Going out on a date raw????

[Katie P]

What do you guys recomend when you just met someone & they want to take you out to eat? Raw tends to sound soooo crazy when in reality it isn't at all. What do you order to not look like a freak LOL

[Colorawdo girl]

Be cool to date a raw foody !!!
I would order salad and ask them to put every raw veggie they have on it.I would have a raw caeser dressing in a container in my pocketbook and raw-mesan.And ask them to top it with oregano....thus enjoyable but on my eating plan. Or ask your date to try a rawfood restaraunt, if you have one. S.a.d eaters are pretty amazed at raw flavors.
Ok have fun.

[mattshor]

Have fun, get an amazing salad and ask if they can make a fruit salad for dessert. Or...invite your date to your place and make something scrumptious for both of you! Showing off that you can "cook" always wins lots of brownie points.

[rftm0115]

hehe.

You guys could just go elsewhere, if you prefer not to go to a restaurant. He won't mind. ;)

Also, if you prefer to go out and eat, you can just order a salad or special order your meal made. It's no big deal really. Order something you would want and is healthy for you.

I once sat through a dinner date without having ate anything. I did order a burrito to go for my baby brother, b/c he asked for one. My date didn't mind at all, although she might have felt self-cautious about eating in front me while I wasn't. She was completely cool about it. It's situations like this that makes you like someone even more. You get to learn about who they are as well. So don't avoid such situations!

It's akin to someone being worried about their favorite color being blue. You wouldn't necessarily be worried about it. It would be strange if they were. Same thing with being raw. Only make it a concern, when you're thinking about marrying him, and you want the kids to eat raw. :cool:

Have fun!

[Aleesha Sattva]

of course you could do the obvious... go to a raw restaurant and eat anything you desire from the menu including a wonderfully raw dessert and allow your date to know you on YOUR turf. ;)

[kiropa]

i choose to occasionally eat non-raw for social reasons. it's a very personal choice.

that said, i'd either:
a. eat non-raw
b. tell date i'm a vegetarian, special order and eat raw
c. suggest raw restaurant
d. invite date over and un-cook

it depends on how well you know your date and your comfort level.

i, respectfully, disagree with seeking a partner who is also raw. my hubby of 13 years is not raw and never would be. he is, however, my ideal partner. he enjoys all of the food i make and respects my choices. in my opinion, that's what really counts.

[mattshor]

re: selecting a partner based on whether or not s/he is _________

we all have deal breakers when we are in the process of selecting a person. There are other things that come up when you are in the relationship that at times make things easier or more difficult.

When I was dating to marry, I decided that I was only going to date other Jews. Not because I oppose interfaith marriages or think that it can't work. I just knew that there were certain things that I needed to be able to share with my partner and that I knew I needed that person to feel were important independent of me.

For other people, it may be food, or politics or some other life passion.

I do think that if something has a major lifestyle impact on you, it is worthwhile to share it with your partner sooner, rather than later. If you don't plan on (or couldn't be happy) eating cooked from time to time, don't do it on your first date either. Your date will be confused when the rules change.

[kiropa]

totally agree on "we all have our deal breakers". excellent point and exactly what i was trying to say with 'personal choice'. i, too, have deal breakers -- would never marry a smoker, for instance.

the date thing is hard because one never knows where life will lead. i, personally, would not be comfortable calling attention to rigid dietary choices on a first date -- but that's just me.

i sort of think there is no right or wrong here - simply what works for you.

look forward to hearing about the date!



re: selecting a partner based on whether or not s/he is _________

we all have deal breakers when we are in the process of selecting a person. There are other things that come up when you are in the relationship that at times make things easier or more difficult.

When I was dating to marry, I decided that I was only going to date other Jews. Not because I oppose interfaith marriages or think that it can't work. I just knew that there were certain things that I needed to be able to share with my partner and that I knew I needed that person to feel were important independent of me.

For other people, it may be food, or politics or some other life passion.

I do think that if something has a major lifestyle impact on you, it is worthwhile to share it with your partner sooner, rather than later. If you don't plan on (or couldn't be happy) eating cooked from time to time, don't do it on your first date either. Your date will be confused when the rules change.

