my girlfriend is not supporting my life style

[ken979]

my girlfriend is moaning about this, as we used to go out and eat lots of acidic food.

pizza, dim sum, starbucks, nando's

1. how do you deal with this?

she said its effecting her and worried to eat acidic meals in front of me

lately i been too exhaused to have sex, since i went to this diet

2. any one else experienced this?

i feel my body changing and feel alot healthier but still experience alot of head aches

i just feel very weak, when will i get stronger

so far is been 4 days on 100 percent greens

thanks everyone

[klomasius]

:eek: 100% greens? As in nothing else??

No wonder you are exhausted, tired and getting headaches, you are NOT getting enough calories!!

Greens will NOT provide you with adequate calories, you will need to be eating calorie dense foods like fruits, or nuts etc in order to get your daily calorie requirements.

If you'd like to keep it simple, try adding some things like bananas, apples, oranges, mangoes and an avocado to the mix (or any local in season fruits), see how you feel after doing this for a couple of days.

[Seedy]

I'm not surprised you're feeling weak if you are eating 100% greens. You need some fruit in your diet! The glucose and fructose in fruit is converted by the liver into glycogen. Glycogen is what powers the muscles. Greens are great, but so are root vegetables, fruit, sprouted seeds and legumes, non-gluten grains like buckwheat and quinoa, and good fats like coconut, avocado nuts and seeds. If you are unsure as to what makes up a balanced raw food diet, you'll want to pick up a copy of Alissa's book. As for you girlfriend, you say she is worried to eat acidic meals in front of you. Why? Not everyone is on the same path at the same time. Sit down with her and pick out restaurants where you can find fruit and salads and she can find food she likes, too. Don't lecture her - lead by example. Too much prosylatizing can get you in trouble.
Seedy

[RawHeaven]

Hi Ken, I agree that you need to eat more and a variety of raw foods. I would just add on the food front to include green smoothies in the morning or during the day. Add some maca to it. Maca will help with the libido. As a man, you probably need to eat more of a variety of foods as you guys generally have more muscle than women...which burns up the fat. You need carbs! Eat more and don't worry about what you're eating initially, just make it raw. Eventually you'll hit your stride. I would also suggest reading Alissa's book, Dr Gabriel Cousens' research & books, Victoria Boutenko's Green for Life...that is if you haven't already. And perhaps also research raw food athletes to get an idea of their diet, etc. Bone structure, fat/water/muscle ratio also has something to do with the puzzle. It takes time to get all of this down.

But definately eat more. And make it fun. Detox is a part of the picture for many...you are also experiencing detoxification symptoms with the headaches etc which is actually a good thing. But to slow it down a little, incorporate more raw fats like coconut oil, avocados etc. Eat more fruit too!!! Fruits are cleansing, greens are for rebuilding/regenerating.

Regarding your girlfriend's resistance to your lifestyle/dietary change. Use the search engine and type in "dating", "relationships, raw", etc. This subject has been talked about a lot on this forum. I'm sure you will receive some valuable information so you don't feel like you're hanging out on a limb with this. I think many of us have been there with partners, family, best friends, you name it. I would just say it's a personal thing with regard to your relationship, perhaps at the core is something that we really couldn't figure out for you or grasp. But generally it's just a temporary fear loved ones run up against when someone they care about is changing, whether it's positive or not. I would just say hang in there, keep using the forum for support and perhaps sit down with your girlfriend and explain where you are with Raw at this time in your life. Let her be where she is and hopefully she will follow suit and give you the same courtesy & respect. True love knows no food restrictions.

Best wishes,
RH

[RawHeaven]

Maybe cut out the use of acidic foods for now in your vocabulary and give her some breathing room. Assure her you're not policing what she eats, that you're doing this for whatever reasons you're doing it. :) Take your (raw) food with you to the restaurants you used to frequent together. Or order the house salad and bring an avocado...get creative. One of the most difficult transitions for couples where one partner is going raw is eating out! Especially if you used to do this a lot together. Try to find activities that aren't centered around food...change it up a little bit. It will get better. Good luck!

[spicyfull]

During Detox the Body feels Drained and out of Whack, Low Energy and Headaches, this will become less the Longer you are RAW. Are you Forcing your Friend to be RAW with you? Does it bother you if She eat SAD food in Front of you? There are some Places that serve both RAW and sad.

