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[margoss]

It saddens me to try to help others with a little info that may help them when they talk about all these 'dis-eases' they have only to be told that 'it's too hard, I'd rather take my meds, I can't do that'. I'm not talking about going raw just eliminating some things & adding others. I met a lady today who has Chronic Fatigue. She had a 2 litre bottle of diet coke she carried with her to drink. I discussed the sugar substitute in the dc. 'Can't live without it'. Discussed making her own Almond Milk..too messy, adding greens to her frozen fruit smoothies..doesn't use fresh bc it takes too long to prepare. The greens won't taste good. It's just too difficult to give up fast food, etc. She asked me what I did about fast food. I said I drive by real fast::D. She's 6yr younger than me & thought I was younger than her.
I was talking to a girl recently who has liver issues that really effect her digestive tract & entire body. Not interested in anything I tried to share yet mad at medical field bc they can't help her & what she has is irriversable.
Not venting, just saying how sad it is when someone talks about issues but will not attempt to try healthy things that are not pills or spend their time complaining. If I talk to others about this, they don't understand the sadness & say it's their business. They're correct but I guess when you know some improvement may come..you just want to help. I'm a giver, want to make everyone better person..'I know I can help just a little if you let me'. I feel better.

[Aleesha Sattva]

ah so you are a fixer...

people have to hit their own bottom and find their own way. i tend to prefer to simply lead by example and let them come to me. ;) much nicer that way.

[spicyfull]

Keep her in your Prayers/Thoughts and she will come to you when she really wants to rid herself of the Pills and make better choices.

[Veganforlife]

Margoss? I felt the same way when I first went Raw but quickly learned I am not the bandaid to the public. I agree with Aleesha. Lead by example. Unfortunately people become addicted to these SAD/CRAP foods and it's up to them to break away.
How kind of you to be concerned though...

[RawLibrarian]

I agree with Aleesha. What you call 'helping' can come across as 'meddling'. You might have had the same response yourself at an earlier point in your life if someone made unsolicited dietary suggestions to you.

I just try to be a good example of healthy eating without proselytizing. Change has to come from within, and some people simply will not change the way they eat no matter how crappy they feel because they simply don't see (or believe) the linkage between health and diet. Sad but true.

[snoops]

It's hard though, isn't it, when you've "seen the light":)

[gabriele]

It's easier to change someone's religion than their diet.....

and you know how hard that is.....

[margoss]

I never thought of myself as a fixer but you're right. Thanks.

[revdrcyn]

I agree with everyone's feedback, but still, it seems like our way of life is a no-brainer!

Given the choice between (A) whatever illness is afflicting the person, and (B) feeling amazing, looking fabulous, and glowing with the Light of Health . . .

Hmmmm - should be easy, but I guess it's not.

Had a bunch of friends and family at my house yesterday, among them 2 people close to my age (I'm 47 for a few more weeks) DYING of cancer and not willing to change what they eat.

SAD makes me sad :(

[NaiveJeanette]

yeah, i understand.

my mother is always complaining about how big she is getting but yet she won't do anything about it. She's eating cleaner than she has in the past and exercising and stuff, but she thinks she's "too old" to change. I'm like "MOM! you're ony 50! there are raw food ladies on my board way older than you and they're doing it!" I'm not even telling her to go 100% raw, i'm just saying to cut down on the cheese! :mad: lol...:o

It's hard for me to not laugh when people say it's "too hard". Like it isn't hard for us?! I've given up sooo many foods(it's taken me 4 years to do this btw...) that I will never ever get to eat again and people say it's too hard to give up a serving or two of CHEESE? Or a hamburger? COME ONNNN :rolleyes:

[rawrawks]

The best way to happiness in raw eating and relationship to others food is to live and let live. Let them eat what they want and you eat what you want.
We want so much more for our loved ones but we can only take care of us and what we eat.

When you get this piece, you will have peace.

[snoops]

And remember when you laugh at people who say its hard - would you laugh at a drug addict who says its hard to give up drugs or an alcoholic who says its hard to stop drinking?

Some of us have addictions to some foods and it is as hard for us to give them up as it is for a drug addict to give up drugs. Well maybe harder. Drug addicts only have to give up one thing. How many foods are there that have dairy and/or grains in them?

They are finding now that eating certain foods boost serotonin levels and I know I have issues with serotonin. I need it. Don't make enough of my own. Was happily on anti depressant for a couple years before I went off them just because I didn't want to be taking a drug. And now I have to give up the foods that help me replace that:(

So I am exercising, getting as much Vitamin D as I can, will sit in front of my light in the winter. And not eat dairy or grains because I know they are bad for me. Its taken me a lot to get there though.

Just saying try to be understanding when people say its so hard. Because it is.