Having social problems with 6 yr old and being Raw ....(sorry kind of long)

[Raw_Journey]

To make a super long story shorter....I have been raw mostly
on, but sometimes off for the past 2 years. The kids went raw on
July 1/06, so about 40 days ago!! My daughter is 2 and is having no
problems, loves almost everything I make and obviously doesnt
complain. She had so many allergies to everything we fed her I
thought it was time to change her diet to mine. Her chest congestion
has already been minimized and is not there some days, her body
rashes are gone she seems happier. My son has had Strep throat
almost his whole life. For a whole year the doctors just kept
giving him antibiotics every month! His glands were always swollen
and he always coughed. His glads have started to go down and hardly
feel them anymore and he hardly coughs at all unless he has some jun
cooked foods. HE is having troubles in daycare though. His first day
of daycare was his first day of raw, so at least I didn't have to
explain a sudden change to his eating habits. I just told the
daycare for health reasons he is to have nothing but fruits and
veggies. They only provide one snack anyways and it is my
responsibility to provide morning snack and lunch for him so its not
to bad. He just really wants to be able to eat what all the other
kids in daycare eat at afternoon snack. But it is stuff like
yogurt, chips, icecream, candy...etc. I make him a raw dessert that
he likes and stick it in his lunch bag on the days that he is not
able to have daycare snack. But my big problem for today
is.......My son went to a friends house from daycare for the first
time. They arranged to go to the movies and after talking to her
mom we decided I would go have "coffee" and meet her for an hour
before she takes them to the movies....She is very nice and we
talked about our raw diet alot because she was asking questions. I
am still new at explaining it to others but I did my best while
chasing after my 2 year old. Anyways, she said she eats that way
most of the time too. Cool...meanwhile she made her two kids white
toast with lots of butter and brown suger and cinnimon for lunch
before the movies. I explained that Austin is allowed to have a
small bag of popcorn no butter added and juice or water. But NO Pop.
I told Austin as well. He was happy to get the popcorn. I gave her
$20 for everything. (I thought..$8 for movie, about $8 for juice and
small popcorn.)
I picked up Austin back at her place 3 hours later. We got home and
Austin had only a bite of his salad and started crying his stomach
hurt so bad he couldn't eat and wanted to go to bed. He looked
horrible! I asked what he ate.....2 big bags of popcorn with butter
and she got the kids nibs candy and got Asutin and Orange crush
pop. He was hurting bad! Cold sweats and has been coughing in his
sleep since!! I told Austin that it may be better if mom comes with
him to movies or friends houses that don't know about raw foods that
way I may be able to help him out. I said he would really like that
and wished I was at the movies today! Awe! Poor guy!
I have no one to bitch to or bounce ideas off, because we don't know
one single raw foodist to talk to at all. I would just love to find
other raw families especially in Calgary where we live. Austin was
asking if any other kids eat this healthy. So I explain that there
is others out there we just have to find them. lol! Oh well. We
trudge on.....Thanks for listening and maybe if you have any stories
about your raw children challenges or have advice I could use some,
especially today!
Thanks,

[berrymarymac]

Wow, I'm sorry to hear about that!! If I was that mother, I would respect your wishes!! That's just shocking that people don't listen >_>

I hope your son gets better! I had some soy chicken nuggets yesterday and have a cold today...go figure! So I know how junk can be a bad thing, even if it's "healthy!"

[Rawkinlocs]

Awww...I'm so sorry to hear about the little guy feeling so badly AND that your wishes were not respected by this mom.

I think that at his age, he is old enough to understand and make the correlation between eating the "good stuff" his friends get to eat and the way he ends up feeling afterwards. I know that even with US (grown-ups) sometimes we still end up eating those things eventhough we KNOW how it makes us feel...but if it is pointed out to him now, at this age, perhaps it will stick more and he will not develop the same habits that we have developed because he's starting at a much younger age.

My youngest daughter was eating chips last night and midway before she was even done eating them, she began developing a headache and said she didn't want anymore. I don't like my kids to suffer, but I AM glad when they DO eat junk nowadays, they feel the effects of it and I'm hoping it will register with them each time they do it and eventually, they will listen to and heed to what their bodies are telling them.

Hope he feels better soon and that you all find someone (with kids his age) close by that eats the same way or someone who ends up changing over to eating this way!

[Live Free]

Wow that is crazy. I cant believe this Mother let your son eat stuff that you specifically requested him not to have.

