View Full Version : Who you become, is who you were at 10
06-10-2005, 06:05 AM
Introspection on my life's path.
When I was 3, I saw dead people, and drew them, this started my psychic career.
When I was 5 I talked my mom into letting me baby sit myself, because I was more responsible than the teen age baby sitter she had previously hired.
These two things molded my life.
I have been a psychic artist and entrepeneur for many years, and I was taking care of others most of my life.
I have taken many counseling classes and every one of them specifically states that you become who you were at 10 years of age, only you are now an adult.
When I look back at my life, I see what I truly loved, I loved to draw, and make tents out of beautiful fabrics and jewelry, I loved to creat furniture and houses out of cardboard, I loved to make anything out of anything. I loved to prepare food and serve it to others, I loved to dress up and pretend that I was a queen, and a beautiful princess in a far away Arab land, and I loved to read and "be" the person in the story.
When I grew up, I was a professional belly dancer, costume designer, house builder and remodler, artist, psychic and I love antiques and architecture.
The only thing I haven't done that I truly love is to buy a beautiful older victorian home or castle, and remodle it, although I am currently remodling my personal residence, and I did build a castle on an island with secret rooms and a drawbridge, but it was new, so I never felt it really counted.
So, what did you love at 10? And what do you do now that relates?
06-10-2005, 10:26 AM
Is it of some significance that I can't even remember *being* 10? I can remember 11, at which I shot up and out to a "C" cup, fought constantly with my mother and was so confused about everything. But 10, I don't remember a thing!
06-10-2005, 10:44 AM
What the OP says is not necessarily true. Just cuz someone says it ~ even someone(s), doesn't necessarily make it true. I've also taken many counseling classes, AM a couselor and never heard that in 56 years.... not to mention (which of course I am doing) ~ what one does and who one is, is two different things.
I KNOW I've matured in the last 46 years through my experiences and the help of a wonderful mentor. I continue to do so through a wonder-filled relationship with another mature individual ~many, infact.
06-10-2005, 12:11 PM
I don't remember much except that I loved little kids. Even at ten I played with little ones more than kids my own age. I have own operated a home daycare for 21 years.
I used to draw also but I no longer draw. I wonder if my creative side took the shape of crocheting. I love to create with crochet. Doilies, scarves, lacy tops etc. I was never very good at drawing except I still have an out door forest scene I did with pastels when I was young.
My father left when I was young and I remember dreaming of a man or lover that would never leave. I have been with the same wonderful man since I was 17. I am 49 now.
It's funny that I said I couldn't remember because when you start writing and thinking, things come back to you.
My parents fought a lot when I was little and I always wanted to live a quiet 'boring' life with people that I loved and love me. I love my quiet life with my husband , grown kids and grandbabies.
06-10-2005, 07:12 PM
Oh I didn't take the OP to mean that one didn't mature and grow as time went on, but that basic likes, dislikes, and interests were formed that grew into careers, or other life-long interests or passions. I wasn't taking it as gospel, either, but similar to one of those fun personality type measuring sticks that one does, and then compares to see how much is accurate.
I was just wondering because I can't remember anything from when I was 10 to compare to now, and wondered (in a funny sense) what that said about me. :D
06-10-2005, 07:40 PM
Wasn't speaking to or about you specifically. My comments were made in general from my point of view.
Well, other than still liking crocheting and reading, I can't see any other significance in my life which I had/did when I was 10. It's like, for the most part, time to grow up and leave the lil girl things behind. I don't play house, I live it. I don't have asthma or hay fever. *shrugs* Interesting exploration though.
06-10-2005, 07:53 PM
This is just an observation of human behavior.
When we are 10 we are no longer a child, and yet we aren't an adult, nor are we into the hormones of teen hood, so this is when we start becoming who we really are.
And I know that it has certainly been my experience when working with clients that this is who they truly are inside.
So many adults think that they can't be child like or have fun, or that they Must be serious, or have to be responsilbe, and yes being responsible is a good thing, but so is playing and being playful, and enjoying each moment of each day.
If you personally can't remember when you were 10, then just think back what did you love to do when you were younger?
