told to stop losing weight

[1bigfamily]

My mom told me to stop losing weight. She is concerned that I have lost so much. She thinks that my frame and face make it seem like I shouldn't lose anymore. She hasn't seen me in person and I know that I still need to lose more. she told me to eat more and start going to the gym again. I do plan to go to the gym but my husband just has surgery and I don't have anyone to watch the baby that early in the morning. As soon as I can leave her with him I will go though.

Have any of you had anyone tell you that?

[OneBite@aTime]

No-but I'm working on it.
It could be a number of things....but you've got to go for your dreams, not your mothers.

You're doing great-size 12 after 255.5-WOW!

[Ilse W.]

Unless you are 6'6" tall, 184 lbs is not too little. You don't say how tall you are, but when I was about 19 years old, my doctor told me that I should try to never weigh more than 60 kg, which is 132 lbs. I am 5'9". So don't listen to anybody but your own body., Although we must assume that our mothers have our best interest in mind, we don't need to listen to them in matters that are no longer their responsibility. Tell your mother that you will only do what's best for you. You say that your mother has not seen you in person, so I assume she only knows about your weight loss from you? Quit talking about it with her! YOUR BODY KNOWS BEST!

[Inca_faerie]

I see it like this; Don't ever let anyone tell you what you need to do(even family), do what you feel is right and if you want to lose more weight then go for it! Only you can decide what is right for your body. Lot's of people fear change of any kind, maybe your mom see's that you are changing quite a bit and it's freaking her out a little? just be patient with her, once she see's how happy and healthy you are she probably won't worry anymore. Congrats on the weight loss!:)

[1bigfamily]

No-but I'm working on it.
It could be a number of things....but you've got to go for your dreams, not your mothers.

You're doing great-size 12 after 255.5-WOW!
I love your forum name! That is what I need to focus on, one bite at a time.


Unless you are 6'6" tall, 184 lbs is not too little. You don't say how tall you are, but when I was about 19 years old, my doctor told me that I should try to never weigh more than 60 kg, which is 132 lbs. I am 5'9". So don't listen to anybody but your own body., Although we must assume that our mothers have our best interest in mind, we don't need to listen to them in matters that are no longer their responsibility. Tell your mother that you will only do what's best for you. You say that your mother has not seen you in person, so I assume she only knows about your weight loss from you? Quit talking about it with her! YOUR BODY KNOWS BEST!
I made the decision not to tell her anything else about it. I have been really excited so I have shared the news with her but I won't anymore. When she sees me I will tell her the truth but then she will see that I am not sickly or anything. :p


I see it like this; Don't ever let anyone tell you what you need to do(even family), do what you feel is right and if you want to lose more weight then go for it! Only you can decide what is right for your body. Lot's of people fear change of any kind, maybe your mom see's that you are changing quite a bit and it's freaking her out a little? just be patient with her, once she see's how happy and healthy you are she probably won't worry anymore. Congrats on the weight loss!:)
I agree. Thanks.


Thanks to all of you! :)

[Emma-Liza]

As a chronic dieter, I've gained and lost weight over the years and something I've noticed is that at first, when you lose, people say things like your mom did, but over time, they adjust to what you look like and they stop even noticing.

[MelissaO]

My Dad tells me all the time I am too skinny.

I guess it is a parents job to worry about us - just the same as we worry for them. With my Dad I tell him he eats too much and does not eat the right things.

I am 5'3 and hover from 115 to 125 ish in weight. I am not under or over weight. As long as my general doctor thinks my weight is ok I am ok with it.

[MelissaO]

Your picture looks fabulous by the way- you look healthy and happy! Great job on the weight loss - as long as it doesnt become an obsession I say loose until you feel good then strive to maintaine that.

Good luck with the family.

[spicyfull]

Give her the respect of listening to her. And you are right not to bring it up with her. When she tells you not to lose anymore just tell here you're not trying to. You can walk around the house and do exercises at home, which is what she want you to do. See you can lose weight just by exercising also.Tell her the truth and it is also what she wants to hear.

[Robison]

When I lost weight I got that mostly from people at work, but honestly I think they were jealous. The idea that I was eating as much as I wanted and still dropping pounds (Body for Life) just didnt jive with them.

They seems satisfied when I went back to eating crap all the time and gained some back. So now Im already starting so see those lbs fall off again and I feel supercharged eating raw. The jealousy could reach critical mass. Im sure that according to my co-workers I am suffering a serious protein deficiency that could easily be cured by a large pizza.

[Raw Angel Mom]

Oh sorry to hear this, sometime people unconsciously let their ego sabotage our effort to become healthier. Listen to your heart and not other fears or insecurity.

I personally got worst before i got better, i am not comon most people get better and better every day. I lost all my bad fat first and i then gain the good fat. During my first year, many thing in me have healed such my skin, constipation etc.... I did go very underweight and this didn't make me look good but my heart was telling me to trust and i did. Today i look way more radiant and i have gain a good weight.

You look great and you are beautiful, don't worry about what other may say. Sometime, when someone try to give me advice about my health, i look at their energy and how they look. If they don't look alive, radiant and healthy, i send them blessing and don't worry about their opinion. On antother hand, Alissa Cohen, looks healthy, radiant and full of energy, so you bet that i pay attention of what she has to say about raw food.

