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[Tito235]

I don't care about my previous posts more than I can about my health. I know that if I am healthy than the one's that are close to me and love will follow suite. With that said... I fell flat on my face and want to return to raw. In fact, after eating baked ziti, I became so sick and lethargic (excuse the spelling but I don't care as the msg. to me is more important) that I knew that non-raw was not for me.

The problem is... How do I come back. Yes, my (##@!#) stinks, I am not perfect by far. I want to regain that feeling and determination I had when I was two weeks Raw. What steps do I take to join the 30-day determintation fight!!!

I just lost a close friend (She died a few days ago) and left a small child behind. Forget that I am a male and boriqua but I have feelings too and am human. Directions is all I ask for, I care not about sympathy only a pointing finger at this point. Please...

My wife said I tend to be arrogant and I agree but am stubborn and strong in my opinons. My only concern is that our children (all of our children) are able to enjoy a peaceful exisistence I tell her. I just want to change my fundamental darkness so that the others will be more peacefull in the future. If a pebble is dropped in the pond then the waves will flow and affect others. Such is the nature of "cause and effect." If I change for the better than others are affected.

Someone attach to me and direct (teach) me how to follow that 30-day determinaton. I plan to return to reading as well, as I have slacked in my 30 minutes plus reading a day also.

January 2nd is the day I want to start to start my 30-day determination. Sorry to sound so glum but emotions are such that if we held them in they would appear in our nature in one form or another. Don't you think? I am no stranger to struggle so critiscm is welcome.

Tito
Boriqua...

PS: Yes, familia, pana, amigo, ami's, quasi, I am going Raw. One way or another I will be Raw... (This pebble will make a wave to protect our children now and and in the future.)

This post is dedicated to those two children of mine that make me look in the mirror and say "Poppi will U ever change."

[luckitri]

What is boriqua? Having read many people here as well as their journals and related websites I have learned to accept my transition time and not punish myself. I just try from day to day and actually right now I am not even trying to be 100% because I am trying to manage a detox or illness that no-one knows what it is. You know what is right - except for the self-expectations. . . . this is a very big change to make. You have tried it and felt the difference so you know it is good. You may have 1000 slips to SAD. It is up to us to change our thinking so that RAW is the reward - when we think of the SAD food that is a treat, that is our comfort food, that is our heritage - of course we do not wish to miss it. RAW is not a punishment like lashing oneself or wearing a hair shirt - when RAW is what we crave and our historical food choices are no longer what we crave - the final transition will happen.

[D'vorah]

My only concern is that our children (all of our children) are able to enjoy a peaceful exisistence I tell her. I just want to change my fundamental darkness so that the others will be more peacefull in the future. If a pebble is dropped in the pond then the waves will flow and affect others. Such is the nature of "cause and effect." If I change for the better than others are affected.

You have a beautiful spirit. I'll join you in the January challenge.

Deborah

[luckitri]

OK - I get "boriqua".

[Tito235]

What are the steps I have to take (bottom line please). Let me join u in the 30-day determination. Thank you for the quick replies. I don't feel emotionally, as I don't have a heart. I gave half of my heart to my daughter (ask her for yourself cami at cia2k.com). This is where my heart lies...

Tito

[chilove]

Hello there,

Congratulations on discovering raw and taking this great journey!!!

Here are 3 great concrete steps you can take:

On Jan 1st, write a list of all the things that you can think of that are raw that you really, really like to eat and go out and purchase them all. This way you will feel abundant, not deprived.

Write yourself some great raw affirmations and start saying them over and over all day long.

Look up every inspiring raw testamonial on the internet and bookmark them to read when you need some inspiration.

I'm sure you will do great with your determination.

All the best,

Audrey
www.rawhealing.com

[Rawkinlocs]

Great steps from Audrey (Chilove)! A few more to add...

- get rid of ALL tempting foods from your home if you can
- avoid restaurants and other places with temptations you feel may be challenging for you to avoid
- get a raw-based DVD that you can watch or a favorite raw book to read for extra motivation
- plan ahead...make sure you ALWAYS have food on hand and don't leave home without packing something to take along with you so you don't end up out and about, hungry and tempted to stop off somewhere and grab something.
- If you have any type of spiritual beliefs, ask for strength from your Higher Power...whomever or whatever you believe in.

[eatyourbroccoli]

the best way to attain your goal is to learn to love and accept yourself completely, despite your mistakes. it took me over a year to finally achieve 30 days straight of 100% raw. now, during this time i was battling a binge-eating disorder, which made things slightly more difficult than usual. but if you look at yourself, and focus completely on the positives, youll succeed. i promise you.

as an example, ive been very sick lately. the past 2.5 months in particular have been the hardest i have ever endured. i fell off the raw wagon about 2 weeks ago, and i have been trying to get back on 100% unsuccessfully. but rather than berrating myself for eating cooked today, i instead focus on the fact that i had a fruit smoothie for breakfast, and two huge salads for lunch and dinner. try your best to take everything one meal at a time, one decision at a time, and if that decision happens to be a SAD one, realize the MINUTE your done with your poor decision, that the slate it cleared and you have the opportunity to make your next decision a beautiful and RAW one.

if its too much for you to aim to be 100% right now, aim instead to be as high raw as you can be, and focus the rest of your attention on choosing healthy alternatives to the cooked meals youre not ready to let go of yet.

if your journey does nothing but stress you out, thats going to be just as unhealthy as living completely on sad. youre here, looking for help and health and happiness..that is a HUGE step. youre already doing something wonderful for yourself. lighten up on yourself a bit, and youll realize how much easier it is to make the best decisions, the raw decisions, every time you sit down to a meal.

it doesnt have to be all or nothing...it has to be a learning and growing experience.

slow down, take it one decision at a time, and if you make a mistake look back on it and accept it and prepare yourself for a better decision next time! youre not by any means less of a person because you ate a piece of cooked food! transition can be tough...just keep in mind where youd like to be, and work slowl - day by day - to get there. because you will!!