Harmless exposure to the internet .

[Bede]

My teenaged son has his won email account. I would like to have access to his account so that I am aware of all his communication he has with his friends and also the rest of his internet activities. I am on the lookout for one such email service provider who will give me this facility.

[pixie_333]

glad to know my mom respected my privacy other than reading some of my notes which is an invasion. trust is a good thing. does your teenager know you want to spy?

[Myca]

I have 6 kids...ages 23 to 6.
In my family, they do not get 'internet privacy'. They also do not get 'storage privacy'. In others words, I look at everything. I know what they are looking at on the internet, I know what is under their bed and in their drawers. I have always been this way. They all know it. I tell them up front, if you don't won't me to see it, don't do it.
My kids will never show up at any school with guns and bombs without me knowing about it here...unless all the things are stored at someone elses house. I will never be one of those parents who stand around wringing their hands claiming they didn't know.
I also keep the computers in the family room. No private computers stored away in the bedroom.
If they don't like it, they can leave at 18 because that is the way it is.
This is in respects to my minor aged children. My two adult children, I quit being interested when they turned 18 as far as the internet. I still knew what was under the bed and in the closet.
I have at&t and they have settings.

[Myca]

As for 'spying' that's my job.

[Irish_Vegan_Girl]

I would be really let down if my parent ever suggested they wanted to literally track everything I was doing. IMO, you have to give a bit of lee-way sometimes, to prevent your children feeling smothered. If they want to search for stuff you don't approve of there are other means they could go about doing it. I suggest you just make sure the communication lines are open with your kids and give them their necessary space and privacy. Watching them like a hawk could well lead to them doing things behind your back.

[Revvell]

Watching them like a hawk could well lead to them doing things behind your back.

I agree. If you don't trust me, I'll do something to give you reason not to. It's a weird thing but that's nature.

That's why husband's cheat. They do what their wives accuse them of. I'm sure children are the same. Tell them "no" and see what happens.

I'm not a parent but I've surely been a child ~ I think. :rolleyes: ;)

[Ilse W.]

Kids have internet access at school these days, where they also learn about the negative aspects of the internet and how to avoid predators. If they want to avoid having a parent snoop, they can. Mistrust is not something you want to teach your child. It's a parent's job to teach good values through word and deed, and part of it is to trust.

[Myca]

Actually has nothing to do with trust. The results speak for themselves. Three of my six are raised. Two are now raising their own.

[Ilse W.]

Why would a person join a raw food forum and have this topic as their first post? Just asking. (Trust issue:confused:)

[Colorawdo girl]

Have seen that some of these one time posts are just that. Folks comin in to introduce something else.

[Revvell]

Why would a person join a raw food forum and have this topic as their first post? Just asking. (Trust issue:confused:)

My question as well. Thread has been reported but there are no links to anything else... soooo.... hard to tell. Maybe a lurker who finally decided to post? *shrugs* I dunno. :confused:

[Irish_Vegan_Girl]

Actually has nothing to do with trust. The results speak for themselves. Three of my six are raised. Two are now raising their own.

Well, I can't say it would have worked for me, but to each their own, and different ways for different people, I guess.

[Irish_Vegan_Girl]

I agree. If you don't trust me, I'll do something to give you reason not to. It's a weird thing but that's nature.

That's why husband's cheat. They do what their wives accuse them of. I'm sure children are the same. Tell them "no" and see what happens.

I'm not a parent but I've surely been a child ~ I think. :rolleyes: ;)

Exactly, hey, it even works with raw/eating - if I tell myself I can't have one thing, it is the exact thing I want, so I don't "forbid" foods anymore, I just know what my body works well with and what makes me feel ill.

:)

[Domicylla]

www.kidsemail.org has all the answers you are looking for. Kidsemail is a child-friendly email service provider which allows guardians to have complete control over their child’s email account. It has some very novel features like it emails a copy of incoming and outgoing messages to the parent, allows a parent to approve or deny any mail sent by the child, allows children to send mails only to those in their contact list. And last but not the least it creates separate passwords for the child and parent for the account, so that parents can have a look at the account without the child knowing it.

[Myca]

Well, I can't say it would have worked for me, but to each their own, and different ways for different people, I guess.


It might not...not sure if you are speaking of yourself or your children. See, the thing is, I told them up front. I've never changed. If you don't want me to see it, don't bring it here. On the other hand, I spend hours and hours with my kids. I played with them. I took them almost everywhere I went. We write notes to each other. I call them from work or they call me. I don't tell them to do one thing and then I do something else. As they got old enough, I turned them loose. I made sure I did everything I could do to give them a foundation in values I thought were good for them. My kids never knew anything any different.

[Myca]

Why would a person join a raw food forum and have this topic as their first post? Just asking. (Trust issue:confused:)


LOL, I don't know. Good point Emma.