Believe in you and trust your body that it cans heal you.

Congratulations on your raw journey and you are doing great

[shashibala]

People are so funny about weight! Especially family. I have been told that I've gotten too thin and I'm certainly not thin!! I reassure people that I just feed myself perfectly and plenty and my body will settle on a good weight.
Congratulations on your success!

[RawHeaven]

Yes. My sister a few months ago told me I looked really unhealthy and too skinny. She told me I was not eating right and was very involved with questioning my food choices. I held my tongue because it is in fact not I who is unhealthy and dealing with health conditions that are completely diet related. Eventually it passed because I would not give it energy and I knew it was not true. She eventually got tired of me not saying anything about it -we fight about other things, lol, but not about me being a raw foodist. It sometimes takes our loved ones out of their comfort zones when they see us getting really healthy and more than that CHANGING. It's easier if we don't sometimes - I think many unconscious and conscious fears surface. If I can be blunt, we've gotten used to being really big in this country (the US) and seeing obesity every single day. Try traveling outdoors and count how many fit and healthy people you see. The number will probably be very small. When you don't look like the average person it's easy for those who are now the average to try to squeeze you into the something is wrong with you category. Hang tight, hold your ground, focus on your own health and send your Mom lots of love. She cares and obviously loves you, but it's more important how you feel about yourself. Do you think you're losing too much weight? If not, carry on.

[Moretta]

Listen to your body. Nobody else knows your body better than you do. You look great and keep it up.

[ShelShel]

Yes, my brother. The one who always told me how cute I'd be if I just lost some weight. :rolleyes: LOL I was actually at the heaviest weight my frame should carry and he felt I was too thin.

I think it was because of two things. First, people who have known you all of your life get used to seeing you that way. The change (any change really) is very shocking for them. Secondly, they are afraid with all the craziness out there, that you aren't being healthy.

Like your mom said, "You need to eat more." She's just concerned that you have become anorexic. :o Sad, but probably true. Just keep reaffirming her worries with positivity and explanations on how you are eating. She will eventually become ok with it. My whole family did, but it took time. ;)

Keep on keepin' raw!

[lizzyrose]

Yep. My friends are worried about me because of the weight loss since going raw - 5'3", 102-ish pounds - down from 117 --
Thankfully my best friend defended me -- telling them that I say I feel better, have more energy, fewer headaches than I've had in a long time, so while their concern is appreciated - leave me alone! ;- )

[Rawkinlocs]

I have not read all of the replies so my apologies if I repeat something that has already been said!

But yes, I was told that as well. My in-laws often told me, "Okay Cherie, you can stop losing weight now...you don't need to lose anymore!" etc.

My statement to them was, "I'm not TRYING to lose weight...it's happening by default as a result of my dietary change!"

Thing is, though...as Alissa states in her book, there is a process of "shedding the false body" where the weight we put on from eating processed, cooked, fat-laden, etc. foods is melted/shed and once the body has gone through that process, it begins to rebuild with healthier tissue and matter.

I may not have gotten back to my pre-raw weight, but I DID go from weighing around 120-122 lbs (and this was from weighing around 145 pre-raw) to weighing around 125-128 once my weight stabilized and got to my body's 'ideal weight range'.

Sometimes eating healthier will reveal that you were not really supposed to be a certain size. After having kids, I thought that 135-140 was "normal" for me. But I found that by changing my diet, my "normal" weight range was about 10-15 lbs. less!

[goobygirl]

Yeah, "big" people are 'normal' now. I went to my high school reunion and saw photos of everyone from high school, and was shocked how skinny every one is, because now many of the kids just aren't.

When the average women's size is 14, then you know big is accepted. Hey, they even supersize airplane seats now. It's so sad that when someone is actually a healthy weight (what we were used to seeing for years) that all of a sudden you have some sort of eating disorder and need to be monitored. So sad.

[Aleesha Sattva]

people are saying that to me as well. they say..."aleesha you've released enough, you aren't going to go any lower are you???"

i laugh... seeing myself naked i can see lots of weight that can come off. i can easily release another 20 pounds minimum from my belly. if i was this weight and hadn't started at 300 pounds, they would all be telling me to lose weight LOL

so i ignore them and allow my body to do what rawkinlocs is saying... finding my true body and releasing my false body. i want healthy weight... not this toxic stuff that's on my now. then allow my body to become what IT wants... not what i envision (as honestly i hold no vision of this, i'm just allowing)

btw, i'm at 147 pounds... and 5'4" and according to "the authorities" i'm overweight! LOL

[walnutty]

You don't say how tall you are, but when I was about 19 years old, my doctor told me that I should try to never weigh more than 60 kg, which is 132 lbs. I am 5'9".


Emma,

I hope you don't believe him/her. I am also 5' 9" and if I drop below 145 pounds I look sickly. (At 145 lbs. I wear a size 5). Staying at 132 or less at that height seems to be promoting an eating disorder!

[mongodelight]

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You are 184? I am 155 and a 5 feet 1 inch male musle bomber. If you re the size of a tall NBA-Player i would start to think if its maybe to less. Your mom is jealous. Parents think that their children should be like them. That can mean nothing goo for you:(