So many children these days watch TV and that's it, they have no imagination to draw on, as everything is in front of them
Remember when you got a big cardboard box, because someone bought a washing machine or refridgerator, that box became a fort, an house, a horse, a hipopotamus(sp?) a tiger, a dragon, a castle, a tent, a car, a stove, anything you wanted it to be. I always felt sooooo lucky that I grew up before they had all those plastic furniture for kids, as I wouldn't have used my imagination at all.
Now, when I see something like a piece of wood or a pile of 2 by 4's I see a castle, a tent, a house, a fort, and sometimes if no one else is looking, I can even see a hipopotamus, lurking within the boards.
Autumn you can come and play in my castle with me anytime you want.
07-10-2005, 10:57 PM
When I look back to myself at 10 years of age, I recall being an overachiever, love to think & analyze. Homework was my life.....had to make the printing perfect on my schoolwork. If I played outside, it was red light or green light. Playing Barbie dolls in a real life situation---belive it or not, my Barbie's had DRAMA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is something I was thinking about the other day---whether my childhood behaviors and interest refelct who I am now in later life.
I find that i am the same as in my childhood but with a healthier disposition on my self and life.
07-10-2005, 11:26 PM
I can't say that is totally true for me....at least I hope not...I was very insecure about my body and looks...and wondering if I would ever blossom...ever have confidence ....ever attract boys..and that made me soo upset....but with a lil hard work and determination I did blossom ..I did feel good about myself....there are months when I do feel very insecure and unatrractive because I think that I am the same shy quiet little girl who couldn't turn a head,couldn't stand up for herself,and let people walk all over her ...but I'm just the opposite ~ I have learned to open my mouth ...a lil too much :rolleyes: There are still times that I think that when I was 10 is still me and that will always be me~ but it really isn't I have become a wonderful,strong person through all the good and bad experiences in life,mostly bad ..if only i could see the beauty on the outside~ wait maybe your right :rolleyes:
07-12-2005, 01:26 PM
well Autumn, I dont remember 10 either, really.
Maybe I still am 10 ! :confused:
hey, cool thread. this is my first time to this site, and 2nd post. well lets see now... me at 10. i think me at 10 was my authentic self without the socializationand conditioning i expereienced in later life. i really liked myself at that age: i had no insecurites, no anxieties, and no fear. i wasn't thinking about boys, breasts, or if the other girls liked me. i had no official best friends. i was just happy running around outside in the natural environment with all the dogs and all the kids on my street and riding my bike. i just was who i was. i felt very freespirited and uninhibited. in fact, i felt extraordinary. my best friend was my dog. though i was a good kid in the main--my teacher, my dad, and my mom were all very concerned about my socialization. my mom couldn't understand why no one called and why i never called anyone...she felt i had no friends, which was, to her, "not normal". and she agreed with my dad who felt i was becoming too "bossy". my folks suggested i might become "socialized" and less wild if i went to a special school... but changed their minds pretty quickly when i said, quite sincerely: "awww! cool!!! when?!?" the subject was quickly dropped. i even asked for months when i was going to the special school, to no avail. i guess my parents were hoping to scare me and they thought banishing me would frighten me. but i thought it sounded like a terrific new adventure and i could hardly wait to get started in my travels and special education. and i enjoy travel to this day and meeting new people and doing different things and educating myself, i'm still my own person, i still love dogs, bikes, my veggies, countryside and countryfolk (and threats still do not work with me). i think my parents basically gave up on me right then and there though. i mean completely. they just quit parenting. after that if there was a problem my mom would tell my older brother (who had his own family), and he would growl: "Jenniferrrr.no swearing." or "Jenniferrr.no you cannot go out." or "jenniferrr.do you even know what 'imbecile' means?" after i called my mother an imbecile at a family gathering in front of numerous adults. yes i was 10. my parents decided that i was impossible, positively unmanageble, that i would never be civilized, a budding delinquent, and that i had failed them all personally, and all of civilization. when i was 10 my dad said that i once used to be the apple of his eye, and then said: "but not anymore." i definitely remember that, but i just thought: "daddy's drunk he doesn't really mean it." i love my parents dearly and i know they loved me too. they were good people and hard workers. and they both had little education. i still feel lucky to have had them as parents. they gave me a decent start in the world, good food, and a good life.
