View Full Version : going raw day 7 emotional help
08-06-2007, 08:06 PM
I want to share my story and see if anyone here has any insights. I know I will find some encouragement.
I am 37yo mom to 6 dc age 1-11. I am about 70 pounds overweight (12pounds per baby). I herniated a lumbar disc this spring and was in the hospital for a week. The back pain has been on and off for years, this was the worst. I haven't been able to loose weight this summer becaus it hurts to move even with all the (poison) meds. I also am (was) medicated for mild depression--my dosage was increased this spring.
So Last Monday I decided I had enough of being SAD and fat and lazy and a no fun mommy and mate. I ate a few veggies then at 10 PM I got a head ache. It was so bad the next day I couldn't move or tolerate any noise. I starting throwing up and didn't stop for 12 hours. Couldn't move for another 12.
I started to eat raw slowly and was able to have a "normal" day by Friday. My back still hurts--I understand it may be the last to really detox. But I am getting emotionally nuts. I cry at everything unusual for me. I have been screaming at my kids also a bit unusual. I even got in a fight with my DH for the first time in a long time over something rediculous, but what was worse was my emotional reaction. He took off for work the kids and I had to be somewhere but then I couldn't come home afraid I would do something really dumb. So we did some shopping therapy ;) I am feeling better now, but still feel like a failure at everything in my life.
My kids keep telling me they love me--that helps a lot.
So...Has anyone else had such emotional/psychological detoxing?
My DH doesn't get the whole raw thing and just wants me better and wants to know when that will happen. Will it or am I going to go crazy?
I am a Christian and this is stretching my faith. I would love to retreat and come home a new me, but that is not realistic.
In the heart of my DH's home with my olive branches (11/96, 9/98, 5/00, 9/02, 9/04, and 7/06) around my table. (Ps 128:3)
08-07-2007, 12:14 AM
Don't Worry Be happy !
big changes in life take time...
I learnt it by my own expirience...
I was depressed since i finished school... and been on drugs against it...
I never thought it will get better and was on the way to my grave... mainly emotionally... lost contact with all my friends etc...
Raw... wow.... such a gracefull thing...
Im on day 29 today and so happy to see the horizon to my new way of life...
I became much happier... actually the happiest ever in my life... still got some issues with weight and eating dissorders... but they seem to disappear aswell....
on my first days i had the crazy tantrums aswell... was mad with everything and everyone... and was crying myself out for not succeeding ect...
so you're not alone ! and im sure you will hear lots of other stories of emotional detox (there was a thread not long ago about it look it up)
anyway I really really recomand to go and see a healer ( energetic healing) for at least a couple of times.... it was the best thing I could have done for myself.... realised so much about myself life and people it was amazing... still is....
anyway don't lose hope ! you're on day 7! and damn we know how hard that is.... so even if you'll need to close yourself up to other till u get to day i dunno 12 maybe and get really into it and comfotable with it.. do it :) just feel good...
and smile ! all for the best really...
seems you have lovely kids and you're so lucky they tell you they love you....
you really are ! believe me it's not easy for us kids to say that...
Good luck and may the path will be as easy as it can be :) We're all here to support you anyway so come back with any problems ;)
08-07-2007, 12:29 AM
Things WILL get better. Check your area for a Group to meet with..Check meetup.com. Remember,,,,,,this is a Journey, so take your time and enjoy the View. Sometimes trying to make all the Recipes can mess you up. Try keeping it SIMPLE.......eating WHOLE RAW FOOD, as in Salads, baby carrots, Fruit, its handy and you can RELAX.
I wish you everything you need to Stay RAW......Welcome to MY World.
08-07-2007, 08:52 AM
Detoxing is like peeling an onion. There are layers. They shed at different times.
I can identify with you. I have 5 children and weight that I never did get rid of. I considered myself a no-fun mommy at times.
I am religious, too. One day I was praying to know what to do. I heard a voice, a still small voice in my head say, "Cleanse your liver." Sometimes when the Holy Ghost whispers, do you wonder if you heard right? ;) I had never heard of such a thing. I did not even know you could do this.
I went onto the internet and did a search on cleansing the liver. Low and behold you can do this. People have been doing this naturally for a long time. Big surprise to me and gratefulness in my heart for a loving Heavenly Father who hears and answers prayers even if it's not the answer I was expecting.
I did several fasts/colon cleanses and liver cleanses. I considered myself an angry person. I felt that I was always yelling at my kids for something. One thing that I read is that anger is stored in the liver. Emotions are real. They can make us happy or sad or sick. I noticed after doing liver cleanses and getting out gall stones, lots of gall stones, that I was not such an angry person. In fact I was kind of nice. I didn't yell at the kids. They would still not do chores in a timely manner, but my way of handling things changed.
I did several week-long colon cleanses, too. Each time I did my colonics (twice a day)I would use essential oils. I used oils for the emotions. I used them over my heart, on my temples, on my stomach, liver area. I rubbed on oils, massaged my stomach (intestinal area) and meditated as I was cleansing. Along with all of the crud that came out, so did the emotions. I am sure of it.
