Looking for a vegan roommate, funny responses [Archive]

Veronica01

04-23-2009, 04:59 PM

So my SAD ex that cannot stand my raw food is moving out soon, so i thought i'd put up an ad looking for an roommate and mentioned they had to be animal friendly (as i have a cat) and it'd be nice if they would consider sharing vegan meals once in a while and i only eat raw food.

First response was from an environmentalist who said she used to be vegan but not anymore as she likes dairy and meat too much.. She would consider eating some meat free meals and like hiking and mountainclimbing etc..

thought ok, cool

Next one said she's a flight attendent, both of her sisters are vegans and allergic to a lot of things and she was a vegan for 12 years, but not anymore and i shouldn't descriminate.

Just thought it was funny, i've never met someone who used to be vegan and isn't anymore. I'm not quite sure why one would go back unless pressured by friends or society to be "normal" i guess. I just casually mentioned what i eat and said i find i'm really sensitive to heavy greasy meals and they kinda make me feel ill, so it'd be nice to live with someone who didn't cook that way all the time. :)

SweetTangerine

04-23-2009, 05:11 PM

You are the one looking for a roommate so I don't think you are being unfair. If someone has a problem with your requests, they don't have to live there. Good luck finding a decent person to live with. It is so much easier living with veg and animal friendly, I wouldn't settle for anything less :)

Veronica01

04-23-2009, 05:19 PM

Revvell

04-23-2009, 05:39 PM

The last time I was looking for a roommate (many moons ago) I stressed no drinking, no drugs, no meat. I don't know why some even responded. One insisted that he be allowed to drink "in his own home". I told him that would not be a problem since his home and my home would not be the same. *shrugs*

I finally just got my own place. Less hassle. No concerns except how to pay the rent/utilities and they always came through.

Veronica01

04-23-2009, 05:43 PM

Oh yes I of course stressed the no smoking, drugs, drinking, partying etc. there's basement tenents to and i won't have someone who's disrespectful. I never thought smells would bother me so much but they are. I'm getting sick around air freshner and perfume too. Greasy pizza and barbecue make me feel ill now, just the thought of it and knowing what it is makes me sick. My sister was like um ur not allergic to it, i don't see what your problem is if people beside you eat it... i didn't think i'd care much, but now i sure do and the smell lingers inside the house! So does bread and tater tots... yuck

Im in the process of trying to sell my toaster oven and microwave lol

I had to work 2 jobs to live by myself last year, i had no life and was waitressing part time, that i think would be worse than living with someone who cooked for dinner. i'd feel like i was poisoning people by serving them food.

Colorawdo girl

04-23-2009, 06:02 PM

Veronica....absolutely you can request what you would like in a roomate and get it.
I too find living alone so much easier. Right where I am I have smells rising. Last night it was burnt cow. Disgusting. Second place like this.
So working with people on new place and it is above garage by itself. By myself. And no food smells rising. A lil pricey too yet I have always had what I needed. That feels best to me.
Considered very briefly a roomate...no way.
Hope it works out.

Susan123

04-23-2009, 08:14 PM

I don't blame you for a *second* for specifying your desires of a roomate!! You deserve to live in peace in your home and I can't see living with animal products as being peaceful!! Good for you and good luck finding a roomie!! :) :)

RawSar

04-23-2009, 08:19 PM

juliebove

04-23-2009, 11:29 PM

I know people who were vegan and are not any more. Society has nothing to do with it. They felt after doing some more studying that the vegan diet wasn't the best one to be on. I really think we are all different and there is no one diet we should/could all follow.

spicyfull

04-24-2009, 01:56 AM

I know what you mean, different Smells from some cooked food sure can Mess with you. Hope all goes well for you.

kaybee

04-24-2009, 07:26 AM

yeah, funny responses...people telling you not to be judgemental or whatever, when its YOUR place, lol.

i would def hold out for a veggie roommate. for me, vegetarian would be fine, vegans might be too hard to find. but for me, after having accepted meat-eating rooommates into my house and got stuck with them for 5 years until *I* finally was the one who had to move out, i would never do it again. most recently i lived with two veggies (not vegan) before i finally got my own place. i knew that all the "meat stuff" going on in my house previously was stressing me out--bloody meat left out to thaw on the counters, the potential for blood to leak on my food in the fridge, always the question of how well kitchenware had been washed, and most of all, the frustration at the indifference of my "religious" roommates to animal suffering. so living with veggies, even if not vegan, def took alot of this stress away. hang in there. try posting on craigs list.

busy91

04-24-2009, 08:11 AM

Why is SAD roomie moving out, what is she having a problem with?

