I feel sad at where this board is heading...

[debilana]

It just seems rft is losing its spirit. We still have the wonderful apprecations, and many great posts, but lately there has been an influx of just nastiness, arguing, raw food police type comments. IS it just me, or are yall noticing this as well? I am not feeling so encouraged when I come here these days.

I know Revell is going to tell me to not let it bother me:D, but I am just wondering if its just me noticing this.

[snoops]

That keewi person will be gone soon enough. They have been reported multiple times I'm sure. You can't let a couple poster ruin the experience. One person argument is another person's discussion. There is still something to be learned. Its only the rude posters that need to be gone. The other's will come around or leave. This board got me started on raw. I believe there is more good than bad. We don't really need moderators except for the rudeness and spammers. I think we can deal with the negativity by just not buying into it. Search out the positive. Ignore the negative. What you focus on becomes reality. There is more of us than them.

[Stina]

I see worse at other raw boards...............

[RawKnitster]

It is not just you. I've been getting negative feelings from reading the threads for weeks now. :( It isn't just one person either. Seems to be an influx of know-it-alls and bullies. It is such a bummer I was staying away from the board. Not anymore. :mad:

Let's not let a few people ruin the board's spirit of sharing and caring. Maybe the moderators don't have the time or inclination to keep posters in line, but we each have the power to put the offenders on our ignore list. :p It is on the menu under User CP.

Like attracts like, so like snoops said, "Don't buy into it. Search out the positive and ignore the negative." :)

[Revvell]

I've noticed it and others have emailed me about it (and, for once, not complaining about me although, who knows what Alissa is receiving :p ). I'm thinking we'll be seeing a message from someone soon about cutting out the cussing and "getting along", etc. Seems we were all doing well for awhile...

Oh yea, don't let it bother you, 'k? :D


It just seems rft is losing its spirit. We still have the wonderful apprecations, and many great posts, but lately there has been an influx of just nastiness, arguing, raw food police type comments. IS it just me, or are yall noticing this as well? I am not feeling so encouraged when I come here these days.

I know Revell is going to tell me to not let it bother me:D, but I am just wondering if its just me noticing this.

[Ilse W.]

I noticed the spammers (and keep reporting them), but forgot that I can just block the worst offender (duh!). I also noticed that some of the super positive and extremely knowledgeable people don't seem to be on the board or saying an awful lot these days. That's what happens...life gets in the way sometimes and there is not as much opportunity to spend here when so many other things compete for time. Maybe it has something to do with the season, people spend more time outdoors than on the computer.
I still find this forum extremely inspirational. Everybody who needs help and encouragement gets it. I love coming here to check who's up to what. (I'm afraid I'm one of those know-it-alls at times, but try not to be. Just passing on bits and pieces I've read about or learned in life :).)
Change is good, sooner or later the bad apples leave and the good ones reemerge.

[islesgirl]

I still get encouraged when I come here.:)

[debilana]

thanks guys=) I feel encouraged just reading what you have to say=)
I gotta get my butt back on the appreciations thread. At least no one has come there and been an ass...yet:D

[Revvell]

thanks guys=) I feel encouraged just reading what you have to say=)
I gotta get my butt back on the appreciations thread. At least no one has come there and been an ass...yet:D

Oh, they have. Just not recently. :cool:

[Jenifae]

I haven't been around much lately but, mostly because, I get sucked in and an entire Beautiful Day and Opportunities pass me by. There is so much reading I just can't keep up with it. I can't even get to the actual "books" I have to read here. :rolleyes: LOL!

I"ve heard some of my friends here share about. But, I just don't even read them or bother answering at least right now. ;)

[Soose]

This board is the first I've found in the raw world that has helped me and encouraged me. I guess I haven't read that many posts yet, being so new. I have been so grateful to find a group that was positive, helpful, encouraging, seemed to accept us where we are and recognize we're on our journeys and can't be forced to go faster by judgementalism and criticism and perfectionism.

(I don't mind someone saying, "Some of us don't eat cashews. The reason is... cashews have these downsides." I can look at that and absorb the info and try my best within my limitations. The other approach, "Give up the cashews, stupid!" Least said the better. )

I am going to just let any raw food police judge and pass on. The rude hurtful and crass remarks I will try to ignore ( and thanks for the tip on the official ignore, didn't know I could do that if needed).

Please, the rest of you, don't give up. You're already making this the best group! Many of us need you! Just overwhelm the tiny percentage of posts with the good stuff.

[Aleesha Sattva]

It just seems rft is losing its spirit. We still have the wonderful apprecations, and many great posts, but lately there has been an influx of just nastiness, arguing, raw food police type comments. IS it just me, or are yall noticing this as well? I am not feeling so encouraged when I come here these days.

I know Revell is going to tell me to not let it bother me:D, but I am just wondering if its just me noticing this.

(((hugs))) *nodding*

[Soose]

Another point. I don't think many of us would be here unless we were TRYING to improve our food.

[Aleesha Sattva]

no necessarily. some have already improved their lifestyle/diet and are here to assist others. gotta love them!!!

[Soose]

I don't think many of us would be here unless we were TRYING to improve our food.


no necessarily. some have already improved their lifestyle/diet and are here to assist others. gotta love them!!!

Of course, Aleesha. Did not mean to reply otherwise. Please change "many of us" to "many of us newbies asking questions" in my post. <G> Just meant we are trying and don't need to be jumped on! You know, the first raw forum I tried to join over 3 years ago, I asked one question and the replies were very judgemental. Not knowing where to go ask advice without being jumped on has delayed my journey to raw by several years.

