Sent husband shopping, big mistake!

[Lay-Lay]

Posted this in my blog, but thought I would share with the forum!

My hubby and I discussed just last week that once to freezer was empty from all thing not vegetarian that we would no longer buy any items that weren't vegetarian. My hubby seemed to have slipped and hit his head because I sent him to get produce and came back with 3 packs of steaks , eggs, hotdogs, sandwich meat, sausage, bread, bread, bread, & packaged cookies.:eek: Has he gone mad :confused: . And guess what was worse of all? NOT A SINGLE VEGETABLE OR FRUIT! Not one! What was I suppose to eat. Last night for dinner I sat there sooooo hungry and I had decided not to eat since there was nothing to eat for me. He kept apologizing and kept saying I have no clue what I was thinking. Anyway my stomach was turning and I ended up finding a potato and ate that. :mad:

On top of it all is he went over are grocery budget for the week by $50.00 and we have NO produce. :rolleyes:

Anyone else had an experience like this before?

[Bethanie]

That's quite an experience:D
My husband says i overbuy but when i find a real bargin i buy as much as i can.
He keeps saying that he's going to go to the store with me so i don't buy too much. I hope he never does, i'm trying to eat more raw and i fix the meals.
Next time you go that way you will get what you want to eat, i can only imagine how sad you were feeling watching him bring all that dead food into the house.
Put a little money aside if you can so that you will have what you want to eat:)
We women have to look out for ourselves:)
Love Beth

[RawVegan4Health]

Your husband needs to find a way to come up with the money to buy you some produce. If this means he has to sell some of his tools or whatever, then so be it. I would never starve out my wife or kids, he should not do the same for you. This is his fault, he recognizes it. He should also realize that you need to eat to survive, and he needs to ensure you are fed.

It seemed when you posted this that you were not all that upset. I guess that is good. That will not make any progress. However, I also did not get any indication that he was actually doing anything about other than saying he is sorry while stuffing his face.

If I did that to my wife, you can bet she would have kicked my a$$ all over the place and made me find the extra money to feed her something extravagant.

[garden granny]

I would have made him return a few of the items and get you some produce.

[Craig]

Posted this in my blog, but thought I would share with the forum!

My hubby and I discussed just last week that once to freezer was empty from all thing not vegetarian that we would no longer buy any items that weren't vegetarian. My hubby seemed to have slipped and hit his head because I sent him to get produce and came back with 3 packs of steaks , eggs, hotdogs, sandwich meat, sausage, bread, bread, bread, & packaged cookies.:eek: Has he gone mad :confused: . And guess what was worse of all? NOT A SINGLE VEGETABLE OR FRUIT! Not one! What was I suppose to eat. Last night for dinner I sat there sooooo hungry and I had decided not to eat since there was nothing to eat for me. He kept apologizing and kept saying I have no clue what I was thinking. Anyway my stomach was turning and I ended up finding a potato and ate that. :mad:

On top of it all is he went over are grocery budget for the week by $50.00 and we have NO produce. :rolleyes:

Anyone else had an experience like this before?


Consider a lesson learned, Never send a man to a woman's job (No offense intended). If I haven't gone vegan, I would brought these same items myself.

We men do not like shopping. We like go in get what we wanted and get out ASAP.

[Veganforlife]

He'd be my EX!

[Lay-Lay]

That's quite an experience:D
My husband says i overbuy but when i find a real bargin i buy as much as i can.
He keeps saying that he's going to go to the store with me so i don't buy too much. I hope he never does, i'm trying to eat more raw and i fix the meals.
Next time you go that way you will get what you want to eat, i can only imagine how sad you were feeling watching him bring all that dead food into the house.
Put a little money aside if you can so that you will have what you want to eat:)
We women have to look out for ourselves:)
Love Beth

Yeah, we usually shop together, but I said if you go shopping I'll clean up the house while your gone. I thought it was a fair bargain, LOL. He asked me what we needed and I said lettuce and all the fixins for a nice salad and fruit, and some green beans (love snacking on green beans at work).

[jeannieh99]

Consider a lesson learned, Never send a man to a woman's job (No offense intended). If I haven't gone vegan, I would brought these same items myself.

We men do not like shopping. We like go in get what we wanted and get out ASAP.