[ken979]

thanks for the replies :)

dont know where to respond, too many

i will respond too my diet and the rest some other time

i think there is something wrong with my diet, i am getting lots of headaches and it doesnt feel right, makes me want to quit.

i been looking into the PH Miracle robert young stuff and doesnt seem to work for me.

i guess i am healing my body at a fast rate with robert youngs stuff but at the same time making me feel tired, exhaused and getting headaches all the time

i think it be easier to take the slow approach

does Alissa's stuff cover calaries and balance out my diet, if it does i might looking into it

[D'vorah]

Good for you for packing in greens, they're very important, but you at least need to pack in some fruit as well, or you'll never have energy. After fruit and greens, see what else your body asks for among the other things suggested here.

The headaches are most certainly detox from something in your system. Were you eating or drinking caffeine sources? It can take days to come down off of caffeine.

Deborah

[iluvmangos]

thanks for the replies :)
does Alissa's stuff cover calaries and balance out my diet, if it does i might looking into it

Alissa's book covers calories in that you don't need to count them. Just eat when you're hungry and you'll be fine. Eat enough so that you feel good. Keep plenty of food on hand so it's available whenever you're hungry. Get Alissa's book. You'll be glad you did.

[RawHeaven]

thanks for the replies :)

dont know where to respond, too many

you don't need to respond to all of us. we're all saying the same thing.... DETOX! some and most of us have been there...hang in there.



i think there is something wrong with my diet, i am getting lots of headaches and it doesnt feel right, makes me want to quit.

there is nothing wrong with your diet. Detox, detox, detox. This is the rough part. You are releasing all of the toxic crap from your tissues and it's sometimes not very fun. As was stated, if you were heavy into caffeine, processed food with chemical additives, this probably accounts for the intense headaches.

don't quit and don't give up.


i been looking into the PH Miracle robert young stuff and doesnt seem to work for me.

read Alissa Cohen's book. don't worry about calories, just get a variety of raw foods in your diet. repeating...read Alissa Cohen's book. :)

[RawHeaven]

Add cilantro to your diet. I just see this for ya. Will help with the chemical absorption and reduce headaches. Also consider adding oil of oregano to your smoothies or a glass of water. Just a couple of drops. It's potent stuff. Google for more info. Good luck!

[Aleesha Sattva]

there is nothing wrong with your diet.


rawheaven you honestly don't see anything wrong with this posters diet and they are only consuming greens? really? *jaw drops*

ken,

alissa suggests you eat a diet filled with fruit, veggies, nuts and seeds... enjoy your foods, make some yummy meals and eat as much as you need to each day. as you progress over time, your body will begin to let you know what it wants and doesn't want... but for now... just eat a varied diet rich in live foods.

my hubby and i went out to restaurants all the time before i became raw. once i went raw, we found other things to do together... now we go for walks on nice days and sometimes a drive on a rainy day. we've found restaurants that will make me a meal that works for me (a raw stir-fry with romaine instead of rice works great).

[Revvell]

i think there is something wrong with my diet, i am getting lots of headaches and it doesnt feel right, makes me want to quit.



Yuh. Not enough variety. You're starving yourself. Is water part of this food program?

[coco]

since you seem to be new to this idea and unsure about a lot of the details (variety, calories, food prep ideas, etc) might i suggest that you do a bit of reading up, websites and books from the library, and perhaps slow down a little bit. if you are feeling sick, tired, headaches etc you may be detoxing very quickly. keep in mind that it took you a lifetime to get to the state of health that you are in now and that it is ok for you to take some time to shift and change that state of health. transitioning is a personal experience but many do choose to go slowly, incorporating more and more raw foods in a gentle and gradual way. this may be a helpful way of introducing more of those kinds of foods into the routine of your relationship as well. if your girlfriend sees you thriving and excited about the exploration and taste experiences of discovering a new diet and new ways to prepare food she may be curious and inspired to try it herself, though it may not be for her at all. in any case, all of your loved ones will be better able to support you in something that doesn't seem so painful and uncomfortable for you, if that is a concern in your life.

best of luck.

[margoss]

I think it can be confusing in the beginning, I've only been at it a few months. Once I relaxed & ate what I had or liked, it was much better. It's been an adjustment not cooking something for myself. I've never really liked salad but I do now. I squeeze a fresh tomato over it then chop it up, add a little Bragg ACV with a dab of honey...who needs bottle dressing! I do notice that I drink more water & will have days of little hunger vs days of lots of hunger. I let my body lead me. Try not to stress so much about it, relax & enjoy the flavors. Girlfriend...many don't get, don't want to change. Need to accept her as she is, she may come around if you don't push her. It's hard not constantly give good info bc you want to share. I've learned to wait for them to ask me. Feel better!!