And I DO appreciate those of you who are here and helping.

I just reported a rude post but other than that, am going to ignore it.

[Revvell]

Personal letter sent to Alissa about the child. Nothing else to do about it.

[Aleesha Sattva]

Of course, Aleesha. Did not mean to reply otherwise. Please change "many of us" to "many of us newbies asking questions" in my post. <G> Just meant we are trying and don't need to be jumped on! You know, the first raw forum I tried to join over 3 years ago, I asked one question and the replies were very judgemental. Not knowing where to go ask advice without being jumped on has delayed my journey to raw by several years.

And I DO appreciate those of you who are here and helping.

I just reported a rude post but other than that, am going to ignore it.

oh heck... people with info get jumped on as well. you just need to get comfy with your self and your choices... and let others have their own 'way' and opinion. i find that works for me. i don't try to conform at all (you can ask rev... i shared lots of that in our interview of www.letstalkraw.com last week)

research research research and then live it :) that's my way. not the only way to do it, but it works for me.

[somelikeitraw]

oh heck... people with info get jumped on as well. you just need to get comfy with your self and your choices... and let others have their own 'way' and opinion. i find that works for me. i don't try to conform at all (you can ask rev... i shared lots of that in our interview of www.letstalkraw.com last week)

research research research and then live it :) that's my way. not the only way to do it, but it works for me.

I've seen it happen! This guy was all over someone else's personal blog complaining about how on a thread another member was promoting their book and yet I never see the complainer offer advice or help to anyone. The member he was complaining about first mentioned Alissa's book, told how beneficial it still is even after many years of living raw and recommended that the new member purchase Alissa's book. Then mentioned they had a book out as well if the new member was interested. All of this was after giving some helpful advice. Where was the complainer? Off somewhere wearing his buns for a hat.

Anyway ~ I agree with Soose! This forum has been a fantastic place of support and sharing of knowledge. Even newbies can share something that another newbie hasn't learned yet. Also just reading about others journeys has been very helpful. Knowing what is possible on this way of living and seeing the befores, durings and afters. I even pick up information to fit other areas of my life not just food and exercise. I find myself searching for ways that I can give back to the wonderful community here. Glad to know I can officially ignore someone if they get too far out there.

Because this is a public forum we are bound to get some uncouth characters now and then. I am now intentionally seeing only that which I wish to see.

Lots of ((((HUGS)))) to all of you.

[Revvell]

Problem solved. Well, the major one. :)

[RawKnitster]

I can't help but wonder if the brief shut-down today was a reminder of who is in charge and that we are all guests here.

[notwell]

i barely talk on here and im getting annoyed too. :mad: especially when there are some nice people and someone comes along to ruin it for no good reason.

[freshlight]

oh, really? I didn't notice anything at all......on the other hand, I didn't have much time lately and do only pop in occassionally. Ignoring sounds like a good thing to do.....the other thing is: listen to Revvell and don't let it bother you ;)

[Revvell]

It all depends on what you want to focus on. If someone posts that you don't like, just ignore them. When they don't get the response(s) they're looking for, they leave. Online is just like real life ~ actually, it is real life.

[RawHeaven]

IS it just me, or are yall noticing this as well? I am not feeling so encouraged when I come here these days.



I am feeling it acutely and it's why I've stopped posting here as often. Defeats the purpose for me and brings my energy way way down LOW (deep voice), irregardless if I choose to let it roll off my back or not. Such is the life of an empath! LOL. I'm choosing to surround myself in totally positive vibes...enjoying life and whatnot. And you know what...it's all good and so much sweeter. :D

[snoops]

I am glad you are still here sometimes because I like your posts. They are always insightful and wise.:)

[Mary Kay]

Hi folks,

I joined this group, oh - a year ago, but didn't post much until recently. Initially, I was amazed at how NICE people were, even when they disagreed.

Now, recently I have come across some nastiness. Too bad.

Soose, I think your cashew example was PERFECT.

Nice to "meet" you all.

Mary Kay

[Aleesha Sattva]

You do all realize there's a simple solution to this don't you?

Be loving and kind in all your posts
Share your knowledge and experience lovingly
Remember that REAL people who have feelings are reading your post(s)
If you are in a bad mood, feel snippy or had a bad day... don't respond to a post that is upsetting you. Wait until tomorrow cause perhaps the situation will look differently to you then.

:D
Love love love... that's what we could all use more of.

[RawHeaven]

I am glad you are still here sometimes because I like your posts. They are always insightful and wise.:)

Thank you very much Snoops. You are too kind. I enjoy reading your posts and thoughts as well. You are a peaceful soul and I resonate with that very much. :)

[Jehote]

I was "suckered" into a less than nice "debate". when i realized it, i just stopped.
Now, i report all posts that have ref. to illegal drugs and there have been a couple, and any with profanity. (i DO use profanity. but NOT here. here is special...ya know?)
so yea. use that report button if you feel its needed! enough reports and the person is gone!
Matthew

[Revvell]

I was "suckered" into a less than nice "debate". when i realized it, i just stopped.
Now, i report all posts that have ref. to illegal drugs and there have been a couple, and any with profanity. (i DO use profanity. but NOT here. here is special...ya know?)
so yea. use that report button if you feel its needed! enough reports and the person is gone!
Matthew

Yep! 'xactly. I also have a tendancy to cuss but, not here. I've been to many boards and find that, eventually, they ALL have issues because humans are running them. The issues here have been handled (as they always are) and life is bright and shiny again. :D