Staying Raw Poll: Easier When Single or Married?

[Courtney]

Hi y'all.

Let's take a poll here. Do you think it's easier to stay raw if you're single or married?

I'm single and so far I've stayed 100% raw. However, I was thinking that if I were tempted to slip.......there wouldn't be anyone to stop me or lay a guilt trip on me (except ME, of course).

I think it might be harder to stay raw if I were married and my hubby were eating cooked meat around me. On the other hand, he could "police" me and prevent me from nibbling his food.

I suppose when it comes right down to it, staying raw has to come from a deep, inner motivation. Once we have that, it won't matter where we are and with whom we live.

Courtney

[ChaiLife]

Since my hubby (whose also my best friend ever for 17 years!) is going raw too, I'd say it's easier being married. We keep each other accountable but have also made each other slip up. :) It's fun to have a partner to go through the journey.

Yesterday he called me from his cell phone and said "talk be down off the ledge" which meant I am having cravings and about to give in to them. So I reminded him of how bad he would feel if he ate something cooked and how he would be tired and wouldn't function well at work under all the pressure. Also reminded him how frisky raw makes you feel and that alone it worth staying raw. He thanked me and stayed raw all day. He told me tlater that his cravings were horrible but he was able to get through after talking to me on the phone. And I call him when I get the munchies too. :)

[The Forager]

I'd say easier single if your partner isn't doing it with you. I make my husband's food and it is VERY hard not to have any of those fries/whatever else crap.

[LadyGilliam]

I would say being single also. My husband supports me in what I'm doing but he is staying very much SAD. He is quite the twig and can eat pretty much anything he wants without gaining weight so I don't think he understands my struggles. Considering that I lost weight before I met him and put weight back on after we were married...single is much easier.:D

[Shell]

I also think it's easier to be raw when single. I know if I was married, and my husband was SAD, I know it would make it THAT much harder to stay raw....well, at least in the beginning.

[sciencegal]

Hmm,so its easier to stay raw when you're single??? I guess it would be because we only have ourselves to blame if we slip up. On the other hand, if one is single and their partner is not raw, I would imagine that would be hard, too, IMO. For me personally, it's been harder because of other people, but I guess its a psycological thing. I'm making progress, though!!! RAW RAWKS!!!!! Sciencegal:D :D

[Nurse in the Raw]

Well, my husband is away for 5 days and it has been so much easier for me. No temptations, just me and my blender and juicer. I am in heaven. If he were not such a great guy, I would throw him out with the microwave, stove and all of the nasty condiments in the fridge.

[Raw Jewelrylady]

My Husband eats most of my Raw food, but also eats some cooked, but healthier things~no junkfood. He is extremely supportive of Raw & has seen the changes in me.

In fact, he is my #1 cheerleader. He tells everyone about what I am doing. He just called me a few minutes ago & said a friend was in the shop & wants to meet with me to learn about Raw as he was telling her everything. How nice. Now that I write about him, he's a pretty cool dude.;) He also picks veggies for me & waters the tomatoes.:)

To answer the ?, I think it is up to the individual, but cooking food is hard when you are Raw. I truly think that it is very hard to be with someone who does not support Raw. I know , for me, I would not want to.

RJL

[Tiffany]

For me, its easier being married because I am married to a hardcore longterm (9+ years) raw foodist. While I was raw before we met, I go back and forth when I'm on my own. He is so dedicated that it inspires me, and he spends a lot of time preparing food and so I eat what he prepares. He can also really appreciate what I prepare so I enjoy making raw food for the both of us.

The downside for me personally is that I feel more guilty when I eat cooked food than I would if it were just me. I try to avoid telling him if I do, although I won't lie about it. I prefer to be honest about it, but I won't mention it if I don't really have to.

However, I KNOW that if I was married to a cooked food eater, I'd probably still be yo-yoing much more than I do. Probably would just be vegan. Its just the way I am. Might take me another 10 years to get to all raw even though I know I feel best when I am.

[codajess]

I think it depends on if your partner is raw or not. If they're raw, I'd say it's easier. If they're not raw, i'd say it's easier being single.

[freelive]

You summed it up perfectly. If a partner is not raw, then I can not throw out all the cooked food and not to have temptation in the house. It is like for alcoholic to have alcohol in the house, when he is trying to become sober.
I think the biggest obsticle is though the fact, that when we eat just healthy food-no exitotoxins, then our life must be interesting by itself-we will need to do and learn new things, to meet interesting people, etc. Fruits and veggies, though delicious, do not provide entertainment and sleepiness(mental and physical)like cooked food does.

