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RawSweetie
10-24-2008, 05:10 PM
Hi all,
Well, I have been eating SAD **daily** for the past, oh, 3 weeks or so. A month?? My 60-hr work week, the constant temptation of "gourmet" SAD food in my face every single day, and a very, very tragic event in my family all created a perfect storm of bad eating. I don't feel judgemental toward myself, and I do know that raw is a process. I'm choosing to view my experiences as grist for the mill...but I also know that it's hard for me to come here toRFT and admit that, after all the raw wonderfulness I had experienced at 30 days raw, and all the available support here that I could ask for, I have been on a real bender. I don't eat flesh, but I have been freely eating eggs and cheese. It is SUCH a weird, strange DISCONNECT.

I'm sure this is more for an actual therapist, but the family thing felt like someone backed a dump truck into the "yard" of my life and let loose with a whole lot of garbage and, suddenly, I was treating my body that way. All kinds of very toxic family secrets came to a head and lives have been forever altered. I feel literally thrown from the beautiful raw path I was on...

My work shedule returns to normal as of this weekend, so that is good, and I'm praying to be able to return to my path, one day at a time. I have learned, once again, how utterly, utterly addictive SAD food is for me. It's really unbelievable.

In other, HAPPY news, I am also falling in love--with a chef--a SAD chef--who fully respects and supports my raw food journey, thinks I am the cat's meow, and who is very interested in the whole raw "thing," as he calls it, even though he is not ready to do it himself. He thinks it's great, and yet he is quite invested in his own professional path, and I wouldn't want to step on his toes in any way. So, it's an interesting place I'm in right now. I really just wanted to reconnect with all of you. When I go back to SAD eating, I don't feel like I "deserve" to be here. I hate that! I've been reading the threads but have not been posting. The thought of having to go through detox all over again makes me sad and disappointed, I have to say. But, I want to be raw. So, here I go again. :o

**Thanks for listening**

gritsnla
10-24-2008, 05:34 PM
I have my problems with the addicting SAD also. But keep on keeping on with the Raw lifestyle. Even though you have had quite a "plateful" of trouble, your post ended with positivity. Harness that and use it to your advantage. I always remember how good Raw feels, that is why I keep coming back and keep striving for all it's healthy benefits. It is quite a journey!

rawstrength
10-24-2008, 05:36 PM
Of course you deserve to be here :) . We all deserve the best of health.

Sometimes we get out of the rhythm, out of the flow, get disconnected from where we want to go. But I'm sure you'll find (as I have) that a new stream will come to carry you along on your way. Just ease back into raw, at your own pace, in your own time. And give yourself all the love and self-respect you can muster.

RawSweetie
10-24-2008, 05:37 PM
I have my problems with the addicting SAD also. But keep on keeping on with the Raw lifestyle. Even though you have had quite a "plateful" of trouble, your post ended with positivity. Harness that and use it to your advantage. I always remember how good Raw feels, that is why I keep coming back and keep striving for all it's healthy benefits. It is quite a journey!

Thank you, Gritsnia. I appreciate your words. I remember how good it feels, too! So amazing...

BTW, I really like your sig line. How true, how true. :)

RawSweetie
11-12-2008, 09:56 AM
Thank you, Rawstrength for YOUR words, too! I deeply appreciate it.

Well, after a few MORE weeks of struggle, I'm back on my raw path...whew...

I just ordered the documentary Raw For Thirty Days (they're calling it something else now) and I can't wait to watch it, after viewing the trailer at least 20 times. :)

I have really had the "opportunity"...ahem...to see how strong my emotional eating habits are. Wow. The degree to which I am capable of NOT being true to myself is sobering. Pun intended.

I've also realized that I can't quite reconcile my romantic interest's meat-eating, SAD-chef ways to what I want for myself....I'm sure it would be a different story if I'd already had an established relationship with him before raw came into my life but, as it stands, I can't quite bring myself to choose him. I've had the chance to explore, once again, what I think I deserve in a relationship, and sitting across the kitchen table from a guy who I had some real romantic fantasy about and watching him wolf down a HOTDOG then rub his belly and go "Mmmmmm" is just not what I want!! :p

ViolinCyndee
11-12-2008, 11:46 AM
Thank you, Rawstrength for YOUR words, too! I deeply appreciate it.

Well, after a few MORE weeks of struggle, I'm back on my raw path...whew...

I just ordered the documentary Raw For Thirty Days (they're calling it something else now) and I can't wait to watch it, after viewing the trailer at least 20 times. :)

I have really had the "opportunity"...ahem...to see how strong my emotional eating habits are. Wow. The degree to which I am capable of NOT being true to myself is sobering. Pun intended.

I've also realized that I can't quite reconcile my romantic interest's meat-eating, SAD-chef ways to what I want for myself....I'm sure it would be a different story if I'd already had an established relationship with him before raw came into my life but, as it stands, I can't quite bring myself to choose him. I've had the chance to explore, once again, what I think I deserve in a relationship, and sitting across the kitchen table from a guy who I had some real romantic fantasy about and watching him wolf down a HOTDOG then rub his belly and go "Mmmmmm" is just not what I want!! :p

I can totally understand this! My husband is 99% vegan, though not raw. I would definitely never be able to be close to someone who eats animals..

RawHeaven
11-12-2008, 11:54 AM
I'm choosing to view my experiences as grist for the mill...but I also know that it's hard for me to come here toRFT and admit that, after all the raw wonderfulness I had experienced at 30 days raw, and all the available support here that I could ask for, I have been on a real bender.

This is exactly why this board is here to offer support in all areas I think. Many of us can relate to your post and have experienced the same or something similar. It's a journey and there is so much to learn.

I'm glad that you're back to eating raw foods and I hope you find peace in your relationship with your family as well. I know how it is, believe me. ;)

Peace,

Crystal

HolyGuacamole
11-12-2008, 12:24 PM
I hear you on the relationship issue... My already-strained relationship with my extremely SAD SO is not long for this world. The disparity in what we eat and everything it says about us is just too vast a gulf to try to cross. For others in better established or stronger relationships I know that may not be the case, but if the foundation's not strong enough to bear the huge imbalance between RAW and SAD, sometimes not much can be done. Well, in my case, it's just more than I want to do. (Sad to say, at this point, he just grosses me out. :eek: )
And really - that's OK.

I also totally stumbled diet-wise, not for weeks, but for a couple of days, and then several days later for a couple of days again. I felt sooooooo miserable and horrible from it physically and then pile on top of that the psychological torment and guilt, and well, just OUCH!
I decided to cut myself some slack and I think that's the best thing any of us can do.

So you're back on the right path now, and I am, too. I've learned to be a little gentler with myself, and I hope you have, too.
I'm so glad we can be here for each other to help one another stay where we want to be!

I just got back from a Whole Foods run and I am going to whip up a giant amount of goodies so there's always something delicious on hand to eat so I'm never again tempted to run to the store and get fixins for homemade mac and cheese and mashed potatoes like I did day before yesterday. (Yikes... I have been almost completely vegan for many years, and I really cheesed it up. I don't know what got into me. :( )
I really wasn't expecting non-raw cravings to sneak up on me and wallop me over the head like that! :eek: Next time I'll be prepared!




You're doing great. Keep it up.
Best to you. :)