If you are not ready for it, how can you achieve it?

[startootsie]

There are so many things that we think we want, but really if we could have them in just a second , then would you still want it? We subconsiousally put obstacles in our ways so we can not acheive success! Now why do you think we do this? It could be fear, fear of being so good, fear of being so wrong, fear or worries that you have created because maybe that is not really what you are ready for at the moment ! How can we succeed if we keep blocking our own way? Or thinking well later, later, later, maybe next time, and what happens when next time never comes? If you want something so much, you have to go out and let go of fear, so you can get it!

What are your fears? And why? Why are you so afraid, you can sit there all comfy and sad, or you can go get what you want! Fear is not real, it is a blockage we have created so we can't acheive success !

[lavendarJ]

Great Insight

[honeybee joy]

another one could be fear of being happy?

Good info, thanks!

[juliebove]

We do this for a variety of reasons. I happened to catch part of Dr. Phil yesterday and there was a guy on there who said he always set things up so that he would be unhappy. Now I'm sure this guy didn't know why he was doing it. But at least he was aware he was doing it. So that's a start! So why would someone do this? Because it makes others go out of their way to try to please them and do things that WILL make them happy. Of course it never works because they just can't seem to shake the unhappiness.

I know someone who seems never to be happy unless there is chaos. He works at a job where he is always solving problems and essentially making order out of chaos. He claims he can't can't be happy unless there is extreme order in his life. And yet, he lives his life in a very chaotic fashion. He never seems to pay attention to what he is doing. I've seen him fling a phone he is done using it. When he comes in the door, he flings his car keys. When he takes off his clothes or shoes, he flings those. And yet, he always wonders why he can't find anything! Another thing he does is to create an emergency or some other thing to draw attention to himself. He can't stand it if other people are focused on something other than him. Sometimes it even seems planned out. Very annoying to others but he gets the reaction he wants.

Still another reason for a lot of things that would seem simple on the surface is that we as human beings feel the need to control things. And yet some things are out of our control. For example, if we are in a bad relationship, we might want to get out. But we can come up with a dozen or more reasons why we can't get out. Instead we should be concentrating of wanting to get out of the relationship and the rest will eventually fall into place.

I just saw this movie at the health food store. Very good, and very true. And really even though I already knew what they said in the movie, some of it is very hard to put into place in our daily lives. But it works. It really works! Here's a link:

http://thesecret.tv/

This is what happened immediately after watching the movie. My daughter and I went out to dinner and afterwards grocery shopping. The store has a "claw" machine in it. One of those machines full of stuffed toys and other things. For fifty cents you get a chance to maneuver the claw around and try to get a toy down the chute. My daughter loves playing it. For weeks there has been a cute stuffed dog that I really like in that machine. But it was buried deeply. I could never get it. So I thought about it and told my daughter that I was going to get that dog!

We went into the store. The man who fills the machine had put some new things in there. The dog was in a different spot but more deeply buried. I didn't think I'd ever get it. A penguin was on the top. "I'll try for the penguin" I told my daughter. She took a turn first. Tried for the head of the penguin. The claw actually grabbed the head of the penguin then went wacky. It lifted up, then flopped around and plunged deeply into the pile of toys. Up it came, along with the dog I wanted. We both stood there stunned. My daughter then tried to drop the dog down the chute but it wouldn't come out of the claw. I'm not sure exactly what happened after that because I was still in awe. But I'd put a dollar in so we had another turn. On the second turn, we got the dog.

I was convinced. The power of positive thinking works! But in order to do it, you've got to want it and you've got to make an extreme effort to eliminate the negativity. That's the hard part.

[startootsie]

We do this for a variety of reasons. I happened to catch part of Dr. Phil yesterday and there was a guy on there who said he always set things up so that he would be unhappy. Now I'm sure this guy didn't know why he was doing it. But at least he was aware he was doing it. So that's a start! So why would someone do this? Because it makes others go out of their way to try to please them and do things that WILL make them happy. Of course it never works because they just can't seem to shake the unhappiness.

I know someone who seems never to be happy unless there is chaos. He works at a job where he is always solving problems and essentially making order out of chaos. He claims he can't can't be happy unless there is extreme order in his life. And yet, he lives his life in a very chaotic fashion. He never seems to pay attention to what he is doing. I've seen him fling a phone he is done using it. When he comes in the door, he flings his car keys. When he takes off his clothes or shoes, he flings those. And yet, he always wonders why he can't find anything! Another thing he does is to create an emergency or some other thing to draw attention to himself. He can't stand it if other people are focused on something other than him. Sometimes it even seems planned out. Very annoying to others but he gets the reaction he wants.

Still another reason for a lot of things that would seem simple on the surface is that we as human beings feel the need to control things. And yet some things are out of our control. For example, if we are in a bad relationship, we might want to get out. But we can come up with a dozen or more reasons why we can't get out. Instead we should be concentrating of wanting to get out of the relationship and the rest will eventually fall into place.

I just saw this movie at the health food store. Very good, and very true. And really even though I already knew what they said in the movie, some of it is very hard to put into place in our daily lives. But it works. It really works! Here's a link:

http://thesecret.tv/

This is what happened immediately after watching the movie. My daughter and I went out to dinner and afterwards grocery shopping. The store has a "claw" machine in it. One of those machines full of stuffed toys and other things. For fifty cents you get a chance to maneuver the claw around and try to get a toy down the chute. My daughter loves playing it. For weeks there has been a cute stuffed dog that I really like in that machine. But it was buried deeply. I could never get it. So I thought about it and told my daughter that I was going to get that dog!