ROTFLOL!!!!
This thread had me laughing out loud!!! hehehe.....only because I could relate to it. Boy, do I have stories on this. lol

I learned early on not to send my dh to do shopping, but when I HAVE to I ask that he call me from the store so I can talk him through what I want. He knows nothing from produce or fruits. He knows from junk food and stuff he likes. He is slowly getting an education through watching me over the years but I still won't let him get out of the store without having called me to be sure he has what I asked for.
In your situation, I would have asked him if he was comfortable knowing that I had nothing to eat. His guilt would have compelled him to go and get me something to eat.
Jeannie

[Lay-Lay]

Your husband needs to find a way to come up with the money to buy you some produce. If this means he has to sell some of his tools or whatever, then so be it. I would never starve out my wife or kids, he should not do the same for you. This is his fault, he recognizes it. He should also realize that you need to eat to survive, and he needs to ensure you are fed.

It seemed when you posted this that you were not all that upset. I guess that is good. That will not make any progress. However, I also did not get any indication that he was actually doing anything about other than saying he is sorry while stuffing his face.

If I did that to my wife, you can bet she would have kicked my a$$ all over the place and made me find the extra money to feed her something extravagant.

I was very upset last night, but we have a rule, never go to bed angry at each other. I will hit the farmers Market up this evening in the meantime I have blown my wonderful lifestyle until dinner tonight.

[Lay-Lay]

garden granny - well I have been guilty of bring nothing but raw foods in the house and him saying "What am I going to eat?" I made sure he ate, let me tell you and he was fine. Never go shopping hungry and well he was hungry.

Teri - Yeah I know, but it was his idea, LOL! I'm going to the farmers Market tonight. I have me some mad money. Was hoping to get my hair done this week, but I guess not, LOL.

[Lay-Lay]

Veganforlife - Naaa, I will keep him. If that is the worse thing he ever does then that ain't to bad. There are a lot worse things in life.

jeannieh99 - He offered to go back to the store, but we live in the country and I didn't want him making another trip.

Craig -hahahaha!

[DavidZaneMason]

Opinion: Can't make other people responsible for YOUR diet (not even the ones closest to you).

-David Z. Mason

[RawVegan4Health]

Now that is some good advice right there.:D

[Lay-Lay]

Very true David, LOL!

[FirstGarden]

Now Lay Lay..

Put it all back in the bag when he's not looking, and sneak on back to the market. lol.

[Morn]

I try to never send my husband to the store. He doesn't know if things are a good price or not and he buys nothing but expensive junk. I asked him to pick me up some produce from Sams Club once and he didn't want to do that so he went to the local grocery store and spent 3X the amount of money than he would have had he just picked up the few things I wanted at sams. I gasped! It is a learning experience. From now on I won't ask him to pick up anything for me.

It sounds like you guys are not on the same page though with your diets. He clearly is not ready to give up SAD food. And I wouldn't force the issue. Just keep slowly at it and let him decide when he is ready.;)

[rawnpawgirl]

My hubby has done similar things when he went shopping. I probably didn't extend him quite as much grace as you did yours!!

However, since then, he has really improved in his shopping skills. But, I usually never ask him to shop for me because he has absolutely NO CLUE what most produce is besides the simplest of things like carrots and broccoli. He would be searching for hours if I ever asked him for a turnip or rhutabaga!!! He also has no idea how to pick out the right fruit-- he will bring home green bananas, totally hard avocados, etc.

Oh well, I love him anyway.

[Ariannah]

Whoa, what a slip-up there!

My husband and I normally make decisions on what we buy (food or non) together and buy accordingly. He picks up fruit for me on the way home from work, as he has a bus pass and the extra stop is no extra expense.

When we got together, though, I was vegetarian, and healthier eating was part of our lives.

[Lay-Lay]

I try to never send my husband to the store. He doesn't know if things are a good price or not and he buys nothing but expensive junk. I asked him to pick me up some produce from Sams Club once and he didn't want to do that so he went to the local grocery store and spent 3X the amount of money than he would have had he just picked up the few things I wanted at sams. I gasped! It is a learning experience. From now on I won't ask him to pick up anything for me.

It sounds like you guys are not on the same page though with your diets. He clearly is not ready to give up SAD food. And I wouldn't force the issue. Just keep slowly at it and let him decide when he is ready.;)

FirstGarden : hahahaha! Ahh, I'll let him have his cake and eat it too!