I know a lot of people who used to have a vegan diet, and go back to eating meat. But I wouldn't call them vegans, they just ate the diet.

And you have to live with this person, so why shouldn't you get what you want. Too funny, though.

RawkinOnSunshine

04-24-2009, 08:38 AM

Also i find it funny that a lot of people are animal lovers but couldn't care less about farm animals. They're important too right.

Me too, though funny in a non-comical way. It really bothers me since I meet these people every day at the pet store.

As far as "ex-vegans" I know one guy who was vegan all through high school. He was actually the one who inspired me at 14 to give up meat. So when I found out recently that he was back to devouring sliced cow I was saddened and disappointed...but I've known quite a few vegetarians that went back to eating meat. I don't know how one could.

Pking

04-24-2009, 08:46 AM

Bummer on your SAD ex moving out. I hope it's not soley because of the food issue. I have had some beautiful friends who do SAD and we get along just fine. I've also been in a couple of great relationships with SAD eaters. For me, when I'm around SAD eaters, it gives me an even bigger desire to be an example that you don't have to eat cooked foods to be healthy. Primarily, it's all about respect. On the flip side, I have some raw friends who I wouldn't be caught dead with because their character is horrible & they think they're better than others who don't eat raw. Shame.

Overall, I think it's cool of you requesting a raw room mate. I wish you success buddy:)

RawHeaven

04-24-2009, 09:33 AM

http://ecoroommates.com/

http://www.veggieroommate.com/

RawDrop

04-24-2009, 09:37 AM

Too bad you weren't living in the Mpls area. I will be headed there in the next couple of weeks, and need a room to rent.. And I want to be in a raw home. Help with my will power, and keeping away from the foods that make me ill. Right now all the rooms offered from my friends are in meat eating homes! ICKY!!

It is your home, you have the right to specify things to make your life easier and happier!

Rawdrop

Irish_Vegan_Girl

04-24-2009, 10:18 AM

Hey, I found a site which you can use to find a vegan room mate, it will be easier here.

http://www.veggieroommate.com/

It says it's free too. :)

Yeah the whole "I care about animals - but I eat them" thing, really baffles me. :rolleyes:

Good luck with finding a vegan roomie.

Veronica01

04-24-2009, 10:42 AM

Thanks guys I appreciate the support and links. I have a hard time trying to not inconvenience people... but honestly I am an all or nothing person. If i only have raw food in the house it's no problem. It's when im making my salad that my ex starts making pizza or fried foods that bother me. And there's soooo much junk food in the house it makes me feel sick on his behalf! All those chemicals on the chips and crackers omg, i'd get a migraine if i ate them.

I asked the organizer of our vegetarian group in calgary to put the word out, he's happy to help and would even pre screen people before suggesing them. Wow I'm impressed. I don't necessarily want to flat out say no to a nice girl who would respect my way of eating, but you just never know what people will eat after a while when they get cravings. I am 100% perfect for breakfast and lunch every day no problem, i just hate coming home to a house with all those smells and have to hide in my room lol.

My ex is moving to a different city and we broke up because im too different now, after 2 weeks raw he was like whatever we have nothing in common anymore. Nice.

In inquired about a local CSA and the application form described all the natural animals they raise as well like ox, chickens, lamp, ducks etc... and then at the bottom it says please ask about our meat portions...
I felt so bad for the animals! I understand people are trying to live more naturally but why do they assume you have to still eat meat to live... i'd never kill an animal i took care of especially. :(

I never thought i'd be so sensitive to smells and watching people eat horrible things, its hard to get my SAD friends and family to understand im not being overdramatic.

