Libido Returning

[commoncents]

Since you are my new family, I think I can be frank. I've suffered from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome my entire life and in my 30’s and
40’s stopped having sex because I had to utilize way more energy than it was worth.

Well, I’ll be 30 days 100% Raw on Monday and lo and behold those feelings that I thought were long buried, never to return, have been reawakened in me.

This is a truly a miracle and a true testament of what Raw Living can do for a person’s constitution and life.

[Snoozy]

That is exciting news! I'm 38 and stopped having those desires a few years ago. My husband is excited about the prospect that my new life style will help him too. :cool:

I'm not feeling those feelings yet (5 weeks raw now) but reading your post is encouraging to know it may happen sooner than later.

Have you included Maca Root powder in your diet? If you did, I was just wondering how much you use? I've been adding a teaspoon a day to my morning smoothie but I'm not sure if that enough.

[commoncents]

No, I have not included Maca yet. I tried it when I was attempting to get pregnant, but had to have a hystrectomy instead.

Tell your husband to be encouraged. Lots of fun times are ahead!!!!!!

[ShelShel]

I'm not sure if it was my libido or just becoming more fit, but mine did as well. I felt better about me and actually enjoyed the little things about being a woman. Raw definitely helps in this area. Congrats. :p

[chilove]

YAY! Now that is something to be excited about!!! :-)

Good for you!! And your husband!!! :-)

Blessings,

Audrey
www.rawhealing.com

[SandraDee]

haha... I was just about to update my blog with the same thing!! I wouldn't say it's 100% back yet... but it's on the return... and yes... this is soooo great for the marriage!!!!!! I too was tired all the time and it just felt like too much work... now it's fun again!!! Yay RAW!!!!!

Actually... to be quite frank in return... my hubby said last night... "hey if you lose too much more weight you won't be able to keep me off you" lol!!! Made my day!!!!!

[zig_zag]

Umm... yep... raw helps the libido... :o :cool:

[sproutygirl]

Yup, I've noticed it too. Or as MY husband said: "Since when do you have "needs"?" Since quite recently, as a matter of fact . ..

[Hygeia]

LOL This is a great topic, and so true.

Last time I went raw mine also increased. As ShelShel said, I'm note sure if it was my libedo returning or I was just feeling more fit and better about myself. But my DH didn't care the reasoning. hehehehehe

I can't wait to get there again, but I'm only in my first week back so I'll give it a little time.

:rolleyes:

[Conscious Midwife]

When I'm doing RAW right my screen name cahnges to

RAWMAsutra:D

High estrogen fruits do the trick every time.

[callmebecca]

Pray tell, what are some of those high estrogen fruits?

[sfdreams]

My libido deserted me...it was never very high, and with my hysterectomy it is non-existent. It is causing some problems in my life, as you can imagine. I am still waiting for it to return.

Pray tell, what are the high estrogen fruits??

[commoncents]

SFdreams: I'm not sure what the high estrogen fruits are, but I had a hysterectomy also and had no desire for sex and just eating 100% Raw fruits, veggies, nuts and seeds, I find my desires returning. No sexual desire has also been a big problem for me, but I see a light at the end of the tunnel.

[lizk]

omg I really hope this is the case with me...and soon! I feel really bad for my boyfriend.

[Aleesha Sattva]

i've noticed a big difference with being raw as well... although i'm not sure if it's the raw or releasing weight!

if you wanna raise yours... add some maca (http://www.rawveganbooks.com/product_info.php?ref=199&products_id=1001038&affiliate_banner_id=1)!!!

[carolg]

I'm married 39 years to an Italian--yes, from Italy. Sadly he is not a lover. He is pretty much bottled up inside, non expressive, little conversations, loves TV nightly as I go to the gym to workout, and very disconnected to our marriage. It is not discussed as it would be speaking to a nail who can't respond. He's totally emotionally bankrupt.

Sex is when he has the weekly or twice weekly desire. He said if it was me to have the need he would have to wait forever. Right he is, but I didn't respond to statement. Sex does nothing for me with him being so checked out of the marriage. I can't just engage in an action without having someone who is checked into being with me. Even hearing the words I love you are void in his vocabulary. I tried for years to say this to him, and with no response, I quit. Kisses from him are "bird" pecks on the lips; no hugging moments, or words of encouragement. It does get to me sometimes more than others to know that he is so disconnected. I can understand why women leave or cheat. I'm into the wedding vow commitment. Counseling is not an option.

I am not looking for anyone else. I am here for the sake of my vows and accept the situation as is. I love to talk, I love to smile, I love to laugh, I love to encourage others, I love reading and hearing motivational speakers all of which is doesn't connect to any of this here. I am grateful however that he still works, pays the bills, buys food too if this is t he best he can offer. there are no fringe benefits if he dies: no life insurance at the moment, house payments low and still have mortage, no dreams on his part, not lots of money in the bank either. He just exists for today: work, pay bills and buy food. He doesn't believe in saving money. We are not big spenders but things are expensive regardless.

