not even 100% raw yet and already some problems!

[luna99]

I can see how eating raw can cause problems socially and within relationships and I haven't even started really!

today at the grocery store I was buying tons of produce and my fiance got a little sensitive to it. He saw this big long list of stuff but everything on it was for me and my raw diet... and he's right, I should have been thinking about him and what he needs to eat next week (chicken/rice/soups/etc) but I'm so excited about finally going 100% raw, I just made my shopping list and only included things I needed! :(

I feel really bad about it now too and I hope it's not going to be too difficult living in a home with one raw and one S.A.D. diet.

and another thing is we live in a TINY loft apartment, and the food dehydrator makes a bit too much noise. lol.. it's hard to hear the tv sometimes cause our living room and kitchen are all one big room.

oh well, my fiance knows how important this is to me so he's handling it.

wow, I can't imagine how it's going to be once I start trying to go out in social situations to restaurants and stuff! eesh! :confused:

[DavidZaneMason]

I think if you always eat before you go out, bring a snack...and let others know you are there to spend time with THEM...and support THEM....then it becomes a non-issue. If you are happy, healthy and at ease...those that love you will invariably support you.

-When you go out, simply tell folks that you are there to spend time with THEM, and that you are not hungry (which is probably true).

-Support your fiance in ANY way that HE wants to eat.

-If people question you (in a non-supportive manner) just smile and have an apple...or walk away. Don't get hooked! ha! ha!

-Just my opinion - which I hope is a little helpful.

-David Z. Mason

[luna99]

thanks for the suggestions... even if it will be a little difficult dealing with people who don't understand the raw lifestyle, I'm ready for it!

[madmel]

Luna,

I think it's great how you prepare yourself for the raw lifestyle!

When it comes to social situations, I know that many fear too many questions or odd looks - what I think is best is just not to make too much fuss about your "diet". The less fuss you make, the less questions asked and all have peace and quiet.

I don't do this because I am afraid of introducing the lifestyle or anything like that but because I don't want to spend hours of explaining or defending something others don't think is right.

Diets are very controversial and in many cases discussing this is totally fruitless - think about regular vs. vegan/vegetarian diet or lowcarb and lowfat and whatever (to me a diet is a lifestyle). For everything there are multiple pros and cons and everyone tends to believe that he is doing what is the right thing.

Don't be scared, try to live your life and have fun. And next time don't forget your fiance's shopping ;) just kidding

cheers,
madmel

[luna99]

And next time don't forget your fiance's shopping ;) just kidding

cheers,
madmel

haha. no, you're totally right. I can't get *so* wrapped up in raw foods I forget about him too.. though I know I'm going to eventually wish he was doing raw with me.. maybe he will once he sees the results!

thanks everyone!

[rawrobert]

I love that you brought this up. My partner and I have an agreement - since I am "the cook" in the family - at home we will eat raw meals. I make more of an effort when he eats with me choosing the more impressive raw dishes - I get no complaints about raw pudding/shakes and soups.

He knows that at work he can eat whatever he wishes - meat - white stuff etc. He also knows that when he goes out with friends he can eat what he wants in restaurants - so I think it is fair that at home I choose what I want to eat. He seems to respect this as long as I respect that he is not yet in the place to go raw. He does love the salads and my salad dressings.

Kudos to you!

[RowanC]

I live in a small condo too and the dehydrator does make noise.
You can try to schedule your dehydrating when you'll be out for the day.. or do it at night? Turn it on when you go to bed.

Maybe you each could be responsible for your own grocery shopping and your own cooking? :D

[luna99]

well, I told him I'd do my raw food shopping on my own from now on... and he does like to cook so I'm sure he'll make some fish or rice on his own during the week.... I honestly don't mind making him something to eat.. I just wonder if that will be temptation to go back to sad for myself.

as for the dehydrator, yes.. I'm going to have to schedule using it while I'm at work and at night.

you guys are the best btw! thanks!

[luna99]

today I'm going to my future mother in law's house for dinner! It's my first day 100% raw and already I'm going to have to start explaining everything to people..

anyway, I plan on making my own dinner (guacamole in lettuce cups and tomato soup) and taking it with me so I can eat with everyone at the table and not have any cooked food...

my fiance thinks his mom might be offended... she has that mentality about wanting to feed everyone and feels bad if people don't eat her food. :confused: we'll see how this goes! wish me luck! :)

[Angelic Light]

Good luck! let us know how you get on!

[luna99]

well, it went fine. I took guacamole and onion bread and ate that while everyone else had chicken catchatore (sp?)..... I think maybe a few people were thinking things they weren't saying to me, but that's fine.

My fiance's brother and his girlfriend were asking a few questions about raw foods, but for the most part.. no one really seemed to want to know about it. It seemed kinda like they wanted to ignore it and ignore the fact that I was the only one sitting there without a plate full of cooked meat and high carb pasta.

anyway... one social s.a.d. meal down.... who knows how many more to go! :D

[Angelic Light]

Oh well at least you didn't get harrassed or anything. Well done!!