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[margoss]

May not be right place...I was with someone today who knows I'm mainly rawing it & she said she is too. I made some choc pudding with almond pulp/milk, honey, carob. Now..she was eating cheetos/chips/nuttybuddy ice cream & things at the pool & I ignored it, it's her thing. She was watching me eat this pudding so much that I felt I had to tell her what I was eating. When I did, she replied, "I said to my H, I know she' not eating real pudding." This makes me want to not to tell anyone what I'm doing when they tell me how much better I look & the wt loss bc if they see eating something, they comment. How do ya'll handle this? It was difficult emotionally for me.

[Revvell]

I don't understand. Because of that statement, it's upset you?

Ummm, she said she was mostly eating raw herself. This person LIED to you! Why should what she says matter? "Real" pudding? what does that mean? And so, she told her ex you weren't eating "real" pudding? so what? There's GOT to be more here than that, yes?

Last weekend I was at an expo. I was at my booth and my friend Apasaraw was in the kitchen next to and behind me. I spoke about raw, the medical community and showed how to make a smoothie. Then I went to the kitchen and got a bowl of raw chili and corn chips. Someone who heard me speak came running over to find out what I was eating. I told her "chili". She kind of looked triumphant like she'd "caught me" eating something cooked. She couldn't believe it was raw. Went over, got some.

See, thing is, define YOURself. Don't let others define you! She wants to eat junk ~ o.k. Leave others to their otherness and take care of yourself ~ and btw ~ you're doing a good job of it. Enjoy that pudding, 'k?

[margoss]

It bothered me bc I thought we'd connected bc we have so many things in common & to me, she was judging me vs us supporting each other. My family is very judgmental of everything I do so I'm sensitive to that. Maybe she felt she wasn't as she projected herself to me & saw how I was & felt bad about it. I don't know. Usually I don't pay much attention to others but for some reason, it really bothered me. She's the 1st person I've met in this area who I thought lived her life similar, not the same, to mine.
Real pudding meant the jello pudding you buy. Maybe she felt guilty bc of the way she projected herself to me. I know the only raw thing in that nuttybuddy was the nuts;).

[kidkid]

It bothered me bc I thought we'd connected bc we have so many things in common & to me, she was judging me vs us supporting each other.

That's totally understandable

My family is very judgmental of everything I do so I'm sensitive to that.

Even if your family wasn't judgmental, you have a right to feel disappointed by that interaction. In fact you have a right to feel anything you feel about anything. There's no such thing as overly sensitive. When feelings come they should be honored, each and every one.

Maybe she felt she wasn't as she projected herself to me & saw how I was & felt bad about it. I don't know. Usually I don't pay much attention to others but for some reason, it really bothered me. She's the 1st person I've met in this area who I thought lived her life similar, not the same, to mine.
Real pudding meant the jello pudding you buy. Maybe she felt guilty bc of the way she projected herself to me. I know the only raw thing in that nuttybuddy was the nuts;).

Whatever her reasons were, i know that when people look at my food with disdain it makes me feel pretty bad -- kind of ostracised, belittled. It's like if someone you really like tells you you have bad taste! it can hurt my feelings. There's a weird stigma arround eating healthily, like only self-punishing people do it. Good for you for taking care of yourself. Perhaps you've planted the seed of inspiration in her to take better care of herself. I don't think she LIED to you when she said she ate a lot of raw, i think she merely expressed that she had an interest in following the lifestyle. who knows what her hangups about actually doing it are. But regardless, you're taking care of you, and you have every right to enjoy every minute and morsel! :)

[Thick]

Such good advice so far...

IMO she obviously is at war within herself. She probably plays a lot of mind games with herself and junk food and is trying to involve you in her own personal nuttybuddy inquisition.

She must've had some bad recipes, I think, to say that your pudding wasn 't "real"...

Do you like her other than this incident? If you do..perhaps you could be the raw inspiration she needs.