getting frustrated

[Azianbee]

Hi,

I'm getting frustrated with myself. I have tried to be 100% raw for a 2 months now and cheated about a dozen times. More often lately. Especially in the last two weeks. It all started with me having cooked string beans, then everything just went downhill from there. I've had pineapple fried rice, stir fried veggies, fried bean curds, rice..etc.

So I'm really frustrated, I've had a lot more discipline before. I keep telling myself that I'm not eating cooked anymore. Then when I go out for business dinners or with friends, I just end up eating something cooked.

On top of that, when people find out I'm raw vegan, they keep observing me and they say that I look like I'm malnutritioned and lack energy. It's depressing b/c I keep having to defend myself. I tell them that it is my body adapting so I'm somewhat weak right now. It's horrible. Now my tummy hurts too b/c of these oily cooked veggies that I had before. :(

[spicyfull]

Take it one day at a time. Keep food ready to eat. Don't be sad for even one day. When you are eating sad it creates a roller Coaster and you can be on it for Months.

This is your Journey and remember you are in the drivers seat. All the stops and turns are up to you. You can drive a straight line and get to your destination sooner

Have a great Journey. I wish you everything you need to STAY RAW........

[luckitri]

This isn't about punishing ourselves. It does take time for the body to adapt and the mind as well. I am going to have to figure out a way to make RawPriestess' brownies as a reward....as I caught myself thinking of SAD food as a reward. (I don't have a processor yet and it is necessary for this recipe.) I still call it "cheating" and it seems that I "cheat" almost every day - even if is just a little thing like tasting the SAD food I cook for my family to make sure I did it to their liking. However - the more physical benefit I feel from RAW inspires me to continue this journey. This will happen for you also. Reading old threads on here has shown me that very few people get it right on their first try and some have acknowledged that it took them years. This board is wonderful because every day that I read on here I learn something(s) and especially things to convince my hardheaded husband that he needs to take this more seriously!

[healthisraw1]

when I went to restaurants I would make a raw salad dressing and ask the server to have the staff make me a salad of every raw veggie they had and thats all.

then i smoother the mediocre iceburg lettuce and all the other tasty non organic veggies with my delicious dressing and im fine.

do not care what anyone says, we are called health nuts but they who call us that feel its normal to get fat, diseased, suffer and die a painful death.
THATS A NUT

Ive lived both sides of that and I am on my way back...........................

"disease is a natural occurance to un natural acts" Richard Anderson

its for you, not them
Be well
Bill

[cornvalley]

Stop the 'trying' to do 100%. Just go in the right direction and eventually... either you will adopt it or not. The 'trying' part is always frustrating. Give up the struggle. Keep your direction free of worry.

[rawpriestess]

Hi,

I'm getting frustrated with myself. I have tried to be 100% raw for a 2 months now and cheated about a dozen times. More often lately. Especially in the last two weeks. It all started with me having cooked string beans, then everything just went downhill from there. I've had pineapple fried rice, stir fried veggies, fried bean curds, rice..etc.

So I'm really frustrated, I've had a lot more discipline before. I keep telling myself that I'm not eating cooked anymore. Then when I go out for business dinners or with friends, I just end up eating something cooked.

On top of that, when people find out I'm raw vegan, they keep observing me and they say that I look like I'm malnutritioned and lack energy. It's depressing b/c I keep having to defend myself. I tell them that it is my body adapting so I'm somewhat weak right now. It's horrible. Now my tummy hurts too b/c of these oily cooked veggies that I had before. :(l

I see alot of challenges with the words you are using, which reflects your beliefs,

1. you say you are "trying" to go 100%, there is no "try", you either do it or you don't do it.

2. "cheating", this is not a diet, that you "go on" for a few weeks to lose a couple of pounds, you are either making a commitment to eat the way humans are meant to eat or you are not, there is no "cheating"

3. when you make a decision to eat cooked string beans, then that is your decision, nothing can go downhill, as all is your decision, if you make the decision to eat cooked, then great, eat cooked, and enjoy it, then make another decision, either to eat raw or cooked, it's all up to you

4. if you are telling yourself that you are "not eating cooked" then what ARE you doing, instead of focusing on what you are NOT doing, focus on what you ARE doing, so maybe you could change that belief to "eating healthy raw foods that totally nurish my gorgeous body" this sounds so much more fun, than focusing on what you no longer choose to do.

5. There is no "end up" eating something cooked, you made a conscious choice to eat something that was cooked, own it, accept it, don't be in denial, no one forced you, you could have made other choices, it's okay to choose to eat cooked, if that is your wish, but you didn't "end up" eating cooked, you made a choice, so you can then choose to enjoy the food and company, or not, you are not a victim here, you are a powerful being

6. how do people find out you are a raw vegan? and why is it their business?