She couldnt have known how this little boy was going to feel after eating all that junk. Hopefully, she saw how your son felt after having the candy and soda. Perhaps, she will think twice before feeding a child that isnt hers, stuff that he/she shouldnt be eating.

I know with my two year old, if someone gives her food that she shouldnt eat. She almost knows that she will have a stomach ache. But she will proceed to eat it anyways.

I think some times people believe they know how to feed their family better or healthier, therefore it should be alright for my child too. I know nearly every time that my baby gets a food that isnt vegan, she will not sleep very well.

I hope that I am giving her the right ground work to avoid foods that will make her feel badly.

[juliebove]

I'm afraid this is a very common thing. When my daughter was younger, we had plenty of well meaning relatives and neighbors who would sneak food and drinks to my daughter that I didn't want her to have. I was always very specific with people, always sending her off with a drink and snack if she went to play at someone else's house. I'd usually figure it out when she'd come home and not want to eat dinner. Why? They'd stuffed her full of sweets or psuedo juice or some other kind of junk food.

These people really did think they were doing a good thing. They felt I was being too restrictive with her diet and that she was feeling left out. And when she was younger, she didn't speak up about it. She just ate or drank whatever they gave her.

Now we know that she has food allergies. She just turned 8. She knows now why she can't eat certain things because she will get sick if she does. She doesn't want to get sick. Before, I didn't have a specific reason as to why I didn't want her to have certain things, other than that I felt they were not healthy for her. Now I do have a valid reason. Now I have something I typed up on my computer listing her food allergies. Peanuts are one of her allerigies. Now hers are not the life threatening kind. But peanut allergies have been on the news so much lately that people are more aware of them. Because of this when people see the paper I printed off, they tend to take it more seriously. That and the fact that she will now refuse any food she thinks she might be allergic to.

So you might try typing something up like that. If he doesn't have food allergies, you need to word it in such a way that makes it sound serious. Such as that he is on a special medical diet and can only have certain foods or certain amounts of foods. Put down that he gets sick if he doesn't follow the diet.

This kind of stuff really annoys me. Kids might have to be on a special diet for all sorts of reasons. Not just food allergies. And people who do not believe this are not the ones who have to deal with it when the kid does get sick. Aargh!

[Ariannah]

I remember as a kid being told that orange crush was healthier than pop (yes I know it IS pop) because it was orange and therefore ontained vitamin C.

The ignorance of some people astounds me, and I hope you confront your friend about how this affected your son. I wouldn't trust her to be responsible with him in the future, unfortunately.

[AJ Bodine]

My 7 yo son, who is mostly raw is also wondering if there are any other healthy raw eating kids out there. He's asked me that question plenty of times. I think he feels like he's the only one. Too bad you didn't live in North Carolina!

Wouldn't it be great to have raw friends for our kids to hang out with? Outings are very hard. It's hard to say no to treats that their friends are eating.

I rarely explain to anyone around here how we eat. (We live out in the country and people eat beef with a side of pork here at every meal)

I don't think I'd be too happy with that Mom for allowing all that garbage, after you took the time to explain to her how your family eats. But I'd bet 9 times out of 10, that will happen. I think they think they are doing something nice for the child.

[Sharon in Colorado]

Maybe he drank his friends' orange soda and ate all the extra popcorn in the movie theatre when the other mother wasn't looking? Sometimes the tub gets passed around and nobody is paying attention.

[blessed]

I've been where you are, when we were foster parents we asked that after Sunday School that our children not be given white bread sandwiches or cookies with icing because it would cause them to become out of control, sugar works as alcohol in the system.
When i went down to pick them up there they were with a white bread sandwich and a large cookie with white icing, i grabbed it from them and threw it into the trash can. Of course the adults thought i was crazy as i grabbed the children and hurried them out of the kitchen area.
Children's health is our responsibility and we must take it seriously, later on the State Welfare came against us for feeding the children Organic food but for the time they were with us they were healthy and they had no bad behavior problems. Here in Indiana we are very much behind on healthy eating sad to say. The S.A.D. is alive and well and sad to say is still very popular where growing children are concerned.

Ann

[rawstrawberry]

Although I don't have kids a new trend here is making t-shirts (my sweetie can't eat sweets, allergic to peanuts, Diabetic don't feed me....some have really cute sayings and the parents that use them say they work pretty for social outings.

Raw Strawberry

[Pierre]

AJ, where in North Carolina are you? Could we get together some time?