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simply_michelle
12-23-2007, 08:05 AM
I caved yesterday and caved bad. People who read this blog must think I am nuts! I say I am doing this blog so you can follow my weight loss journey and yet I have not had one good day yet! If I could I would just crawl into bed today and sleep all day long. I don't want to have to do anything today. BUT, I have church this morning then I have to volunteer for an hour or so at hockey and sing at church tonight. SO NOT ON THE MOOD TO DO ANY OF IT.

I have lost over 40 pounds so far. I had lost almost 100 but gained all but 40 back because I lost it the wrong way. All my life I have struggled with this. I lose weight but literally restricting my calories down to the 600-900 level, follow that til I lose a bunch and of course, that eventually sets me up for non-stop bingeing. And that is where I am at right now. I had restricted for quite some time and lost a bunch of weight. BUT, then when I started eating again I just could not stop. And it has been months of this now. I would say since about the end of June I have been eating non-stop with only a few good days here and there. Now, the scary part is, I see my son following in my footsteps. He is only 10 but already eats when he is not hungry or out of boredom. He is going to struggle with weight I can see it. I have got to break this cycle.

Part of my problem is that I am so all or nothing. When I want weight off I want it off NOW and I must stop thinking that way. It did not come on overnight and won't come off overnight either. I must realize that by transitioning into the right way of eating and not starving myself I will be able to keep the weight off. If it takes a year it takes a year, so what. I also think part of the problem is that I am not looking at this is a family situation. I am trying to fix me and my eating and yet still buying the same junk for my kids! That is not good for them and it just tempts me. So no more of that either. They can eat what I am eating. And my son NEEDS to change how he eats and his relationship with food NOW. And I need to do that for him.

Today when I get home I am cleaning all of the junk food out of this house. I am going to email my family and tell them not to buy me or the kids anymore candy, etc... I don't want it in the house. I will explain to them why too. Started tomorrow this is going to be a family affair. I will also plan out the meals for the week today and have it all set. And plan my schedule for the week.

I am an intelligent person, I KNOW what I have to do and how to do it. I am killing myself here and teaching my children awful things about one's relationship with food. THAT IS SCARY! I don't know how I managed when I was 40 pounds heavier because I feel awful right now. My whole body is stiff, I can't get comfortable at night, and sometimes it is really hard to breathe. My legs and back absolutely kill me.

I know that I also cannot think in black and white about raw. Will I try to have my family be as close to raw as possible? yes I will. But will we be 100%? Maybe eventually but not right now. AND I AM OK WITH THAT. Right now I just want to stop the overeating. I want to stop having unhealthy food in my house. I want to only eat when I am absolutely hungry. Eat when I FEEL hunger, not when I am bored or tired or lonely. I want to log what I eat and yes, track the calories. I struggle with whether or not I should set a calorie limit but again wonder if that sets me up as well because if I go over what I set for myself than I figure "oh what the heck, I already blew it anyway, just keep going". I think it would be better to just track what I am eating and be sure I am only eating when PHYSICALLY hungry.

That is all I have time for right now. I wish today was done so I could start me and my family fresh tomorrow. But at least today I can prepare for it.

kmik
12-23-2007, 08:17 AM
I'm right there with you for everything! My youngest daughter is always "hungry" and would live off of bean burritos and cheese if I let her. I have to set the example now!

I've also "started" so many times I can't count. I'll wake up one morning totally resolved to a life of 100% raw, then by 10 am, I didn't have time for breakfast and I'm stressed and out running errands, and I'll go through a drive through :(

BUT... a week ago I started eating high fat raw. Amazingly any desire for bad food has been totally controllable. And I lost 10 lbs in the first 5 days :D You're welcome to visit my blog to get the details, http://www.rawfoodtalk.com/blogs/blog-2230/ (starting with the first 12/17 entry) but I just want to say that your persistance will be a testament to your success. As long as you don't give up, you will find a way to accomplish what you feel in your heart is right for you.