Morn: Yeah, I don't know what I was thinking. I think I will make sure I give him a written list next time with big bold letters across the top saying: "FRUITS & VEGETABLES", LOL! Naaa, I don't force him, its just he had a freezer full of meat :rolleyes: I was the one in need of food, LOL! (I mean literally all that was left was a potato)

[Lay-Lay]

rawpawgirl - yeah we do! :D

Ariannah - yeah we usuall do too, thats why I thought he would be fine doing the shopping. He sees what I buy and is standing right next to me as I put stuff in the buggy and he is always bagging fruits and veggies for me ..shrugs..

[Ariannah]

Consider a lesson learned, Never send a man to a woman's job (No offense intended). If I haven't gone vegan, I would brought these same items myself.

We men do not like shopping. We like go in get what we wanted and get out ASAP.
Men aren't the only shopping haters. :D

I am so much NOT a "browse" type of person, for food, clothes, anything. I've never been one of those "Let's go out with the girls and all shop together" type of people. I either want something or I don't, and when I do spend any time "looking around", I have specific targets in mind, and would be greatly annoyed to have to do that with someone else putting in an opinion.

Like, in a bookstore, yes, I like to browse a bit, but not for long, and when I do, it's a very introverted activity (grin).

A friend of mine takes me grocery shopping about once a month, and that I do enjoy, but it's mostly the "in the car" conversations I look forward to, and time spent with her. We generally both just get what we came to get, and then go back home :D

[Lay-Lay]

Men aren't the only shopping haters. :D

I am so much NOT a "browse" type of person, for food, clothes, anything. I've never been one of those "Let's go out with the girls and all shop together" type of people. I either want something or I don't, and when I do spend any time "looking around", I have specific targets in mind, and would be greatly annoyed to have to do that with someone else putting in an opinion.

Like, in a bookstore, yes, I like to browse a bit, but not for long, and when I do, it's a very introverted activity (grin).

A friend of mine takes me grocery shopping about once a month, and that I do enjoy, but it's mostly the "in the car" conversations I look forward to, and time spent with her. We generally both just get what we came to get, and then go back home :D

I'm the same way. I hate shopping!

[garden granny]

I hate shopping for clothes, household products, and most anything else, thats boring to me, but let me go to a farmers market -and I'm happy.:D Weird huh?

[IamLoved]

Wow -

I guess I must just have the best husband in the whole world! He goes shopping for me all the time and makes sure he picks out only the freshest ripest and best looking fruit and veggies for me. He is really amazing. He picked through tons of strawberries to make sure I got some good ones.

I suppose I need to appreciate him all the more now huh? And he is not raw either, but he totally supports me. :)

Laylay, I am sure he was not intending to sabotage you. I bet he felt really bad!

Alisha

www.deschenesdanes.com

[Lay-Lay]

Alisha oh I don't think so either. He wouldn't do that. He loves me! I think his eye's and stomach were the only thing speaking to him, LOL!

[Craig]

Men aren't the only shopping haters. :D

I am so much NOT a "browse" type of person, for food, clothes, anything. I've never been one of those "Let's go out with the girls and all shop together" type of people. I either want something or I don't, and when I do spend any time "looking around", I have specific targets in mind, and would be greatly annoyed to have to do that with someone else putting in an opinion.

Like, in a bookstore, yes, I like to browse a bit, but not for long, and when I do, it's a very introverted activity (grin).

A friend of mine takes me grocery shopping about once a month, and that I do enjoy, but it's mostly the "in the car" conversations I look forward to, and time spent with her. We generally both just get what we came to get, and then go back home :D

Well, I have a small confession. I do like to bowse in a bookstore. Now I wonder a bookstore might be one of good places to meet women or not.

I met a gal at a work-rated workshop whom don't like shopping. She like to get in and out fast. I told her that I like to take her home. A couple of guys at the workshop told her the same thing. She laughed about it.

[Craig]

I'm the same way. I hate shopping!

Wow! You sent your poor husband on a food run and you've chewed his ass out on poor choice on food purchases. Gee, I wonder how much ass he got left.:)

[PixieLed]

I am very grateful about my boyfriend. He is the one who knows how to pick all the best fruits and veggies, and he knows all the prices too! He actually taught me everything I know about picking good avocados, bananas, etc. The only thing I knew how to pick better than him were apples (because I worked at an orchard). But he is Cantonese so he grew up picking good fruits and veggies.

