It Happened, I feel F'in Great!

[Davylp25]

Okay,

Well ran into an old friend. We got to conversing. And food came up... and I see now that people and their attachement to food is almost like Politics or Religion, but I digress, or digest per say. HA! Anyway when I was more involved in this persons life, I was on this big muscle building CHICKEN AND MEAT kick.

So food came up, and I mentioned casually, no pedastool or anything, That I was a rawfoodist, and it happened....

ARE YOU SURE THATS HEALTHY?
WHAT ABOUT PROTIEN?
DO YOU DRINK MILK?
OMG, THAT'S NOT HEALTHY?
WHAT ABOUT CHEESE?
YOU'RE BONES ARE GONNA BREAK?
OMG, THAT'S NOT HEALTHY?

Granted this is a person who smokes and drinks, and Im sure as we were speaking a dead animal was rotting in his system. Smile.

But it was soooo coooolllll, because I was sooooo chill. I was sooo un-offended. So not wanting to needlessly defend my food choices. I didn't need approval. It was soooo AMAZING. So freeing. Usually I would lash back out and pick apart there food choices. But I didn't need to, I didnt have that feeling inside, like GET HIM. It was so chill. The person wasn't really interested in learning anyway, it was more shock, and dumping their programmed beliefs onto me, because I represented a NEW paradigm of lifestyle, that they werent sure about. Which is fine. I mentioned, causually, yeah well theres alot of misinformation, and I have read many things. So... But it was sooo cool, because usually it would have been ON!!! But I actually cracked a joke saying, " yeah my bones are gonna break, Im gonna just walk down the street oneday, and BOOM, down I go, saying, " Can someone pls help me, My bones just broke,plllssss anyone... HELLPPP." It was fun.

I have read alot of posts on here where people have been drawn into debates. It just causes a drain of my life force, and energies that can be channeled to more progressive things in my life. Even people who live a raw lifestyle, it seems thats all there life is about, instead of it being an amazing part, not the whole...

So if that person was interested I would have def recommended books, websites etc for them to do there own research. But it was cool. Thanks to all those who shared there experiences with debates in the common programmed world when you tried to break free from the norm and not follow. Thanks for sharing your experience and having me see the stress it can cause.

be chill, be progressive... be u.

[Seren]

That sounds great, you seem to have enjoyed! :) I love it when I just leave a debate, I feel like the powerful one when they are trying to argue with you but you just won't argue back.

The other day I told my friend that she shouldn't be drinking milk to get strong bones, because she was misinformed. I wouldn't have told her if she didnt want to know. But Ive known her almost all my life and so I knew |I could tell her as we're really close. Anyway, I told her about milk not being great for your bones and she was happy that I had told her, but she told her boyfriend and he didnt believe it and he told his two friends and they were all saying to me, "milk IS good for you, it has been proven by scientists, bla bla bla"

And I was just like, "Yeah ok, believe what you want" (Not in a sort of "FINE!" kind of way, but just as if I didnt really care that much what they thought)

And after that, I felt superior to know that Im right and I will be the healthy one and they won't.

Love Seren xXx

[grnstar77]

right on <3

[Davylp25]

Hey Seren, I hear ya. But to play devils advocate. For me it wasn't about feeling superior to him, for my choices, or not debating him. It was about showing my growth and evolving. In the past I have gotten into fights over comments about clothes, music, politics, religions. Because it was about me feeling like If I would win an arguement, or prove them wrong, or get there approval, then I would feel validated and powerful. If I didn't well they were still dumb and I was still smarter. But it wasnt like that at all for me. It was about being present in my beingness, and not needing any of those old emotional clutches to hold me up. I was no longer the scarecrow, breakable, and able to have my straw pulled out of me by other peoples comments, or disapproval of my choices, so I would DEFEND with my list of knowledge, craving approval and validation. Like that lil boy in me still needing the approval I never got from my Dad or Mom growing up. If I didnt get it, I WAS MADDDD! When someone doesn't agree, well it the same invalidation almost, saying YOU'RE NOT OKAY.

I have also learned through trial and error, never to tell anyone anything unless they ask. Otherwise, im doing exactly what I never liked being done to me. Even if there close, unless they ask Im not going to tell them. Because that same feeling creeps up, and I know in the past, I always did that, YOU SHOULD DO THIS, AND YOU SHOULDNT DO THAT, still trying to get people to agree with me, accept me and my views. Not saying that's what you were doing at all, just sayin that has been my experience. I know in the past if I was eating a cheeseburger, and someone said HEY ya know, That's not healthy, I would have said, SUCK IT! I didn't ask. And I always would do the same thing, On my lil THROWN...

But I guess I have evolved....COOL!~

[Mysticalwoman]

Davylp25 congratulations you are growing by leaps and bounds. I for one should take notes. Exspecially on the part you said. I have also learned through trial and error, never to tell anyone anything unless they ask. Otherwise, im doing exactly what I never liked being done to me. Very well said. Thanks Mysticalwoman

[LightLover]

Many people see life as a predator, for which they have to hide in the crowd, saved, like a little fish in a school of fishes.

I feel more comfortable being a little in danger, and look life into the face with my own eyes. :)
I dare to be extreme, because such is life.

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[Sharon in Colorado]

But I actually cracked a joke saying, " yeah my bones are gonna break, Im gonna just walk down the street oneday, and BOOM, down I go, saying, " Can someone pls help me, My bones just broke,plllssss anyone... HELLPPP." It was fun.

Okay that is just killer! I've gotta try that. How fun to use a response like that. The best medicine or solution for me is laughter.

Oh - we once saw a comedian who talked about how to respond to people. Just repeat their question right back to them in the most idiotic ridiculous voice.

Like if someone were to say "isn't that bad for your bones?" you'd respond in a really stupid dorky voice right back to them "uh...doy, isn't dat bad fer your bones? Duhurk!" Now that sounds a little condensending but it might fit certain people who are kind of asking for it.