30 days almost here...? in re to eating a cooked breakfast

[livenraw]

The dh wants to take me to breakfast next weekend (as I enjoy going out for breakfast, and we haven't done this in over a month now) This Friday ends my 30 days...I really am enjoying being raw and decided I want to stay at least 100% around 90% of the time...and then 90% around 10% of the time. I am just wondering when it comes to breakfast foods that are cooked, what is the best choice to have? (pancakes are my weakness, but I haven't had anything with sugar for almost a month now so not sure how that would affect me) I'd try to find a place that serves raw breakfast, but where I live, we are 10 years behind in times (sorry for anyone else who lives in this town, but it's sooo true!) and so there is no one catering to raw foodist (though we do have 2 places that are fully vegetarian but they only serve lunch and dinner) And when eating something cooked, after not doing that for a month, what am I to expect? Will I start craving more cooked foods? Or will I long more for raw foods again? Anyone been there, done that and can tell me their experiences?

[sweetgoddess]

All I can tell you is my own personal experience, that each time I have thought " well its ok to have one cooked thing this one special time etc" I then struggled for days to weeks to get back to the full swing of raw eating. It seems to me that I personally , after eating cooked food, lose my taste and craving for raw foods. I have to work to get them back. That is just me!

Hopefully, you can add up a lot of responses and decide what rings true to you here.
It is wonderful that you are thinking about this, and exploring this ahead of time. :)

Many Blessings~

[Werevegan]

Is it that you miss the old days and breakfast out with DH? Or are you craving those pancakes? :o

If you go to one of the chain restaurants like IHOP, they usually have a seasonal fruit platter that you can have, if its just the experience you're missing. But if it won't be the same without the pancakes ... don't have any advice there, as I've never made it through that dilemna! :rolleyes:

[flutterfly]

I feel that going out for breakfast is way to tempting for me at least. Is there any reason your dh can't take you out for lunch or dinner instead when the choices are much better?
Make him a wonderful smoothie for breakfast and maybe a bowl of fruit. Have this in bed and he won't even miss breakfast out. Maybe he will have a bigger appetite for lunch lol.

[livenraw]

I think it's the experience more than anything that I miss...since we've been together, breakfast has always been our 'date' on a Saturday since we are very, very early morning people. (even on the weekends) It's nice & quiet where we go, and we prefer the out of the way cafe places in the smaller towns where every one knows one another. Cheaper but MUCH BETTER food than any of the bigger chain restaurants. Of course, no one makes a regular size pancake anymore or a regular size plate of anything for that matter!

He's better at eating healthier but he is not really a fruit and veggie person (he only likes a couple of kinds of fruit and a couple of kinds of veggies, and he definitely don't like smoothies so I don't think that would work though I do like the idea of serving him breakfast in bed. Only problem there - he's up before I am on a Saturday)

I've got a week to think it through and really decide. When I used to do low carb and I went off plan, I was able to get back on at my next meal without any problem...but it might be different when it comes to raw foods.

[sweetgoddess]

How about creating a new date, a new tradition? Maybe a weekly picnic? You could pack what you both want and write each other a love note to bring along and read out loud? Or a poem or thank you letter of what you appreciated about each other throughout the past week?

Just another thought, lol.

I mean, you could go and either hope or predetermine that the one unhealthy meal wont effect you, you could go determined to eat according to your health beliefs, or you could go do something new that wont pose such a challenge.
I am starting to notice hope doesnt get me too far, intent does.
Change is good-it leads to growth.

Whatever you do decide to do though, enjoy your celebration of the love you both share. That is very beautiful. :)

[twinyoga]

If it's the experience you enjoy, then go to a place that makes a wonderful fruit salad or smoothies (you can ask to have them make an all fruit smoothie).

That's what I do.

[sweetgoddess]

Wow, Debbie, I have never thought of asking a restaurant to make me a smoothie. They have fruit, they have blenders, wow. Thanks SO much. :)

[FreshAir]

How is it that something so simple never occurred to me?! I will certainly be asking for a smoothie if I that's what sounds good at a restaraunt from now on!

[tames]

100% 90% of the time? 10% 90% of the time? Huh? Wow what a numbers game! To me it is pretty black and white: Either you are or you aren't. Not passing judgement on either choice, but you sure had my brain going for a while there! :D

--Tim

[Punky]

100% 90% of the time? 10% 90% of the time? Huh? Wow what a numbers game! To me it is pretty black and white: Either you are or you aren't. Not passing judgement on either choice, but you sure had my brain going for a while there! :D

--Tim

(for me) not too much in life is black and white;
perhaps that's why I understood her quite clearly
;)

[Autumn]

I asked for a smoothie once in a small restaurant. I said, "All fruit. Nothing else." I was brought a delicious looking smoothie, but when I tasted it, I knew it had milk in it. I called the waitress back over and said, "This has milk in it." She said, "Yes." I said, "I asked for all fruit, nothing else." She looked at me exasperated and said, "Well, I didn't think you meant no *milk*. You *have* to use milk to make a smoothie!" I told her I made them nearly every day without milk. She took it back to the kitchen and brought me another one and it was wonderful. If you ask for one in a restaurant, be as specific as possible. (I thought I had been, but obviously not!)

[flutterfly]

[QUOTE=tames]100% 90% of the time? 10% 90% of the time? Huh? Wow what a numbers game! To me it is pretty black and white: Either you are or you aren't. Not passing judgement on either choice, but you sure had my brain going for a while there! :D

What ever % anyone does is so much better than a SAD diet. I think that her percentages are wonderful ;)

[Carolyn]

Hi Livenraw,

One thing that I'd finally decided (once I was done making all of this way too difficult ... lol ...) was that if there was a special occasion where I wouldn't have anything raw to select, I'd make an exception and go ahead and just find something that would be the lesser of all evils. (Vegetarian, if at all possible.) I know not everyone will agree with this, and I understand. But it's what I've been doing.