I love my boyfriend! :)

Give your husband time, he will learn. It takes awhile to get used to a change in lifestyle when everyone else around you is doing the opposite.

[Ariannah]

Well, I have a small confession. I do like to bowse in a bookstore. Now I wonder a bookstore might be one of good places to meet women or not.

I met a gal at a work-rated workshop whom don't like shopping. She like to get in and out fast. I told her that I like to take her home. A couple of guys at the workshop told her the same thing. She laughed about it.
Well, depends on the books I come across. Sometimes the appeal of really good books keep me lingering for a while (I don't go bookstore hangin' often - we mostly do the library as a family - library is where I like to preview books the best in comfort of my own home) - other times, nothing jumps out at me so I don't hang around.

I do enjoy yarn shops, music shops, stationery stores, etc. I enjoy browsing a bit. But I really have to be in the mood :-)

[Ariannah]

Wow -

I guess I must just have the best husband in the whole world! He goes shopping for me all the time and makes sure he picks out only the freshest ripest and best looking fruit and veggies for me. He is really amazing. He picked through tons of strawberries to make sure I got some good ones.

I suppose I need to appreciate him all the more now huh? And he is not raw either, but he totally supports me. :)

Laylay, I am sure he was not intending to sabotage you. I bet he felt really bad!

Alisha

www.deschenesdanes.com
My husband is the same way. When I email him a grocery list before he leaves the office, the word "Grapes", for instance, is a one word short-hand for "Get the grapes if they are on sale, cheaper than our local fruit stand, and ONLY if they are firm with no sign of softening anytime soon; otherwise don't bother."

He knows this and sometimes to surprise me goes out of his way to get really nice fruit for me.

[IamLoved]

[QUOTE=Ariannah;274950]My husband is the same way. When I email him a grocery list before he leaves the office, the word "Grapes", for instance, is a one word short-hand for "Get the grapes if they are on sale, cheaper than our local fruit stand, and ONLY if they are firm with no sign of softening anytime soon; otherwise don't bother."

That is so funny because my husband does the same thing! All I say is grapes and he will never bring home those nasty squishy grapes. He knows exactly what I like. What a blessing!

Alisha

www.deschenesdanes.com

[jgunn]

if i let my husband do the shopping we'd only have cheese to eat :D lol

[JEN]

I say we put him out with a sign that reads

WILL WORK FOR FRUITS AND VEGGIES :D

[lil fairy z girl]

ahh poor you :o hope you were able to swap, beg, borrow some real food for you, have you thought of doing a fast :D ? sorry, i hope you find a solution, maybe invite ones around for a bar-b-que and use your meat and ask them to bring salad etc, ?????

best wishes
sal
~*~*~*

[Lay-Lay]

I say we put him out with a sign that reads

WILL WORK FOR FRUITS AND VEGGIES :D

Hahahahahahaha! Cute! I could just see him with a sign out in front of our mailbox.

[Lay-Lay]

ahh poor you :o hope you were able to swap, beg, borrow some real food for you, have you thought of doing a fast :D ? sorry, i hope you find a solution, maybe invite ones around for a bar-b-que and use your meat and ask them to bring salad etc, ?????

best wishes
sal
~*~*~*

Hey I may just do this Sal, my friends will probably think it odd me having a bar b que, but it could be all my hubbies idea!

[Lay-Lay]

UPDATE! UPDATE! UPDATE!

The other day, hubby said: "man I can't believe I bought all that meat and junk. You know I am tired of talking about going raw why don't we give all of this stuff in our freezer away or to the dogs and us work towards going more raw."

My reply: "Sounds like a good idea to me sweetie" :p

[lil fairy z girl]

yay, its great when they come to that conclusion theirselves :)

best wishes
sal
~*~*~*

[Veganforlife]

Ve-ry Cool!!!!

[Lay-Lay]

yeah I know Sal and Lucy, he is getting there! LOL!

[islesgirl]

Your husband needs to find a way to come up with the money to buy you some produce. If this means he has to sell some of his tools or whatever, then so be it. I would never starve out my wife or kids, he should not do the same for you. This is his fault, he recognizes it. He should also realize that you need to eat to survive, and he needs to ensure you are fed.

It seemed when you posted this that you were not all that upset. I guess that is good. That will not make any progress. However, I also did not get any indication that he was actually doing anything about other than saying he is sorry while stuffing his face.

