Upset about anti-raw mom

[vgloveforlife]

I just got off the phone with my mom and she wanted to talk about how concerned she was about me and my diet :( I am just so discouraged. I don't want her to be concerned about me. I want her to be happy and supportive that I'm following a healthy fresh diet.
She told me she thinks a raw diet is very unhealthy and that I should look to other healthy cultures and see that they eat most everything cooked. She is very anti-raw. She said that she thinks food is so much healthier when it's cooked. I don't understand how anyone would think that cooking something to death would be healthier than eating it raw and fresh how nature intended.
My father was a raw foodist when my mom met him and she's like "he was just so skinny". This is of course the worst thing ever, right. Now that he has eaten her cooking for many years, he is slightly overweight with a belly and suffers from kidney stones and severe allergies.

I'm just feeling sad. I really wish I could have my moms (and fathers-he is now oppossed to the whole diet) support with my diet/lifestyle. Her concern for my health and skepticism about the diet rubs off on me and makes me concerned that maybe this isn't the best for me. :(

[Frog]

So sorry to hear this!

Im a bit like that - I am doing what I think is right and as soon as someone questions it or makes me unsure of my facts, I can crumble.

I guess parents think they know what is best based on their experience and information, but they can be wrong like anyone.

Keep on doing what you feel is right in your heart and for your body, and if you dont honestly feel its right, stop!

Hope you patch things up with your mum, family rifts are uncomfortable and make me sad.

:)

[codajess]

I say eat how you feel best. Not having the support stinks, I know, but you gotta do what you gotta do.

If that doesn't work, poke her in the eye. That always makes me feel better when someone disagrees with me. :D

[wyjoz]

it's so SAD that parents would be willing that kids eat Rice Crispies, Twinkies, Pop, Pizza, Sneaker Bars etc; which have no nutritional value! The vitamin fortified is a JOKE of all food jokes, but make such a hassle when we or kids want to eat healthy! ie apples and celery and carrots? Like we'r going to die from malnutrition?

IT'S TIME TO STAND UP FOR RIGHT NUTRITION! The old Food Pyramid recommended by FDA has failed us miserably. We on our own, individually must take charge of our own body's health and well being. That's It!

My advice to you is eat fruits salads and get stuffed and then say no thank you to junk.

Second advice; do not depend on anyone's support in anything. Get determined to do what is right.
Depending on anyon'es support WILL ALWAYS AND FOREVER dissapoint you. Child, Young Adult, or Adult, even the Aged. In all of humankind's history that has been the fact, it is a fact and it will continue to be the fact. GET STRONG AND DWELL ON WHAT IS RIGHT and don't dwell on anyones approval! to health Joz

[frozenme]

All the diets, and there have been tons of them :( , that I have been on have included lots of raw healthy salads and fruit to fill you up while limiting "cooked" foods. The cooked foods have less vitamins/calorie.

My mother in law said it would be healthier if I went on WW. Something she can identify with. She got all her stuff out to try and prove it to me. One of their new diets is called a core diet(I think) It gives a list of foods that you can have unlimited amounts of, no points, just eat. All the foods on the list are vegetables and low sugar fruits. I pointed that out and she said that wasn't enough and I added up the points for the nuts and other sugary foods I do eat like dates, bananas, avocodo and carrots. I ended up eating more than my point allowance. HEE HEE So according to WW I'm overeating and still losing. Shut her right up.

[DavidZaneMason]

Opinion:

-People actually judge the goodness of your actions by the happiness and confidence you display - by your attitude. Your parents love you and they just want you to be happy. If you are happy and confident....you will make changes in their lives....if they are ready for that.

-David Mason

[vgloveforlife]

Thanks for the replies! I'm so glad that I have this place for support. But yeah wyjoz, you're right, I shouldn't depend on someone else for support or approval. I have to know that I am doing the right thing and it does feel so right but yes I also do wonder often if I am doing the right thing because there is just so much judgement.

David,
My confidence and happiness has increased big time since going raw (in fact lately I have been eating a lot of cooked and I'm more tired and unhappy-it is a very noticeable difference) . It does seem like my parents have noticed the positive but there is also a lot of negative that they see too. I have gotten 3 illnesses (food poisining?) since going raw and I am getting very skinny. Not sickly but just skinnier than usual and parents always worry about that.

Anyway they are just conditioned into thinking this is an unhealthy extreme diet and I'm not sure if they will ever change their minds. I just wish I had someone in real life to understand why I choose to eat like this.

Thanks everyone for listening.

[Brianna]

I understand how you feel. My old boss used to hound me all the time about how the raw diet is so extremely unhealthy and I was going to suffer memory loss and protein deficiency and how all the raw foodists he had ever known ended up lunatics and mentally unstable. He and I argued about it a lot.

[Sharon in Colorado]

If that doesn't work, poke her in the eye. That always makes me feel better when someone disagrees with me. :D

LOL - but then she'd have one more point against the raw diet.


"Didn't I tell you Marge? All those raw foodists - they're eye pokers!"

[codajess]

"Didn't I tell you Marge? All those raw foodists - they're eye pokers!"


Yes, but they say it while clutching an eye; which is TOTALLY hilarious.

[DavidZaneMason]

-People who are making unhealthy choices might not be in a position to understand yours. Please be compassionate and forgive them. Just my opinions.

-David Mason