[AICgem]

My hubby totally not raw and always wants to know when I'm going to eat like normal people!!
Great support system, huh?

[Courtney]

Thanks y'all.

This is a great thread! I feel grateful that I can pursue a raw food diet without the aroma of cooked animal food wafting around me! For those of you with SAD-eating husbands, stay strong! We can't really change other people; we can only change ourselves. One can, however, influence others by setting an example, so: BE the change.

For those of you with rawfoodist husbands: count your blessings! :)

I have to say:the fellowship of likeminded raw foodists is so important. As a single, I know sometimes occasional loneliness can prompt me to reach out for the bad "comfort food."

It's sure nice to have y'all to keep me accountable. Thanks for that.

Courtney

[sbaker]

my thin, muscular well built non-raw husband brings home pizza every friday night, among other things, it's way harder!

[OneBite@aTime]

My husband eats SAD, my kids-about 1/2 and 1/2. I think it would be less tempting if one were single or married to a RAW spouse. You cannot eat what is not in the house!

[GlimR]

I would think single for sure unless your partner is raw..then you are following the same path. It's taken me a long time, several years, to get to the place where I can feed my SAD husband and sad day care children and still maintain a raw way of eating for myself...but it IS possible.

Sometimes I imagine that when I open my fridge it will be only raw, beautiful food in there. But...I love him and we have a great marriage. He is VERY supposrtive and will do whatever I need him to to make it easier on me...it's all a journey, no matter married or single~

[sagebabies]

my husband is not supportive, in fact, he very much discourages me from pursuing 100% raw. he thinks it is a fad diet and way too extreme and not balanced. so if I go 100% I have to deal with his discouragement and lack of support. it's no fun. and it makes it a lot harder to eat how I want. and I have 3 children who will not be raised raw (although they eat very, very healthy and a lot of raw). if it were just me I would be able to pursue this w/ much more ease.

[Vegan Princess]

Single. I've been doing this for 8 or 9 mos and started dating someone a month ago...we're still in the going out to eat phase...which makes staying raw a lot harder. He was cute and bought me all sort of veggies at the store the other day, but it it's still hard when you're eating at someone else's house and around their food.

Cindy

[Courtney]

Hey SBaker!

Your hubby sounds like a real hunk, though, pizza-eater or not. Hold on to him!:D

Courtney

[Revvell]

Without going through all the posts, I agree with this line.



I suppose when it comes right down to it, staying raw has to come from a deep, inner motivation. Once we have that, it won't matter where we are and with whom we live.

When I was single, I decided to become vegetarian in 1977. Being that I was dating and there were no sites like this at the time, it didn't happen until 9 years later when I met my teacher. With his support and knowledge, that was it. 22 years later, I'm still vegetarian.

When I met Bo, I took him to one of my favorite vegetarian restaurants. (I was raw at that time). He passed. He also ate everything I made in the raw category.

Since we got married and he's moved over here, he totally supports me in my food choices and I support him in his... although, whenever possible I do encourage him to eat/drink more fresh, raw foods than he normally would eat. He's almost always up for smoothies. It's the least I can do. :p

Which is easier? Neither/both depending on one's support system (including your own internal one).

Revvell

[Stina]

Nice post Revvell. It's taken me a year as a single person to become raw. And I don't have anyone to blame that on but me!

[Courtney]

Without going through all the posts, I agree with this line.



When I was single, I decided to become vegetarian in 1977. Being that I was dating and there were no sites like this at the time, it didn't happen until 9 years later when I met my teacher. With his support and knowledge, that was it. 22 years later, I'm still vegetarian.

When I met Bo, I took him to one of my favorite vegetarian restaurants. (I was raw at that time). He passed. He also ate everything I made in the raw category.

Since we got married and he's moved over here, he totally supports me in my food choices and I support him in his... although, whenever possible I do encourage him to eat/drink more fresh, raw foods than he normally would eat. He's almost always up for smoothies. It's the least I can do. :p

Which is easier? Neither/both depending on one's support system (including your own internal one).

Revvell

Thanks, Revvell. Yeah, it must have been super hard to stick with it with no support forums like this. You're an inspiring role model!

Courtney

[Frugal Raw]

It really depends on where you both are with it. My DH and I have transitioned from SAD to l/o veg to vegan to raw vegan, and I've been the forerunner. When times have been that I still cooked meat for him, I never wanted it, but hated having to be around it. Now, transitioning to raw, I don't mind terribly if he wants something cooked from time to time, but it is much nicer when we're on the same page.

Would it be easier if I were single - possibly, but I don't think that it would be as interesting! I'd probably stick to more mono-meals, rather than fixing exotic things to peak my dh's interest!