DavidZaneMason
12-23-2007, 01:20 PM
Opinion:

-You can't build a life from a bedrock of non-self approval, crisis, suffering, or deprival. There IS a level of eating you ARE comfortable with now. Accept that...and stretch from there. The easiest way to lose weight and transition (in my own experience.....having dropped 1 lb a week for about 60 weeks straight....) is to eat much MORE....but make them low-calorie, high-nutrient, healthier alternatives like fresh fruits and vegetables, fresh chopped nuts, salads, grains (if you eat them), etc. By healthier low-calorie meals more often...it will keep your metabolism up....and help you to move to...and maintain a healthy weight.

-Make sure to journal your experiences...and food intake....and write down your goals with timetables. Take part in open eating support groups where you can talk about what is intimate to you....and support others....to go beyond your own paradigm.

-Just some tips...from my own experiences....which I hope are helpful.

-David Z. Mason

meinleben
12-23-2007, 01:24 PM
jafra

have you ever looked into doug graham 80/10/10......it is amazing.....total health and freedom....

simply_michelle
12-23-2007, 03:46 PM
thank you everyone for your support and recommendations. i will take each one to heart.

i am journaling on my blog in my sig line below, every day. the good, the bad, and the ugly. and i will continue to do so.

thank you again.

angelulu
12-23-2007, 08:05 PM
Hi,
I have been reading your posts every day (but have not ready our blog yet) and want to give you my support and tell you my thoughts...
It sounds like you have a super busy life and are on the go all the time. I understand how that can be, to write a 'to do' list for the day that is near impossible to accomplish and you are exhausted when it is all over. I think it is the same thing when making a transition, trying to pack so much change into such a small period of time that it is quite difficult. Don't be so hard on yourself! Give yourself credit for the baby steps that you make in the right direction, and that will encourage you and your family to continue to make baby steps in the right direction. For example, in your post today... setting up a game plan and realizing that your son will benefit from these changes is a HUGE step in the right direction. Give yourself credit for your positive thoughts and actions today, and build on it tomorrow.
Rome was not built in a day...you can do it!! ;)

Portia2012
12-23-2007, 08:31 PM
Oh good I am not the only one struggling. Every day I tell myself this is the day and then I go to work and I am so hungry by break that I cave. Any suggestions for me?

~Portia~

ShelShel
12-23-2007, 08:56 PM
Seriously...try just bringing tons of snacks with you! It's weird to say, but when I started I could eat you out of house and home. It didn't calm down for months. If you aren't supplied with enough food...you will get hungry at a moments notice and need something. If nothing raw is around...You're going to cave. You are a human being. Support yourself and pack something in your purse. This is a great time for raw bars. They store well...come prepackages...and they are usually made with nuts and seeds which will stay with you longer. (You can of course make these at home yourself, but when I'm in a hurry...I buy them.)

Grab a bottle of Kombucha...it's suppose to help with hunger.

It's all about the prep. Care about yourself enough to plan ahead. ;) Good Luck!

justinesmith
12-23-2007, 09:07 PM
The hardest part for me was something you mentioned and that is only eating when I am hungry ~ not bored, sad, tired etc.... Lately I've been struggling not to stuff my face with crap as I have not been sleeping well. I feel crummy, I want crummy food. I've got to fill that feeling with goodness instead. If I can change those feelings into something postive, there will be nothing but success. Good luck girl and I hope you're still planning a trip to Georgia next year! ;)

maui_butterfly
12-24-2007, 04:51 PM
you're coming to some big realizations, and you're right YOU ARE AN INTELLIGENT PERSON, and a strong one. i support you and want to say that i think you're doing great. its a process, and you're about to take some big steps forward, be gentle with yourself and kind and forgiving (but firm and determined too)!

everyone is different, but the master cleanse really helped me jump start my raw foods journey. i kicked my coffee addiction and truly felt clean and fresh and like i didn't want to put anything draining into my newly-scrubbed system. and when i first started with raw foods after the cleanse, i ate loads of calories and still lost weight. now i just naturally don't eat that much, i don't have to limit it or "force" it. i just eat whenever i want to, as long as its raw. still losing.

and for my daughter, no limits on healthy foods. other foods are regulated and/or not allowed. kids go through growth spurts and sometimes really need to consume HUGE amounts, so i think putting them on "diets" or rigid systems is asking for trouble (secret eating, binging, etc.)

trust the process. you're on the right path. what you are going through now is a tremendous learning process, so be grateful for that too!