Batten down the Hatches! A mighty storm's a-comin'!

[Zaphirah]

last night was a doozie. My mom once again showed her true colors. Unfortunately for me, it was in front of the whole little man soccer team. I have been working on creating boundaries with her for almost 2 years now. Well last night she called me a B---- in front of everyone. I got up and left the game with my other children and left dh w/ my soccer-boy. Even another one of the parents asked my dh what was going on. SO, it didn't go unnoticed. To top it off, my mom wants to take my dd for 3 days-and I don't want to go because my mom showed how inappropriate and mean she can be-even in a crowd. I feel like seeing her grandchildren is a privilege, not a right and for her to be so blatantly rude and embarrass me so, negates ANY responsibility I have to strengthen the relationship between her and her grandkids. My 3 boys don't go over there anymore because she has treated them the same way she treated me last night (more or less). My dd is a "princess" when she is there and my mom feeds her all kinds of junk, but I have let it go in the name of keeping the peace. My dd comes home and cries for 2-3 days and is moody. I assume it's the "sugar blues". So I wasn't keen on this relationship in it's current form, but after last night I feel like the woman sealed her fate. I put my own feelings aside, and my dd's health, so she could spend LOTS of time with my dd. Part of the feelings I have is that my mother can be a very mean woman. She often talks about me behind my back while my children are present. (They have come home and told me that they are uncomfortable when Nana gets on the phone and says mean things about me.)
She has always been pretty mean to me, in general, even my siblings can't figure out why I've been so singled out by her, my whole life. Last night's incident was by far mild in comparison to many other things she has done, but it feels like the final insult I will allow.
Now the hard part comes-trying to tell her this.

[Raw Joy]

While I know it's not easy, and my mom doesn't sound anywhere as bad as yours, I know the one thing that finally got me to break away was realizing this:

If I ignored her or told her I was only going to be polite for family's sake but we woudl have no real relationship: She treated me horribly and talked about me like a dog.

If I bowed down and worshipped her and did her every bidding: She treated me horribly and talked about me like a dog.

Point is, it doesn't matter if you make her mad or cut her out of your life. She's going to basically act the same toward you as she does now.

I'll keep you in my prayers. Been there, done that. :)

[Zaphirah]

I sent her an email (so I wouldn't have to get into a confrontation with her). I'm posting it in my blog. :(

[jacsam]

Sorry your having to deal with this.....not fun!!!

[Crazy Healer Lady]

I'm sorry, too. It sounds like a rough situation! Blessings to you and yours in dealing with all this <3