Veronica01

04-24-2009, 10:54 AM

My sister is out your way and is vegan. Too bad she just found a place, like 1 week ago.. A house with 2 boys as roommates that are meat eaters... lol I don't know how she's going to make that work hahaha ..

I don't think you're being unfair either.. I hope you find an animal friendly roommate :) good luck !

That's too bad she's living with meat eating boys.... wow i can tell you how much im looking forward to not smelling grease, foul bathrooms and hearing burping all night. :)

Aleesha Sattva

04-24-2009, 12:26 PM

veronica, i've had friends who have lived in shared homes where everyone was vegan... i would put up a sign in your local health food store and veggie market... more chance of someone who is like-minded to see it that way.

and be firm... cause you won't be happy unless you are. the 'right' person is out there... and when they move in... your home life will be soooooooooooo much better because of your patience and perseverence.

Veronica01

04-24-2009, 12:56 PM

I put up 2 ads on the vegan roommate sites! I have no idea if anyone in my city will be reading them, but i'm glad to have them out there. It's so much better for me to be around fresh fruits and veggies and raw people than being around SAD people and having that cooked in my house. Not that i necessarilly consider it food or want it, its just the smell and the mess and the comments they make eating their food versus mine. I don't find that positive at all. So I am kinda excited that i could get a healthier roommate now, although it is weird that my ex is just moving to another city and we probably won't see eachother again for a long time.

kaybee

04-24-2009, 02:15 PM

yeah, i second the "putting an ad at the local hfs and coops" comment. the people shopping at those places and reading those ads are already going to be more on your wavelength. not raw necessarily, but at least not thinking youre crazy ;)

Veronica01

04-24-2009, 02:18 PM

That is a great idea. I will make up an ad this weekend and do that. :) Thanks guys!

RawSar

04-24-2009, 07:07 PM

That's too bad she's living with meat eating boys.... wow i can tell you how much im looking forward to not smelling grease, foul bathrooms and hearing burping all night. :)

hahaha boys can be gross. I can only live with one and luckily I kinda like the one I live with now ;)

RawHeaven

04-25-2009, 12:46 AM

That's too bad she's living with meat eating boys.... wow i can tell you how much im looking forward to not smelling grease, foul bathrooms and hearing burping all night. :)

ha! no kidding. and you're being polite...farting too. :)

I lived with 4 (male) musicians for almost a year. I was the only vegan in the household. Sweet guys, but i do remember the conversation between one of my ex-housemates and myself when I placed my brand new high speed blender on the kitchen counter. He exclaimed with much enthusiasm: "oh dude...cool...tequila...margaritas!!!" Without saying a word to him, I turned around, made my way back into the kitchen and promptly removed my quite pricey blender from the counter and kept it in my room! LOL! It was a pain hauling it back and forth to the kitchen, but at least I knew what was going in it. :) I can also remember being sequestered in my room with towels under the door to block the burning flesh smells emanating from the kitchen. And I won't even talk about foul bathrooms. Let's not go there. haaaa. You find creative ways to deal when you're the only vegan. But I think it's much better for your body, mind and soul to not have to deal and you certainly don't have to. I'm sure you will find a compatible roommate who is looking for you too! I also think what Pking shared above is very, very good advice and puts a lot into perspective where living in concert with everyone on this planet is concerned.

Good luck Veronica!

michigan roman

04-25-2009, 07:11 AM

ide opt for the safe route and find a roommate 100% known and trusted by family / friends without regard to if theyre vegan or not .

Veronica01

04-27-2009, 01:37 PM

I don't really have any family here, and my friends dropped off the face of the earth when i went raw lol.

Our raw food community is pretty small here, i've had a few people mention their interested and my raw friends know most of the people anyways.

I've lived with people who claimed they were clean, quiet, respectful etc and none of them were. They barely cleaned up after themselves, let alone ever wiped a counter or a floor to help out. This weekend i had the house to myself and it was nice to not smell anything until Sunday night, when pizza went straight from the freezer into my FRESHLY CLEANED microwave (i'm trying to sell). I said OH! What are you doing I just cleaned it? and I got the response, so? I'm using it... bleck... a few hours later it was fish sticks, chicken fingers, onion rings and fries in my toaster over...