I was doing great. I had lost weight. That was not my objective, really. It was to get healthy. Losing weight was just a bonus. So I was doing great until three years ago. Both of my parents died within two months of each other. That sent me for a loop. Sorry to say, but mini chocolate donuts became my comfort, among other comfort foods. I gained back all of the weight I had lost except for about 6 pounds.
I decided in March of this year, it was coming up on three years since my parents died, that I needed to get a handle on my life again. It was time to move on. I had to tools to make the changes. I had the knowledge. I had done this before. I just needed to do it. I started exercising and eating better. I was doing pretty good. One day I saw the Tyra Banks show with Alissa Cohen on there. Her words rang true. I connected with her so strongly. I had to check out her website. I loved what I read and knew that this was what I needed to do. So here I am.
So, that's my story. I shared it in hopes that you could see that you are not alone. I have been where you are. Emotions are real. They do get stored in the body and have to come out or they will manifest in physical illness. I read a really good book called, "Feelings Buried Alive Never Die," by Karol Truman. She went through lots of emotional healing as did her husband. She writes about that and gives tools to help overcome emotional scarring.
This healing journey that I have taken started about 9 years ago. It takes time to figure things out, to read and learn and do. You will have ups and downs. Just know that this is a journey, a time of learning and growing for you. You are not alone and there are answers.
08-07-2007, 09:08 AM
BEC414, things will definitely get better. Emotional detox is so difficult. Many of us feel like we're going crazy because our emotions are all over the place. Happy one minute, totally depressed the next. Yelling at everyone around us, or loving everyone around us. Feeling hopeless and helpless....and on and on. I HATE EMOTIONAL DETOX because sometimes it can get so bad you can't control your actions. That's when it gets scary!:eek: :( But...we all go through it - and as we stay on the raw journey it will probably happen more than once. It's like ridding our bodies of the foods we taking in. We do that in layers - it's the same with emotional detox. We live in the world-garbage comes in whether we want it or not, and it has to go out.
Just hang in there. It sounds like your family really loves you and wants to help you through this. It also sounds like you understand what you might be going through. This too shall pass. Everything does!:)
08-07-2007, 09:13 AM
You are in the right place, at the right time, for all the right reasons. This forum will provide you with the support you need but as others have said get a local buddy or group too. Also definately get a copy of Alissa's book if you haven't already.
Emotional Detoxing is part of the journey. Exhale and know that all that stufff is better out than in. As you body heals and strengthens find a physical way to release that energy and consider yoga and quiet meditation early each day to prepare youself to better manage the family.
SELF CARE AND SELF LOVE will make you a better mate and mommy, and they will all love you for having the fortitude to go through the process to get there.
Love, light and laughter for you journey.
Ayesha...mommy of five ( ages 3-19), wifey of 1;)
08-07-2007, 09:38 AM
This too shall pass...
Emotional detox can be the worst part of detoxing from the SAD diet! Hang in there, keep eating raw, meditate (or pray), try to relax, and it will pass. I remember my first 2 weeks were the worst, but after that I felt like a new person, calmer, more centered, more loving & open. Raw does wonderous things to the heart and mind! :)
08-07-2007, 11:21 AM
I had a day, not too long after becoming raw, that I cried over the loss of my marriage/divorce and that was 4 years prior! :eek: Anddddd I was the one that left. I guess I never really did deal with my deeper emotions. It was weird.
Sometimes if you eat a very bad SAD it's better to take it a little slower when going raw. Detoxing too fast can really make an unhealthy person sick.
08-07-2007, 03:07 PM
Thank you for the support.
I need to work on sleep and excercise--but how when I just want to stay in bed and cry and hide so I don't yell at anyone. On top of the achs and pains that seem so intense, like everything else is right now.
So any idea how long this will last?
08-07-2007, 03:17 PM
I can't say how long it will last for you. Everyone is different!
I know how scary it feels to be irrational and emotional. 3 days into my first juice fast I stood in the middle of a busy street and sobbed my eyes out! Stuff came up that had happened to me when I was 7 that I had never before thought about.
This might sound strange, but try not to resist the process of detox. I have a very great friend who reminds me when I am getting frustrated with things not happening quick enough for my liking that being impatient means you are resisting the process and not allowing it to happen and unfold as it should. Relax and accept that you may feel a bit rubbish for a day or two and be extra kind to yourself while you are going through it.
I find EFT (www.emofree.com) fantastic as a self help tool to tap away troubling thoughts or emotions. I also use emotrance to help me flow stuck energy (and that's all emotions are - stuck energy) through the body.
Remember this too shall pass :)
08-07-2007, 03:28 PM
I think a massage would really be beneficial to you if you are able to afford one. Massage is very relaxing and cleansing. If you can't afford one, you can always do a self-massage. You will be amazed at how much comfort and pleasure your own hands can bring you. I tend to use sesame oil and I also put it in my hair to massage my scalp and face.
08-07-2007, 03:32 PM
I am finding that spending time in a sauna or doing anything that really makes me sweat is helping my detox phase go by quicker. The harder you are working, the faster the toxins can leave your body. I would also suggest doing some dif. cleanses if you can. I think these are the things that are helping me along with taking time when I feel stressed, I take a few minutes to myself and picture my body being clean and I picture how I want to be.
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