About a year before I met him, he decided that veganism is for the bunnies and he started eating animal products again... got to a very healthy weight... and thus became convinced that humans have to be omnivores.

Fast forward to a couple of years ago when I first started my raw experiment. He was against it at first, remembering his own experience and concerned that I would become unhealthy.

Of course, raw veganism the RIGHT way is so healthful... so he's gradually become more interested in eating this way.

One thing that's helped has been reading books and watching documentaries about how compromised our food supply is (thanks to global mega-corporations like Monsanto). It was very eye-opening to him just how awful non-organic food has become. So he's definitely back on the organic vegetarianism train (but he still does consume animal products -- albeit, of the humanely raised, free-range, antibiotic-free, organic variety).

I can't imagine him ever being 100% raw. But that's okay. He is 100% accepting of MY eating raw, and he's absolutely encouraging and supportive in any way... so I'm happy. :)

RawHealthyBeauty

12-07-2009, 08:26 AM

VeGenesis You really are a lucky guy to have such a supportive wife and please do tell her that I said "Thank You!!" for supporting you for eating raw. I'm really glad you have discovered raw food to turn your life around. :)

MrsJohnnyG Nice to meet you!! :) I'm glad to hear that your hubby is very supportive of you eating raw and backs you up 100%. It's nice that he's coming around to eating more healthier as time goes on. I applaud anyone who makes smarter and healthier eating choices even if they're not 100% raw. It's better to eat veggies and fruits than none at all!! :D

goldielocs

12-22-2010, 10:43 PM

I know this is an old thread but...

Both my DH and I are vegans, but I know he only eats raw when we eat together. At this point in our lives I'm fine with that because he recently transitioned from vegetarian (dairy & eggs.) It took me 9 years to get to this point so I understand his experience. I think the movie "Earthlings" did it for him.

He will eat whatever I prepare if it tastes good and laugh when it doesn't taste good- lol.

He's my baby. I love him:)

blizzardfrisbee

12-23-2010, 06:37 PM

My hubby isn't raw! He is supportive. He eats his food and I eat my food. I'll cook for him but many times he just cooks for himself. He will eat some of the things that I make.

RawHealthyBeauty

12-29-2010, 09:32 AM

goldieloc Aww, he's your baby!! :D Truly truly awesome he's supportive of you!! And how he's open minded to eat some of the things you make! Very cool, maybe raw food will grow on him over time. :)

I'm gonna have to check out Earthling.

blizzardfrisbree Cool, that he is supportive which I think makes it much more easy to be around someone who eats un-raw for the most part. I dated a guy for awhile and he was supportive of me eating raw, but I could tell that he thought I was a different specie from another planet for wanting to eat raw food!! :D

climbing

01-19-2011, 01:31 PM

My partner pretty much lives on potatoes, meat, whey protein... he is a bodybuilder and eats probably 3,000 calories a day. He doesn't believe it possible to do the sort of bodybuilding he does on raw or vegan diets. I don't really know if it is or not. I do wish his bodybuilding was less a focus as I think he looks great as he is and I'm not really attracted to giant muscles, but it is really important to him, the focus of his life really. I have to respect that.

As far as our eating, I do make him dinner every night, so he gets at least one good meal a day. He likes raw juices, smoothies, salads, etc but pretty much refuses to make them for himself. He is very limited in his view of food. He eats for calories, protein, and doesn't think about things like nutrients or alkalinizing the system.. it's all about what helps him lift those weights but I'm trying HARD to get him to see the BIG picture. He has breathing problems and a lot of inflammation in his body and I know it's because of the acidity and toxicity of his diet. All that whey, milk and cheese... ugh.

We've had a lot of arguments about this and I know that nagging or being mean to him won't work. I just get so frustrated but I'm glad he is at least open to healthy living foods I feed him. He's made progress. He eats all whole foods now at least, nothing processed... a year ago he was living off microwave tater tots and corn dogs... so he's come a long way.

I know you can't force someone down this path, but he tells me all the time the way I eat and take care of myself is an inspiration to him and he looks up to me. I guess he just has to make changes at his own pace...