View Full Version : Raw experiences with non-raw partners
03-19-2008, 10:51 AM
I'm having a really hard time the last few days. I'm thin and have always been relatively healthy. My partner is 100 lbs overweight and is vegetarian, which is great, but eats really crappy junk food and cheese at every meal. It is SO hard for me to watch. I try telling myself I choose for my body and it's not my place to tell him what to eat, but it is just so difficult. Plus, doing raw and whole foods coaching makes it worse bc we're in a small town and people see me with an overweight partner and must wonder why I'm not helping him. It's hard. And so frustrating. I try not to judge him, but I do. He has asthma, joint problems, gets sinus infections and is on antibiotics monthly, etc, but refuses to give up dairy or drink wheatgrass/green smoothies. I'm having a hard time being close to him lately.
Has raw caused anyone elses relationships to suffer?
03-19-2008, 11:05 AM
I do not have personal experience with this. Just know that you are not alone. I have read people's blogs over time and often at some point there is a level of frustration. Seems like most of the time it seems to straighten itself out as they relearn each others new habits.
Personally, after over two years dh is now eating a LOT of vegan and high raw. It just sort of rubs off after awhile. 1 of my 3 kids is very conscious of what he eats. The other 2, PURE sugar addicts.
Sorry I can not offer more, but someone will be along I am sure. It is not uncommon because soooo many changes occur and it can feel like you are on two very different paths. Just try to remember why you fell in love with him in the beginning and ask yourself if things have really changed so much. You have probably changed more than he has and both of you need time to adjust.
Also, you might be surprised if you told him you are worried and want to be sure you are together a good long while, he might make a few changes of his own.
Have a great day!
03-19-2008, 12:17 PM
this happens whenever someone makes important changes to their life. whether it's changing their spiritual beliefs, deciding to work out and get their body fit, or eating life style changes.
some relationships do not make it... others do. it all depends on you and him. i know that for me, some things i do/believe in - i have to have the people around me on board, other things - not so much...
i find it very hard to watch my hubby eating cooked stuff. but it's his path. his choice. i think if anything... people seeing you with him will say... you two are the epitomy of WHY to choose raw foods compared to vegetarian cooked foods. LOL he'd be a GREAT teaching tool for your students.
03-19-2008, 12:34 PM
03-19-2008, 02:01 PM
I have a meat-eating DH who is supportive for me, but gets cranky if I suggest he do raw as well! I've been making him a huge salad with his meat at least once a day and he LOVES it! (Before raw, I rarely made salads, which he is crazy about. After 13 1/2 years, you'd think I'd have caught on:rolleyes: ) Anyway, last night he said to me that he thinks he's lost weight because of his body getting more nutrients, due to the salads. Pretty cool for him to say so!
BTW after about a week into raw, I had a day or two where I felt really really MAD at anyone who wasn't raw! Maybe it was just a self-righteous thing, but when I'd see people buying processed junk, I'd feel furious with them. Thank goodness I used self-control. :p
Now I just smile, thinking of how good I'm going to feel. Then hopefully eventually someone will notice changes in me and ask... No one but me has noticed my changing yet.
03-19-2008, 02:03 PM
Thanks, you guys!!!!
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