Fasting vs. Partnership

[Advid]

Hi,

I have a question for people who experienced longer fast (more than 3 weeks). I and my girlfriend we are both raw. I've done 3 weeks long fast last year and plan to do 40 days in January/February. My reasons are eliminating binges/cravings, maybe improving mi sight and maybe spiritual growth.

She is against it since there are no "real" arguments (proved benefits) for the fast. But she doesn't say "fast or I". :p She understands that if I feel like to fast, I should. But she dislikes the idea that there will be no making love, eating together, etc. She's also afraid that 40 days fast will move me somewhere and I will be interested in her no more. This idea seems utopistic, but cannot be excluded since fasting is not a very explored area. It came to my mind too, but I don't thin that this will happen because my 3 week fast had no mental/spiritual impact on me either.

Her argument is that same effects can be reached by raw food.

Have you experienced similar situation?

[star1919]

Hey Advid...

My situation is different than yours... however, did want to say that if the spiritual is part of what interests you... have you tried meditation?

When I first started meditating, I found it easier to listen to guided meditations. They kept the active part of my mind busy with the recorded journey... over time I've developed a quieter mind and focus on my breathing... as I go into a meditation.

Meditation can have a great benefit... here is a site that may interest you.

THE WORLD WIDE MEDITATION ONLINE CENTER:
http://www.meditationcenter.com/

All the best to you and your partner...

[Sharon in Colorado]

My thoughts on any lifestyle change is that it doesn't change who YOU are.

I used to read some of these journals and what-not (like Shazzie's) and saw that right around the time she was starting to heal and see & feel huge changes physically, she broke up with her boyfriend and then he moved out.

I got scared that the relationship with my beloved may change as well, but then I noticed (from reading her journal, not my own judgment) that Shazzie has a pattern like that with men, so it was NOT the raw food.

Likewise, your fast or a change in your diet/lifestyle is not going to change your personality or likes/dislikes. However, if you always had a problem with commitment or have gone through many girlfriends, that is just not going to change because of raw either.

Fasting and raw food just doesn't make someone more or less commited to a significant other. It doesn't cause people to go through divorces or repair marriages. It is YOU that makes the difference in the relationship, not the diet.

Also if your girlfriend feels threatened by your change, that would be something that you may want to be concerned about. To me that just signals distrust on her part.

[Sparkle_lite]

If I might ask...why won't you be making love? Is that for spiritual reasons?
Not meaning anything about you and your girlfriend, I have to say that 40 days of no sexual relationship may put distance on a serious relationship if sex is important. (If there are possibilities of the relationship winding down, 40 days without contact might shut things down) You should find other great ways to express your love to each other spiritually and emotionally, to bring you closer!

I am currently fasting and transitioning to 100% raw and my boyfriend continues to be an underweight picky eater, sticking to waffles, toast, pizza, cereal, and fast food. He won't even take probiotics! Our relationship hasn't changed any, aside from the fact that I don't feel good sometimes. I just realize that these tastes and ways of eating are mine, not his. This is a relatively private experiece for me in daily life because I am the only one I know on this journey. Maybe food and your fasting won't be a discussion unless you bring it up.

[Advid]

Hi!

star1919: Sure, meditations is great. But I consider fasting as the shortest, simpliest and most effective "path".

Sharon: I agree with you that change in lifestyle doesn't affect personality. But fasting is different. It's like to step to another world. You see people chasing their food and this is funny. You are slowed down a have to breathe properly. A these changes can affect thinking a maybe thinking about other people including your partner. Maybe not. I hope not. :-)

Sparkle_lite: Making love will be impossible since I have much less energy when fasting. But maybe not. I plan to use other love methods ;) to express my love. A serious relationship shouln't rely on 40 days of sexual abstinence.

I see there is a lot of "maybes". :-)
It looks like our relationship is somehow wrecked, but it's not. It's going well. Except when fasting is discussed. :)

Thanks for your time. (-:

[misslinda]

This is an interesting topic.


I have been experiencing a whole whirlwind of emotional/mental changes,progressions etc. As I move forward with life and evolve into "wholeness," I realize that what I used to want,desire and thought is changing. There are things about myself that I recognize that is different. What I desire/attract of other people is becoming more clearer.

If your relationship is already secure, I wouldn't worry.

What is it about [not] eating together that makes her worried? :confused:


Best wishes :)

[PATH301]

I agree with misslinda's statement here:

If your relationship is already secure, I wouldn't worry.

There are so many things that you two can do that do not involve food.
What is 40 days to a secure relationship? The fast will also help her to focus on herself as well as on you two as a couple.


But she dislikes the idea that there will be no making love, eating together, etc. she should have an expectation for when your fast is over for this :D
has she ever done a fast before? You said that she said:

Her argument is that same effects can be reached by raw food. - this is true, but a fast will expedite certain things like allow your system to heal itself, because it is allow to relax and not be under the stress to perform it's normal functions.

[Advid]

What is it about [not] eating together that makes her worried? :confused:

She likes when we prepare food and eat it together. That's all.



Best wishes :)

Thanks. :-)

[Advid]

She hasn't done a fast before. If she would have done it, it would be easier, I think.