A lot of people have inquired being quite bent that I'm requesting vegan, and i don't expect them to understand at all, but the more i think about it the less I want my cupboards, freezer and fridge filled with junkfood, cheese and meat. I have every kitchen appliance you could ever imagine and i never use them anymore, but why should I keep them to promote unhealthy eating and convenience to someone else who doesn't care how they affect me? I don't think it's being selfish, it is my house, it's all my stuff, it's not a bed and breakfast and im not catering to anyone else. I don't need people rubbing it in my face "oh look what i'm having, too bad you can't eat it." it's not necessary to be rude with food... It's just food! It's not an elitist club!

Myca

04-27-2009, 02:18 PM

I know, it would be easiest... i just don't want to come off demanding or preachy i guess. It'd be cool to live with someone that was vegan or was at least open to trying new things without extreme food addictions. It'd be akward if they had people over for pizza and beer and i'm uncomfortable walking around with a salad or a green smoothie in the kitchen lol!

Also i find it funny that a lot of people are animal lovers but couldn't care less about farm animals. They're important too right.

There are people that do care about animals and are not vegan. This could turn into a huge debate I realize. For instance, I raised rabbits. I showed them, bred them, used meat and fur. Did I not care for them? No, I cared very much.

Myca

04-27-2009, 02:21 PM

ide opt for the safe route and find a roommate 100% known and trusted by family / friends without regard to if theyre vegan or not .

He's right. Safety number one, vegan number two. Don't give up. The right one will come along. Hopefully, you will find someone considerate. Consideration goes a long way in this world.

oceanluv

04-27-2009, 02:32 PM

A lot of people have inquired being quite bent that I'm requesting vegan, and i don't expect them to understand at all, but the more i think about it the less I want my cupboards, freezer and fridge filled with junkfood, cheese and meat. I have every kitchen appliance you could ever imagine and i never use them anymore, but why should I keep them to promote unhealthy eating and convenience to someone else who doesn't care how they affect me? I don't think it's being selfish, it is my house, it's all my stuff, it's not a bed and breakfast and im not catering to anyone else. I don't need people rubbing it in my face "oh look what i'm having, too bad you can't eat it." it's not necessary to be rude with food... It's just food! It's not an elitist club!

You deserve to have your home the way you want it to. Life is hard enough without inviting negativity into your " castle" good luck

Myca

04-27-2009, 02:33 PM

Oh, Veronica, I just had the most wonderful visions of you living with a couple of raw roommates.
Can you just imagine how wonder it would be...planning your favorite meals, having RAW parties, never having to smell Pizza!!!
It sounds so fun.
Keep looking.

Colorawdo girl

04-27-2009, 06:50 PM

Veronica I see in your post that you know what you want. And stand for your raw life. Anything less will create misery for you. I have steak smell coming form downstairs and it is horrible. I cannot even imagine it right in my space.

I choose living alone with my raw kitty to getting into a whole bunch of stuff that will interfere with the big stuff I am up to in life.

Let the folks who fuss, fuss. Its not about you. Its about them and their own stuff. Your life calls for a roomie that resonates with you and what you want. Stick to it and you will get the right one.

We are all pulling for you.

rkk

05-01-2009, 07:56 PM

Hi Veronica,

You might want to post an ad on the Raw Food Meetup Groups. There seem to be raw food meetups in Calgary. Maybe another raw foodist is also looking for a roommate.

http://rawfood.meetup.com/

asecretchord

05-01-2009, 08:11 PM

Just thought it was funny, i've never met someone who used to be vegan and isn't anymore. I'm not quite sure why one would go back unless pressured by friends or society to be "normal" i guess. I just casually mentioned what i eat and said i find i'm really sensitive to heavy greasy meals and they kinda make me feel ill, so it'd be nice to live with someone who didn't cook that way all the time. :)

I was vegan for a very short time. I would have kept being vegan, however, it was just too expensive. All the vegan cosmetics, household cleaners, soaps, etc. just got to be way too much and, unfortunately, I couldn't afford it on our income. I truly admire anyone that can live a vegan lifestyle though. It's a wonderful thing.