[Katie P]

You guys are sooooo awesome for all the advice! We've only known each other for about less than a week & this friday we are going out to breakfast so I'm thinking a nice fruit salad might work. I told him I eat raw so it wouldn't be a surprise...& honestly I don't know if my stomach could handle cooked food. I look at things so differently now. I just can't imagine eating DEAD food. It just doesn't make any sense at all! So far we have a lot in common without food being involved. I will definetly let you all know how it goes.....look for a post from me friday afternoon. You guys are seriously the best :)

[adiebabe]

I'm in that boat right now. I had my first date with someone (I met through a date site) last night and our 'coffee' date turned into a three and a half hour talking session! LOL! So of course now it's dinner next week, however, I'd put stuff on my profile about it to start with and we'd talked on the phone about it, so it was easy because he asked right off the bat where he could take me. I will eventually take him somewhere vegan and raw but for now, there is a restaurant in town I know I can go to with 2 items on the menu I'm happy with. I'm not 100% raw though so if you are, it may be more of an issue for you to start with....unless you do the salad thing *shrugs* I know...no fun! LOL!

[rftm0115]

Since we're talking about dates, :p on the one that I mentioned, we talked until the wee hours of the morning. I only left b/c I didn't want to miss the last train! :D Dates are meant to be fun. So enjoy.

I know there are deal breakers for everyone. I definitely wouldn't go for a smoker, b/c think of the smell! I wouldn't be able to get close enough to the person to ask 'em out. Also, my eyes lit up, when a girl would say the "f" word, lol. And as previous posters have mentioned, it's a personal choice. heh.

No offense. :D

[RawHeaven]

What do you guys recomend when you just met someone & they want to take you out to eat? Raw tends to sound soooo crazy when in reality it isn't at all. What do you order to not look like a freak LOL

Any man that asks me out understands that I'm a raw foodist. I make no excuses for it - it doesn't mean it's what all I'm about, but they usually understand. 9 times out of 10 I'm dating meat eaters and 9 times out of 10 they are impressed and eventually will begin eating more raw foods without me saying a word. If you respect where other people are, they respect where you are.

There are a few raw restaurants in the city where I live and nearby cities. If a man really is into you and wants to make you happy, he will go out of his way to do so. I have never made a statement to the men I've dated that I have to go to a raw restaurant, they somehow do their own research and take me to them. I also go to the regular restaurants with them and just order a salad or a bowl of fruit if there's nothing else on the menu I can eat. Usually there isn't. ha. And usually when I'm out with a man I really like I'm so happy, full of endorphins with no appetite anyway, so it's all good.

Just be yourself and know that anyone who is lucky enough to be with you needs to get the authentic you. You deserve nothing but the best and the same for the guys. :)

ps. I always carry raw food with me...fruit, something. That way you're always covered. You can take an avocado with you and put it on a house salad for example. Get creative and remember Just be true to yourself!

[JennaBoBenna]

I second the raw restaurant idea! If he's open to it, he's a keeper. My current bf impressed me by going raw before we were together (I actually ended up leaving my bf for him!!)

[circle]

most places you can call ahead and order your meal ahead of time so you don't have to deal with the confusion and embarrassment when you are there.

you can specify that you want a salad without cheese or crutons or whatever you don't want, and find out all the fruits and veggies they have there and have them put them on the salad.

there are also a lot of vegan/veg friendly eating places you could go to.

[Stephen28]

I went to Wagamama's restaurant the other day (If you have those) they have some salads that are already 80% raw, all you need to do is as them to change it a little. :)

[spicyfull]

Have a RAWonderful time and Enjoy the Evening.

[mattshor]

*anxiously waiting for an update* :D

[Katie P]

Well I want to say thanks for everyone responding. I actually didn't go on the date! The guy hasn't called me since tuesday so I guess THAT'S not going anywhere LOL! If & when I go on my next date I will let everyone know where we went & what I ate! I figure if I feel that uncomfortable to eat raw I will just make sure the non raw things I eat will be easier to digest like cooked veggies or a salad without meat & olive oil vinegar dressing that may not be cold-pressed.

THANKS AGAIN

[freshlight]

He doesn't know what he's missing :) Enjoy your dates...and the other dates too :D