[pixie_333]

personaly i find it just bad energy to start a post like this especialy on a forum that promotes positive energy. it's like a energy attacker... lets bring people down etc.

and i'll be bold enough to say it. if kids need to be watched for their every move etc... then that is the parenting faults. the parents have way too many unresolved issues and took them out on the children. it is abuse to strap your kids down and give them no freedom of their own. if you teach love and trust and give them that.. then the kids will know more right from wrong. comminication. nobody wants a warded on their backs.. that is bad energy and leads to bad things.
parents that do this... just know you start over again.

[Revvell]

Be a transformer. Energy is energy. All life is in how you perceive it.

I'm thinking we'll never see her again. lol

[adiebabe]

IMO, when a child is younger, it is completely appropriate to monitor their internet activity...as they get older, you need to back off somewhat. Question is, when and how much...and that's depends on the child and the way you've raised them, I think.

Right now, my son has just turned 8 so I have him on a children's browser which has regulated sites and from whom I get a 'Parent's Report' to see what he's been checking out. I know that his paternal grandparents have been letting him on Youtube, un-monitored and I am disturbed by some of the things he's told me he's watched! So personally, I'd like to know what he's up to while he's younger, I can watch for cyber-bullying, inappropriate material, etc. At some point though, I'll need to relax the reigns and trust that I've raised him right and that he's trustworthy...however, it's not at that stage yet.

[Irish_Vegan_Girl]

It might not...not sure if you are speaking of yourself or your children. See, the thing is, I told them up front. I've never changed. If you don't want me to see it, don't bring it here. On the other hand, I spend hours and hours with my kids. I played with them. I took them almost everywhere I went. We write notes to each other. I call them from work or they call me. I don't tell them to do one thing and then I do something else. As they got old enough, I turned them loose. I made sure I did everything I could do to give them a foundation in values I thought were good for them. My kids never knew anything any different.


I am speaking about myself.

It's good that you seem to have a great relationship with your children and that you are really close to them and open.

What I am saying would not have worked for me, is endless over-supervision, and suspicion and my parents hiding things from me and going through my stuff. That would make me feel squashed.

But it seems that you don't do that.

[juliebove]

I'd like to know how he won the account and what perks it might have. I mean... Is it better than a free account such as yahoo or hotmail? If so, I might like to win one too. What do you have to do to win one?

[Irish_Vegan_Girl]

I'd like to know how he won the account and what perks it might have. I mean... Is it better than a free account such as yahoo or hotmail? If so, I might like to win one too. What do you have to do to win one?

What? What are you talking about? I'm confused:confused:
Lol

[JennaBoBenna]

I've had a private computer since I was 13 years old. I am 22 now almost. I turned out just fine.
It really messes kids up when they don't get any privacy...I think it's very cruel.

[Revvell]

What? What are you talking about? I'm confused:confused:
Lol

The original op.
My teenaged son has his won email account.

[Irish_Vegan_Girl]

The original op.

Ok, so she was obv joking.

:)

[j3ff]

Stop discussing this - it's spam - it's a tag team approach - new person asks question, discussion starts, then look at post number 14 - another new one hit wonder posts "solution" with link. - Both posters are the same person, or more likely, they are both the same bot.

I work in IT - Have been seeing this on a few of the sites I manage for work recently. It's not all that new, but it's newer than the standard "I want to tell you about this awesome product" type spam you often see....

[juliebove]

What? What are you talking about? I'm confused:confused:
Lol


She said he has his won e-mail account. So I want to know how he won it?

[RawSar]

Maybe she meant he has one email account. One that she wants access to?

[Inca_faerie]

She said he has his won e-mail account. So I want to know how he won it?

dudes she meant to say "his OWN email account" but the dyslexia is strong in op's post so it turned out as "won".

Seriously crappy thing to do to invade your kid's privacy. People who pull this disrespectful nonsense must be VERY insecure parents. Did you do such a poor job raising your kids that you think there's an actual valid reason for you to snoop?

If that was done to me as a teen I would have rebeled my A$$ off!! "Oh so you wanna snoop in my stuff? Let me give you a few good reasons.":D

[pixie_333]

Stop discussing this - it's spam - it's a tag team approach - new person asks question, discussion starts, then look at post number 14 - another new one hit wonder posts "solution" with link. - Both posters are the same person, or more likely, they are both the same bot.

I work in IT - Have been seeing this on a few of the sites I manage for work recently. It's not all that new, but it's newer than the standard "I want to tell you about this awesome product" type spam you often see....

you're right. i knew something was fishy.

[Cerellia]

While I agree that there should be some controll on young children's internet activity, I just don't think it is fair to spy around in their bedroom or in their e-mailbox. C'mon, they need some privacy!
When we were kids, we had one PC and one TV in our living room. Everyone could use it but certainly nobody was watching or playing anything "hordcore" on it while mom could enter the room at any time ;) If we had saved enough pocket money, nobody would have stoped us from buying our own Computter or TV (my brother did this when he was around 17).