Sorry to dump on you guys, but feeling quite sad at the moment that this is what life with a "boring", non conversing, non-smiling human being is like. I am pursuing my professional speaking dreams and don't let him get the best of me most of the time. We are really the story of "opposites USED to attract."

He eats pretty much the way I do, mainly raw that is, goes to the same church and that's about all we have in common as the days march on.

Last night something weird happened: I was headed to bed. He said he will be there in 5 minutes. Hours later he is not there, I get up, walk into the TV room, he was sleeping on couch so I turned off TV. He woke up at that moment and told me I was rude and he wouldn't do that to me. I thought that was a crazy statement, defended myself to him: you were sleeping, I walked in and turned off TV only. Today, didn't even get into talking about this as he is super defensive. Next time I will not turn it off, let him sleep on the couch for the hour or night and sleep in the bed. I didn't wake him up.

He's probably frustrated in the relationship too, but being some emotionally bankrupt he can't even express himself. I even have books on what men want, what women want, but he's not engaged to listen. Even our pastor yearly does a great relationship series, but still nothing has changed--it takes more than one to tango.

Thanks all for letting me be real.

carolg

[futureboy]

Ouch, sorry carolg. I had heard the saying "opposites attract... but they don't tend to stay together" and it seems to ring true again and again. My last girlfriend refused to try raw for more than 2-3 days and continued to have her milk (doctors say it's important!) and other foods. We didn't survive together. :)

As an aside I've been juicing for 1 full day now and I'm getting a massive headache and unusual skin conditions. Let's see what a few more days bring. :P Restored libido would be great, but I'm really hoping to feel more connected to the earth and life forms like other people report. That sounds like a trip. Also, sleeping 4-5 hours max per night would be icing on the cake. I could get so much more stuff done!

[Clare]

Carolg-
I am so sorry for the pain in your life right now. I also greatly admire your commitment to your wedding vows. What many of us don't know (or forget) is that true love is not warm fuzzies or how great your spouse makes you feel but how much of yourself you can give to another unconditionally. In these days when the popular mantra is to live for yourself, realize your dreams, etc, most jump ship when they no longer feel happy with their marriage. (A few for very valid reasons, I do not wish to offend those) So it is especially beautiful that you can offer up your own desires in honor of true love. When my husband and I were getting married, our priest really emphasized that the vocation of marriage is about DYING to self (ouch, so true) and helping the other to grow in holiness, mainly by example. It seems so easy when you are "in love" and though my situation is not as yours, I have had those deeply painful moments of dying to self. Since you mentioned that you go to a church, you can unite your suffering with our Lord and it will bear so much fruit (much of which you may never see in this life). This is a great time to think of family and friends and other specialy intentions you might have. There can be power in your suffering so don't let it go to waste :-)

[PeachyLove]

I read in a Norman Vincent Peale book, Positive Imaging. Well I can not remember the story verbatim, but the gist of the story was about a woman that was married to an unhappy and negative man, he complained about everything from his job to his home life. So one day the wife went to see a pastor, the wife told the pastor about her husband unhappiness and negativity. The pastor advised the wife to get up every day before her husband wake up for work and pray for positive change in her husband life, she did this everyday. The wife did this and one day she notice her husbands was happier and less negative, she continued praying over her husband every morning and her husband continued to grow more positive. People around them began commenting, about how much he changed, his employer notice the changes in him and he was awarded a promotion. Well, that's the gist of the story. Amazon has the book for $6.99.

My grandmother, has also told me many awesome stories of how prayer change what seemed to be an impossible situations.


My mother tell me just about everyday to pray. Its funny because our patio door was stuck for a little over an year and the pipes started making a weird noise. So my mother started getting up every morning and going around the house blessing everything with love and praying. Well, the pipes are not making any noise and the patio door open and close with ease. Also, my mother sell on eBay and she has been doing this for a few years. She tried everything she knew to increase her sells, but they were not increasing, Until she started praying and blessing her eBay business with love every day, now she is a powerseller. (she did not change the items she sells, she just added prayer)

Carolg,
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I am usually a lurker and reading your post compelled me to post today. As I was typing I realized, that I was sending myself a message, that I need to get back to praying. Thank you so much for being a blessing.
Robin

[Snoozy]

i've noticed a big difference with being raw as well... although i'm not sure if it's the raw or releasing weight!

if you wanna raise yours... add some maca (http://www.rawveganbooks.com/product_info.php?ref=199&products_id=1001038&affiliate_banner_id=1)!!!


Recyling goddess, do you normally add maca to your diet? Someone else posted earlier this week asking if anyone noticed weight gain from using maca. I've been using it for the last 3 weeks (to help my libido) and oddly, I haven't lost any weight at ALL these last 3 weeks. I know you just posted a thread saying that your weight was stagnant for a few months. So I'm just wondering if there isn't a pattern here???