If I did that to my wife, you can bet she would have kicked my a$$ all over the place and made me find the extra money to feed her something extravagant.

Wow, is your wife ever blessed to have you for her husband!:D

[Theogirl]

ahh poor you :o hope you were able to swap, beg, borrow some real food for you, have you thought of doing a fast :D ? sorry, i hope you find a solution, maybe invite ones around for a bar-b-que and use your meat and ask them to bring salad etc, ?????

best wishes
sal
~*~*~*
What totally creative ideas!! LOL:D

[beckx]

Men aren't the only shopping haters. :D

I am so much NOT a "browse" type of person, for food, clothes, anything. I've never been one of those "Let's go out with the girls and all shop together" type of people. I either want something or I don't, and when I do spend any time "looking around", I have specific targets in mind, and would be greatly annoyed to have to do that with someone else putting in an opinion.

Like, in a bookstore, yes, I like to browse a bit, but not for long, and when I do, it's a very introverted activity (grin).

A friend of mine takes me grocery shopping about once a month, and that I do enjoy, but it's mostly the "in the car" conversations I look forward to, and time spent with her. We generally both just get what we came to get, and then go back home :D

i really wish i were that way. i could spend hours looking through the produce department, our local hfs has a small produce section but there's lots of variety... i can easily take 20 minutes there. nevermind whole foods type stores with a huge produce department... at LEAST an hour. i even spend a good amount of time looking at conventional produce i'm not going to buy anyway in the supermarket. so i stick with our co-op for the most part; i order the produce so i know what's going to be there, make a list beforehand and shop on wednesdays when it comes in for the week. that way i save myself a couple of hours that i can spend at the gym or making raw ice cream ;)

[Frugal Raw]

This reminds me of my Daddy. My Mom once sent him to the store when my brother and I were little, and he had a list of things to get - chicken, carrots, potatoes. He came home with oreos, ice cream, and cokes instead! She NEVER sent him to the store AGAIN.

My hubster on the other hand does great when he has a list, but is clueless when sent to produce on his own. I have tried telling him to get what looks good to him - trying to ignite that spark of raw fooding - and he comes home with the stuff monomeals are made for. LOL!! Not bad, but NO imagination! How I do love him:)

[rawfoodmommy#1]

I hate shopping for clothes, household products, and most anything else, thats boring to me, but let me go to a farmers market -and I'm happy.:D Weird huh?

I'm there with yah, i love farmers markets.

[jacsam]

I really try to not go grocery shopping with my husband for the bulk of our weeks food because we come home with all kinds of things that are not on the list and go over our budget. He's a sweet heart and I love him but I've been doing the shopping for 25 years and have it down so we can have everything we need for the week and a few extra dollars to go back for an extra this or that. Yeah, we go to the grocery store together when we only have to get a few things or are going for some snacks.

[RawHeaven]

Lay-Lay you're such a cool and laid back person. I admire how you've kept your sense of humor and have put this whole situation into perspective with your hubby. Have you tried making him a list and mapping out a floor plan of the store? I used to do this with my ex.

[Riiiya]

that's kind of funny (while frustrating too i agree)- i mean, he just sort of went into the SAD "auto-pilot mode" i suppose lol? maybe all the junk food commercials we view during the day accumulate and play through into our subconsciousness :S (just a wild theory ehem- but i did read a lot of how all this commercial junk ends up in our subconsciousness!!)

[northernstars]

a year. We don't have much extra money and he is very frugal. A month or so ago I joined CSA (full circle farm) and order the fruits and vegetables I need and/or want and they are sent up here. Now, he doesn't have to wander around the produce section and try to figure out what I would like.

So far, everything has been really good and my husband is pleased that the cost is not bad either. Everything has been fresh and ripe. I think I will probably keep using them even after I am able to get around better. About the only thing I want and my hubby may need to buy are portabella mushrooms. Other than that I am able to get the foods I want at a price I can afford!

Forgot to add that in my box this week will be:carrots, garlic, collard greens, kale, chard, cilantro, basil, chives, parsley, cremini mushrooms, green onions, red bell peppers, red radishes, spinach, cameo apples, avocados, strawberries, grapefruits, mangos, cara cara oranges, pineapple, cherry tomatoes, green leaf lettuce, broccoli, celery, yams, leeks, zucchini, pears, kiwi, and valencia oranges.