08-21-2005, 04:40 PM
One of my inspirations wrote this to me one time, and I totally believe it rings true with all of us:
I think our life is laid out when we are children our wishes, our dreams, our make-believe or pretend time where we are a Superman or Wonder Woman. Those dreams influence us in adulthood and the challenge is whether or not we complete the dream or make it happen when we are adults. My dream was to be a great warrior, a famous general or famous leader. I wasnt actually a general or a leader, but the warrior aspect of my life has been completed, but I continue to improve and strive to be better. Making improvements in my life is what makes me happiest of all.
02-25-2006, 07:23 PM
wow, that is amazing because I also became who I was at 10. I really got into "science" and loved medicine, and later got a degree in pre-med and worked in the allopathic field and then went onto holistic healthcare studies. I was also really into "spiritual things", like "otu there music" and experiences in nature, and then discovered later in life that I was psychic (didn't know as a child like so many do). anyway, that's pretty accurate for me.
02-25-2006, 07:33 PM
At 10, I loved to run barefoot in the hot dirt, I loved to walk in the wet, squooshy ditches when my grandpa was irrigating, I loved to sing to the cows, I loved to go camping, I loved to spend time with my grandmothers, I loved to play piano, I loved to go to the sea, I loved to hunt for mushrooms and healing herbs, I loved to hike alone in the fields and lay in the grass on my belly watching bugs, I loved to get lost in the corn, I loved the smell of cow manure, I loved to dance, I loved to travel and to dream about faraway places, I loved to sit in the tops of trees and watch the people beneath me, I loved to lay in a sleeping bag and watch the stars at night, and I loved swimming naked in the river. You're right.. I still love all of those things at 53.
Now if I could only figure out a way to make a living by doing some of those beloved things....
02-25-2006, 08:07 PM
A lot of things folk are recounting are what you did, not who you are. There's a difference.
02-25-2006, 10:43 PM
A lot of things folk are recounting are what you did, not who you are. There's a difference.
"Actions speak louder than words" ... what you DO tells me much more about who you ARE than your description of who you are. :rolleyes:
Fun string, by the way...
02-26-2006, 03:48 AM
10 was a very busy age for me. I was in the 5th grade and in a split 5th/6th class. I was very bored in school and always whipped through my work so they put me to work in the school cafeteria. I worked in the library the year prior.
My life outside of school mostly revolved around dance. I was taking lessons for ballet, tap and jazz. At home, I danced all the time. I taught some of the neighborhood kids to dance and we put on shows in the garage.
I also did all sorts of craft projects. I loved to make anything and everything. I loved to sing. To grow plants. And to write. I was an avid reader. I loved animals.
Today I can no longer dance because I am disabled. But I now have a daughter who loves to dance. She takes all of the classes that I did, plus hip hop. I still do all of the other things I did at that age. And I work at the school, helping with a certain reading program.
I don't really understand the signifigance of the age 10 though. I used to work with a woman who seemed very functional and yet was an alcoholic and drug abuser. She began using at age 8. When she went into rehab, some of us went to the weekly meetings to offer her support. She was told that since she started using, once she got clean, she would regress to that age and would have to start all over again until she caught up to the age she really was, in her early 20's.
And indeed, this seemed to be true! Once she got clean she seemed very childlike. As though she were seeing the world through totally different eyes. And she was also a writer. She wrote poems. Those too became very childlike in nature. And yet she seemed to start aging rather quickly after that. But I didn't keep in touch with her. She decided it would be best to quit that job and cut all ties with people who reminded her of her past. So I never learned what happened after that.
02-26-2006, 09:08 AM
Are you not the same person inside that you were at 10?
With the same feelings, desires, hopes, principles, likes and dislikes?
