Mental Clarity... its a problem

[beckyb]

Ok, I've been raw now for almost a week... Mucus is starting to clear some
but one thing I have noticed is I seem to be coming out of a mental fog..

Does that make sense?> I have been awake since 0445am, thinking about
my childhood, things that happened in my past ... It all seems alot clearer
as to why I have certain phobias, food dislikes (textures), etc.

Also, when I woke up, I looked at my husband and thought, Why did I marry
this guy?> He is so irresponsible, has no CLEAR picture of what he is doing
with his life, no direction.. just lives day to day with no plans.. He is 41 years
old. I am starting to SEE clearer the BIG picture and he is still in a fog..
although he did eat raw last night because I didn't "cook"...

In fact, don't most people walk around mentally asleep..?? I want to
scream.. WAKE UP people...

Ok, I'm done... thanks for letting me vent..
BB

[Revvell]

Hi Becky,

Yup! It's common. Good awareness. Glad you're sticking with it.

Revvell

[rawpriestess]

Dear Becky B,

Yes, this is what raw brings to us. A clarity of thought, a vision of our true purpose.

[angelandarose]

Yes, this is what raw brings to us. A clarity of thought, a vision of our true purpose.


YES YES and this is what keeps me raw too. I love the clarity. I lived my life is such a fog at one point I thought I was really mentally slow. HA! I was, but it wasn't a birth defect, it was an eating disorder. Eating this way was like the next logical step on my journey of who I really am.

Enjoy and don't fret over those still in the fog. They will either find their own way out or they wont. Just enjoy your clarity and be that example.


Love,
Angie

[nif]

hey,
well i can very much relate to you wanting to scream at people to wake up, and your overall frustration at how people in a fog aren't thinking! and of course my cooked husband gets the brunt of it just like yours!

but it isn't really his fault, i mean like i picked him, so obviously he has something i need, right??? actually, he's a sweetheart and if i'm totally honest with myself the real problem isn't him at all, it's all the other ones i have to deal with in my day!!!

actually, my husband--compared to the rest of society--is a pretty high-functioning, compassionate, thoughtful dude!!! he's awsome. maybe he's not on my level in every aspect but we have been great friends and he is growing as am i. we help each other. we both have strengths and weaknesses. and he communicates so much better now... he even says to me now: "I understand. And I can see how this is hard for you. (to interact with morons)". as you grow so will your man and vice-versa. if i were perfect i wouldn't need to be with anyone. he hasn't got everything i want but he has everything i need.

the love and friendship you share will get you through it. i have a hard time with patience... its my biggest liability but i have to concentrate to work on my love. what we concentrate on grows.

but i know exactly what you are talking about, the important thing is that your husband is on his own path and as you grow so will he and vice versa. i try to give my husband some space too, in the mornings before work and in the evenings after, so he can unwind and have the mental space to work on his own life issues. This is how he will gain that clarity you feel he lacks. "give him the space and watch for the openings" when he is ready to accept your guidance. plant the seeds and watch them grow. nurture his true self. that's how we all grow--with a little watchful patience. we all need the space to think things through, its actually working on his subconscious levels. i think of myself as a guide and unconditional supporter to my husband on his issues but i let him work it out himself rather than doing it for him. he fights his own battles and i fight mine. sure i still nag and whine and bitch sometimes but i am learning how to love him the way he needs to be loved more every day. its hard sometimes to love unconditionally and without expectation. all women want their husbands to have more ambition or success or drive or motivation, who doesn't want a better life? we can always get what we want but if we try sometimes we just might get what we need. we all want to be around someone we feel is our equal, but no one can be equal in every way, we all brings certain skills and abilities and contributions to the relatioship, and its about giving and taking. he has things i need i have things he needs. it evens out. hey, i may be smarter than him in some areas, but he's smarter than me in a lot of ways too. he can't cook, hell he can't boil water, or clean, or balance a checkbook, but he can fix a broken seal, change sparkplugs, install an automatic outdoor light fixture, install a heater, repair the roof, and so on. and although he doesn't like his job all the time he goes to work every day and brings his paycheque and all his love home to me. he would do anything to make me happy. and he still makes better money than i do. he comes home every night. he tells me he loves me. i can see it in his eyes. he says i'm beautiful. he loves me. he's a good honest kind loving man, but he's not perfect and neither am i. he had some problems asserting himself at work in the family company and now he's asserting himself as a result of my coaching and support. it took years but i noticed that his growth really speeded up as i improved in my role and my abilities and communication in the guiding/unconditional support role. so the lesson i learned in that is that i need to work on my stuff first so he can work on his stuff. we each have our own stuff but he is my equal and he loves me and i love him and yes i can be a total demanding impatient nasty beeeotch and god bless him for loving me anyway. what a great heart he has to love me as much as he does. god has blessed me. i prayed to have a beautiful man like i've got for years and now i've got him i've just got "to learn how to love him" and that means being as grateful as i can taking it one day at a time for what i have been to so blessed to have. the biggest lesson in this life is learning how to love each other. it sure ain't easy. don;t let your newfound clarity ruin what you have. help him instead by loving him for not being the perfect guy but for being your guy.