My mom's birthday was Saturday, and she was starting to say that we shouldn't even go out because of not having places around here that serve raw. (for me) That made me feel horrible!! It was her birthday ... not something for me. I told her to forget that idea ... she wanted to go to Carrabba's, and I was more than happy to go! Then I just got back on the raw train Sunday morning. :)

I know it's not the ideal way for everyone, but I've found it works for me. Sometimes there will be special occasions and I'll adjust to that. As long as I don't go overboard and eat a ton of junk, I'm fine with doing it.

Anyway, just my two cents! :)

[Cinnamon]

When I go out to eat I always pick the best choices for all raw if I can. Fruit salad, green salad, adding from the menu to create the most raw meal I can. That being said, I can add a vegan cooked item and get right back on track with my next meal. But that is just me and I don't want to lead anyone down a path that will set them up for cooked food over raw food choices!

I lived in the Spokane area for years, Cheney and Pullman. I hear you when you say Spokane is 10 years behind in the times, at least that many years for sure! I was actually going to ask you which vegetarian restaurants you can suggest as I do get over to your side of the state for visits and any help would be appreciated! Also which grocery stores are the best choices for fresh fruits and veggies. Thank you! Feel free to PM me if you'd like!

I hope you are able to find a good solution to eating out and enjoying this time with your husband, it is a challenge and can be difficult to balance raw and cooked foods with this lifestyle.

[livenraw]

We discussed a little more going out for breakfast on Saturday and this is what he said to me, "You've done so good. And I know your 30 days is almost up. But you're looking really good. You're doing so well. And I don't want to do anything that might screw that up for you. Plus I've been eaten healthier - though I'm not as strict as you are - and I feel so much better, too, and I'm not sure we could go out for a breakfast without maybe overeating or overdoing ourselves. And I don't want to make this a reward thing for you doing so good and for me doing better.' So, instead, we are going to go out of town on a nice drive and then go look around one of the towns I like going to. That will be a lot of fun, too! I told him it wasn't breakfast I missed as much as it was the experience of going out on a Saturday. The nice drive and looking around a really cool town will be beneficial enough to me!

[Revvell]

And take a cooler and have a great, raw picnic!!! I'm sure folk here will be delighted to tell you what to take! :)





We discussed a little more going out for breakfast on Saturday and this is what he said to me, "You've done so good. And I know your 30 days is almost up. But you're looking really good. You're doing so well. And I don't want to do anything that might screw that up for you. Plus I've been eaten healthier - though I'm not as strict as you are - and I feel so much better, too, and I'm not sure we could go out for a breakfast without maybe overeating or overdoing ourselves. And I don't want to make this a reward thing for you doing so good and for me doing better.' So, instead, we are going to go out of town on a nice drive and then go look around one of the towns I like going to. That will be a lot of fun, too! I told him it wasn't breakfast I missed as much as it was the experience of going out on a Saturday. The nice drive and looking around a really cool town will be beneficial enough to me!

[truthseeker]

What a man! Hope you enjoy!!!

[sweetgoddess]

awwww.....how beautiful. Now that is LOVE!! :D
Cheers to you both on honoring each other so well.

Blessings~

[twinyoga]

What a guy. I'm so glad it worked out. Enjoy!

[Gosia]

Happy 30-day birthday!!!

Gosia.

[Sparkle]

I've been catching up on posts after being MIA for several months now. Livenraw I'm from Spokane too, so I know exactly what you mean about being behind the times in the raw food sense. :)

Your DH sounds absolutely wonderful and I think you both made a great choice. I am pleased there are some people out there that can get right back on track after having a cooked meal. I am one of those that can't. I eat anything cooked and immediately fall back to SAD.

This is why I haven't even finished the 30 day challenge. Day 10 hits and I start thinking I can have a little cooked. Then the next morning I don't even want to look at anything raw.

But your solution was perfect because in the year that I've been trying to go raw I've learned so much how I use food socially. I am trying to rethink things and separate food from events.

[livenraw]

I think every thing that goes on in the USA is based around food - meetings, weddings, funerals, baptisms, award shows, get togethers, etc, so I hear ya there about people basing things around food!

I think the only thing I might add end that won't be raw - which is something I would only do once a week because I do enjoy a warm drink when we go to our Monday Night Bible Meetings - is a steamer made with soy milk. But that's it. And that's not an every day thing. Just once a week. (that can get pretty expensive if you drank one of those every day)

But other than that...well, maybe a sweet potato or some corn (those are the only two cooked items I really miss) every once in awhile. I remember when I was close to 100% raw for about 10 days and then we had a conference on the coast...well, I did good for lunch because I was able to get a garden salad with olive oil as dressing. And then came the evening and the lounge...and well, the nachos (I hadn't eaten dairy in about 3 months and hadn't touched meat in about a month at this time) was an appetizer we ordered and split because neither one of us can eat a big platter like that by ourselves (but we told them no meat) and for the next two days, in and out of the bathroom every 15 minutes. So when I am contemplating eating something cooked, I do think about my reaction to those nachos and question if I really do want the same experience again. Most certainly not!! So I guarantee that my cooked food choices will be healthier than nachos dripping with cheese (yuk!!!!! now that I'm thinking about it! just yuk!!!! though I did find myself, at the end, scraping the cheese off the tortilla chips)

It's so easy eating this way. I haven't used fitday in so long, because there's now no need eating this way!! It's a great feeling of freedom when you don't have to count calories, carbs, fat, protein, etc. What a great feeling, and I want to keep that feeling of freedom for sure!