First of all, I live in the present moment. Yet, IF I look back to when I was 10, I'd have to say no...and HELL no at that! When I was 10 I had a deep love for my interpretation of what having a horse would be like; I wanted animals in my life because people were not my favorite "things" to love. I wanted to get love from my mother who was unlovable. As an adult, I've found I was wasting my time trying to receive love from those who can't give it. I had no idea of what principles were much less what mine were. I spent hours daydreaming on a swing or in a rocking chair. I was incapable of creating my daydreams ~ which was a good thing.
Now, I live my life in the present. I realize my interpretation of having horses or any other animal is not reality. They are a LOT of work and as much as I love them, I have no desire for them. I choose people over animals as far as love and being loved. I've grown in my perception of myself who I now honor. I have self-esteem, acceptance of myself and others. I enjoy food. I feel I deserve a place on this earth. I now have the power to live my life as I choose (which I didn't have at 10 ~ lucky for me) and I take my rightful place on this earth as the living, breathing, wonder-filled woman I am. I NEVER felt this when I was 10. When I was 10 I felt powerless and was not willing or capable of taking reponsibility for my life. As an adult, I have the willingness and capability and choose to do so.
When I was 10, I created drama and trauma based on the things I read, the music I listened to and the t.v. shows I watched. As an adult, I realize that is NOT the way to live ~ so! I've learned that "it is what is is" if I can't change it. I've learned acceptance. I've learned that creating drama and trauma over stuff does NOT make a difference ~ it only stops the process.
Does that answer your question? :)
In light, love, laughter ~
02-26-2006, 10:14 AM
It's funny that it would be the exact age 10, because I can totally see who I am from that age!
When I was 4, my parents started me in string lessons - I played violin, viola and then stuck with cello for several years. As I started growing, I started furthering my music talent and my choir teacher at church was also a piano teacher. I begged and begged and begged my parents to let me take piano lessons from her and let me quit the cello. Well, at age 10 they conceded and my piano teacher became the most influential person in my life. At age 10 I wanted to be just like her and now I am!!! She was an elementary music teacher and private piano teacher in her home and I do the exact same thing! As I grew I thought I would maybe do high school band (after watching Mr. Holland's Opus) and went to college for my instrumental degree - even student taught high school band and middle school band, but I also added on a K-12 vocal degree to teach general music or choir. Well, for the past 4 years I've been doing general music in elementary and private piano lessons and I couldn't be happier!!! I can't believe I get paid for what I do!!!!
02-26-2006, 07:40 PM
Fasinating thread.. At 10 I loved to read, still do. I played alot by myself, outside, pretending things. I would pretend I was a horse and gallop through the grass, or a fairy princess to be rescued by a knight or I would rescue myself! I still have a very active imagination and love to role play or create stories. I did play some video games then and I still do, they are quite fun! I also enjoyed my dance classes and oddly enough I went back to dance class this year. I'm taking clogging and loving every moment of it! I would enjoy playing card games with my grandmother and I still do enjoy playing cards, though unfortunately she has passed away. I was learning how to cook and enjoyed spending time in the kitchen and again I still do today. I could go on and on with the similarities on likes and dislikes. Unfortunately I cannot find any links to the job I do right now and my activites at age 10, well there is a small link in that I liked to 'budget' my allowance so I could purchase items that I wanted. I do work at a bank now, but that is a slim link and I think more relates to my love of shopping than my work. That makes me wonder, but I've been wondering about my career choices anyway. I think it is time for a change, but to what is the question.
02-26-2006, 09:05 PM
I forgot about the violin. I took that up at age 9 and I struggled for the first couple of weeks but soon had gotten very good at it. I was first chair in the disctrict honor orchestra. I continued to play it until I was 11 and decided to quit when I was 12. It was a tough choice. Part of me wanted to continue on, but I really needed a larger violin since I had only a 3/4 one. I also preferred rock music, and at that point in time saw no use for a violin in rock music. So I gave up the violin, joined the school chorus, and attempted to start up a rock band. That went nowhere fast. I thought I could switch from violin to guitar and that didn't work for me. My hands seem better suited to the violin. Plus the guitar I bought was a cheap one and the frets ripped up my fingers.
I do still love music, but I don't own any instruments.
