juliebove
08-12-2006, 12:09 AM
I'd mentioned previously that my parents like to dine out all the time. And that even when my daughter and I offer to make dinner, they often don't take it very well. Well, that seems to be changing. My dad was recently diagnosed with diabetes. We rather knew that would be coming at some point, but I think they were just sort of not wanting to deal with that issue or something. No point really in getting into that though. Seems now they know they must make changes.
My daughter and I go to their house every Saturday and the normal routine was to go out to eat for lunch and dinner. Occasionally my mom would make dinner but it was hard to come up with any one thing we could/would all eat due to our various food allergies, food sensitivities and types of diet. Sometimes she would cook something that the three of them would eat and I'd just go up to the store nearby with a salad bar and get dinner for myself. Or sometimes they'd have enough leftovers for the two of them and I'd go to Trader Joe's and get something for my daughter and me. But every time I did this they'd seem to get upset by it. Last week I even stopped by the health food store on the way over there and picked something up that we could all eat, just in case. But they refused and said we had to go out instead. Said they didn't want a mess in the kitchen, have to wash dishes, etc.
But this time, something changed! I did mention the onion bread to my mom. I mentioned the nut cheeses. She seemed rather interested in those because she too has a dairy allergy.
I called there tonight to update her on my daughter's medical condition. She is currently going through some sort of bladder thing that has yet to be sorted out. At any rate, my mom said we were NOT going out for two meals tomorrow. She said we'd go out to eat lunch, and then she was making dinner. She listed off what all she was going to make, knowing full well it was not anything I would eat.
I merely said, "Okay. Then I'll bring my onion bread and nut cheese and make sandwiches for myself. That's what I've been eating."
Normally this would be followed by a bunch of shrieking and my being told that I was making a big deal out of nothing and need to get over my food phobias or any other number of excuses as to why I have to be the odd one out. But not this time! This time she said, "Great! You do that and whatever else we need to buy to make the meal, we'll go buy it!" What a very pleasant surprise!!!
But now I think I'd better go make some more nut bread and cheese because I think it will all get eaten! Hehe.
My daughter and I go to their house every Saturday and the normal routine was to go out to eat for lunch and dinner. Occasionally my mom would make dinner but it was hard to come up with any one thing we could/would all eat due to our various food allergies, food sensitivities and types of diet. Sometimes she would cook something that the three of them would eat and I'd just go up to the store nearby with a salad bar and get dinner for myself. Or sometimes they'd have enough leftovers for the two of them and I'd go to Trader Joe's and get something for my daughter and me. But every time I did this they'd seem to get upset by it. Last week I even stopped by the health food store on the way over there and picked something up that we could all eat, just in case. But they refused and said we had to go out instead. Said they didn't want a mess in the kitchen, have to wash dishes, etc.
But this time, something changed! I did mention the onion bread to my mom. I mentioned the nut cheeses. She seemed rather interested in those because she too has a dairy allergy.
I called there tonight to update her on my daughter's medical condition. She is currently going through some sort of bladder thing that has yet to be sorted out. At any rate, my mom said we were NOT going out for two meals tomorrow. She said we'd go out to eat lunch, and then she was making dinner. She listed off what all she was going to make, knowing full well it was not anything I would eat.
I merely said, "Okay. Then I'll bring my onion bread and nut cheese and make sandwiches for myself. That's what I've been eating."
Normally this would be followed by a bunch of shrieking and my being told that I was making a big deal out of nothing and need to get over my food phobias or any other number of excuses as to why I have to be the odd one out. But not this time! This time she said, "Great! You do that and whatever else we need to buy to make the meal, we'll go buy it!" What a very pleasant surprise!!!
But now I think I'd better go make some more nut bread and cheese because I think it will all get eaten! Hehe.