7. you don't NEED to defend yourself, it is no bodies business but yourse, what you eat or don't eat. it's really that simple

Love yourself enough to allow yourself to make choices and then stick with those choices, whether it is to eat cooked food or raw food, either one is okay.

I prefer raw food, because it makes me feel so wonderful and alive, I have eaten cooked food, and I get very sick, so it's easy for me to make the choice to eat raw.

Everyone makes their own choices every single day, every second actually, it is all up to you.

If you are having cravings, then it can be tough, as we "think" we MUST have some such cooked food, I've been there and I've gone on and off raw many times, I've lost weight, gained it back, and re-lost it, it isn't easy, but it can be done.

and YOU CAN DO IT. if that is what you truly wish.

Just remember that no one is forcing you to eat cooked, it is your choice, just like if you were out with friends and they all decided to do heroin, you wouldn't feel that YOU had to do it too, would you? well, make raw THAT important in your life, as important as your life, I would never smoke, drink, do drugs, etc, because I just won't put those things in my body, and I won't put cooked food in my body either.

Good luck on your choices, you can do this, if you truly wish to.

[being]

I am just getting started myself, and the day before yesterday I was feeling the same way - SUPER frustrated with myself!

RawPriestess posted this golden nugget and guess what, yesterday? 100% RAW no problem! :D

tell yourself, that you are going to eat raw today, only, and that tomorrow, you can eat anything you want, then tomorrow, tell yourself the same thing,

if you TRULY want the cooked food when tomorrow comes, then fine eat it, but remember, today you are raw,tomorrow is another day, and you can eat anything you want,

just eat for today, this hour, this minute, don't worry about tomorrow or the rest of your life.

if I had to think that I couldn't eat certain things ever again, I'd go mad---so just for today, and today only, eat raw.


http://www.rawfoodtalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=18929


I found it really useful to think of it in this way, as I was struggling to get through my first day.. now I've done 1 day, and I know I can easily do another day today :D

[Graciebeliever]

Raw Priestess Rocks doesn't she?

She said everything I would say to you and more. YOU GO GIRL!

I use her words everday..

"I DON'T HAVE TO EAT RAW, I GET TO EAT RAW" YAY!!

[Judy]

I also 'just' started. I've been raw for three months now and had my 'slip ups', and have to say that most of them I have consciously made. Like in: 'I really would love to eat some chips right now'. And then I would do it and enjoy it. Well, sometimes I would regret it, however, the next meal I can choose it to be raw again, and I don't worry too much about it. It helps when you focus on how great you are doing. It may take some time and effort to change, hey, you've been eating cooked your whole life, so if you've been raw for just two months, it isn't strange that you grab something to eat you have been used to for years and years. Just remember that you eat better than you did before! You're doing great. Rome wasn't build in one day, so you cannot expect to be raw forever in one day. Just take it one meal at a time, enjoy yourself and don't worry.

In my case, I don't tell people I'm raw or vegetarian or vegan, if they ask, I just say I mostly eat fruits and vegetables. If they ask on I tell them I also eat some seeds and nuts, seaweed etcera. They themselves conclude that I eat everything raw, and think I'm a vegetarian or whatever. I just let them think. When I'm around people for a long time and I eat something cooked, and they are suprised I sometimes say that I do eat cooked food from time to time, like fish or meat, or that I love to 'sin' with something like chips every once in a while, but that I strive to eat raw most of the time. I always bring it with a lot of humor and honesty. That's why people never say: 'Hey, but you are a vegan and you eat something you aren't supposed to eat right now.' They can't say I'm not consequent, because I never said I was eating raw vegan. Besides that, I really don't think I have to explain myself to others. If they ask, I answer, but otherwise I don't. I don't like labels, and I want to feel like I could eat anything, so if I really want to eat meat or fish sometimes, I do it (although I have been a vegetarian for years, that was a long while ago - I was a happy omnivorous meat and fish eater before going raw, so hey, sue me if I'm not immediately a 100% raw vegan or vegetarian right now). But most of the time I just choose not to eat fish or meat and those times are getting more often. I try not to make a too big deal of the whole raw food thing (o, sorry, can't use the word 'try':)), and then other people don't either. I just accept that this is where I'm at right now.

[JinxieKat]

Thank you RP.. that is just a beautiful way of looking at it. It is also empowering instead of belittleing. I choose to do this now, but I may choose differently next time and it is all O.K.

Jinx

[Lay-Lay]

ditto the rp statement, LOL

[luckitri]

yup - double ditto....I've been thinking of raw fast food that I can carry with me that won't spoil easily in this heat. So far I have only thought of carrots as nuts are too heavy for me at this time...........I should be turning orange soon!