02-26-2006, 09:47 PM
At 10 I loved art, was into drawing, crayons and wanted to be a virgin and get married. I also loved to brush my sister and mothers hair.. I became an art director, and graphic designer. I have tossed about the idea of going back to school to Aveda to be a hair stylist, but I think I will go back to get my bachelors in Graphic Design. I also was abandoned emotionally by both parents, and at this time, am being abandoned emotionally by my boyfriend of 7 years because I am overweight. Interesting. I do hope the latter does not last too long.
03-01-2006, 01:19 PM
Its been interesting watching the young cast of the harry potter films growing up on screen, and trying to remember what it was like to be that age.
its hard to define 'who i was' when i was 10. because who I am is unlimited, eternal ...
I have an essay in my files, written when i was 15 for my english teacher - my hopes and aspirations for the future.
there i wrote about my unquenched thirst for spirituality and predicted that at 35 i would probably be some kind of wandering monk, travelling the world, and having some kind of well paid interesting work. And that i would be focused on world transformation through self-transformation.
well, i am 35, and everything i wrote came to pass ...
which shows, either, i knew myself well even then, and or, in being true to myself along the journey, i became who i was all along.
oh yes, another thing, when i moved from New Zealand to London at aged 18, (1988) i only took two books with me, both raw books by Leslie Kenton. I still have them ... despite many moves ... and years of not following them, somehow my soul knew, 17 years ago, that i would eventually live a raw life!
03-01-2006, 03:31 PM
this is interesting. when i think back to when i was 10, it was probably one of the best experiences of my life! I was the lead of our school play - the groundhog's play - and the first girl groundhog ever to tell the weather in the annual play! i was so proud of that! My teacher, Mr. Gosen, loved theater - and he had the "lincoln center people" come to teach us, etc. i decided i wanted to be an actress.
i actually went on to become a professional actress. I haven't acted the past few years (or more):( i just gave it up and have been doing whatever jobs. i think i was depressed for a long time.
now i am not depressed anymore, and just last week i signed up for an acting class! it's been a while, so this is a big step for me, i am happy about it.
according to this theory, maybe that is the right path for me! too much for me to think beyond a class right now though.
Yes, very fascinating thread.
When i was ten I was making things all the time -- making, making, making, and doing lots of painting. I also wrote and produced plays with my younger sister and cousins. Also making up novels in my head.
Am just reconnecting with the painting and art. My 'making' these days is only in the kitchen. Thinking about this makes me think it would be re-energising to get back into knitting, crochet and dressmaking, which i used to do... Don't think I'll get back into the drama bit or the novels, but you never know.
03-22-2006, 08:22 AM
I think some people are missing the point here! The point (I think) is, as a child, a mature child (not a baby)....what did you enjoy? Things that we enjoyed as a 10-11 year old, when our personality was developed and we became our own decision making self, what did we LOVE? Yes I loved horses and wanted one desperately, and even thought I'm a grown up(and know I will never own one), still a HUGE part of me sees that absolute magnificent beauty of a horse standing in the field, or running free. I also loved to play....run and have fun...I still love "playing" with my kids...jumping on the trampoline with them, bike riding, roller skating, swimming....things I enjoyed when I was younger. I love reading! I also loved creating things from nothing, like a box turned into a fort, etc. I know there is alot left for me to do.....things I've neglected for myself that were "me" things...that have been "let go" because of nurturing my children. RP....are you listening....RP....you've reminded me to nurture myself today...to do something I love, so that I can grow,...so with that I GIVE YOU A VERY TEARY "THANK YOU"!!!
03-22-2006, 09:00 AM
That's pretty interesting. At 10 I was a mess. Hmmmm I'm still a mess! LOL But I still love to sing, although I only sing at home right now. I just joined a new Handbell Choir. I still read like crazy. Other than being a married mom of four children, I guess nothing's really changed...
03-22-2006, 07:21 PM
When I was 10 I loved to help my mom in the garden growing all kinds of things, I grew up on a farm and only wanted to be a farmer, today I restore tractors and farm equipment. I'am currently looking to sell my business and open up a year around organic greenhouse, just trying to find the right location. We live in northern ohio. Forever Young :cool:
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