We went into the store. The man who fills the machine had put some new things in there. The dog was in a different spot but more deeply buried. I didn't think I'd ever get it. A penguin was on the top. "I'll try for the penguin" I told my daughter. She took a turn first. Tried for the head of the penguin. The claw actually grabbed the head of the penguin then went wacky. It lifted up, then flopped around and plunged deeply into the pile of toys. Up it came, along with the dog I wanted. We both stood there stunned. My daughter then tried to drop the dog down the chute but it wouldn't come out of the claw. I'm not sure exactly what happened after that because I was still in awe. But I'd put a dollar in so we had another turn. On the second turn, we got the dog.

I was convinced. The power of positive thinking works! But in order to do it, you've got to want it and you've got to make an extreme effort to eliminate the negativity. That's the hard part.


Great insight as well!

Thank you!

Also, you know how sometimes when you are in that very still state of mind, and very relaxed, and you start to figure out all of your problems, and you figure out how to resolve things and make life more joyful and happy, but then when you get back into the world you let those solutions you came up with go away, cause you are afraid, and you don't want to let go, but part of you does. So when your mind is posotive and clear, and you know that the answer's you are recieveing at that time are the highest good to do, but when you get out of that state and back into a crazed life or a stressful life, you don't want to change it, you don't want to give that effort, you just want to leave it the same even if you are misarable. You need to listen to your intuation!

[Rawdiva]

Juliebove,

I watched the secret trailer. I am intrigued. Did you watch the entire movie?

[startootsie]

I just heard more about that movie today, can you get it at a normal movie store? Or maybe you got to order it...

Hey, talking about fear and all, well here is another one. Do you think we are addicted to misery, to self hate, to unhappiness?
We have been feeling these emotions, or doing these things, or living a way of life that is unhealthy, are we so addicted to this way of living?

Sometimes we know what we are doing is wrong, or unhealthy but we are afraid to change our way of living (fear comes in again)! You could use an example of eating cooked fried food and knowing it is killing you, but hey your family eats that way, you have all your life so to go raw, or to go a healthier route is scary and new, because you are so used to this way of living!

If you have any, I would like to here some imput on this...Thank you!

[juliebove]

Juliebove,

I watched the secret trailer. I am intrigued. Did you watch the entire movie?

Yes, I did watch the whole movie. They had it at my health food store. Some of it was hard for me to sit through because it was kind of infomercial sounding and they did reapeat a lot of it. But I still liked it.

[juliebove]

I just heard more about that movie today, can you get it at a normal movie store? Or maybe you got to order it...

Hey, talking about fear and all, well here is another one. Do you think we are addicted to misery, to self hate, to unhappiness?
We have been feeling these emotions, or doing these things, or living a way of life that is unhealthy, are we so addicted to this way of living?

Sometimes we know what we are doing is wrong, or unhealthy but we are afraid to change our way of living (fear comes in again)! You could use an example of eating cooked fried food and knowing it is killing you, but hey your family eats that way, you have all your life so to go raw, or to go a healthier route is scary and new, because you are so used to this way of living!

If you have any, I would like to here some imput on this...Thank you!

I'm not really sure where you get the movie. I think you can get it from "them" but not sure elsewhere to get it.

And yes, some people are actually addicted to misery. I know of one woman who became rather bored with her life. Her kids had moved out of the house, husband worked long hours and when he did come home he pretty much ignored her. Her friends had all gotten busy with various things or moved out of the area. She watched TV, but other than that had really nothing to do aside from housework. She had no hobbies or interests. She was constantly talking about how she would like to just go away to a health spa where they would pamper her. She could sleep all day if she wanted and people would do things for her. She wouldn't have to lift a finger. When it became clear she would never have enough money for a health spa, she said she'd like to go to a hospital. After all, movie stars did it. Why couldn't she? If only she could go to a hospital, everything would be fine.

Then one day she became ill. Long story to that and I don't know that the Drs. ever did come to an agreement as to what is/was actually wrong with her. She did have breast cancer. She did have a lump. She knew about it but chose not to do anything. Even when she was hospitalized for what appeared to be some other thing, she refused a mammogram citing patient's rights. But eventually it got to the point of "remove the cancer or die". There is one school of thought that the cancer itself is the cause of other problems because she allowed it to progress and did nothing. However some of her other Drs. have thought she has additional ailments as well.

At any rate, she got to where she could not take care of herself. She had round the clock assistance in her home by family members and hired help. People fawned over her, hoping to cheer her up or help her to get better. That didn't happen. And it was clear that she didn't want it to happen. She did not want to do housework, or make meals, or bathe or do anything for herself. But after a while, people grew annoyed with her. She was always in a constant state of depression. Constantly snapping at people and just plain unpleasant to be around. The only thing she seemed to delight in was making us run around like servants, waiting on her. She refused to do anything the Drs. told her to do. Refused to do anything in terms or rehab.

At one point she was put in an actual rehab facility. We went to visit and saw her physically fighting one of the employees who was trying to get her to do some sort of exercise. It was clear that she had the strength at that point to do some things, but she flat out refused to do anything to help herself. Again, citing patient rights.

Her husband died. And eventually it got to the point where she had to be put in a nursing home. There was just no way to provide round the clock care otherwise. There wasn't enough money to hire 24 hour help and even spread between the assortment of friends and relatives who "could" help, there were periods of time when she had to be left alone. And that just couldn't be because something bad always happened, even if she was left alone for an hour or two.

So now in the nursing home she gets round the clock care. She doesn't have to do a thing for herself, ever. People come to visit her. They didn't come to visit before because coming to visit meant having to do some sort of work for her and getting yelled at by her. But that doesn't happen now because if she needs anything they simply get an attendant.

She seems happy there. She is no longer depressed. So it would seem that she got what she wanted. It isn't exactly a health spa, but she is getting exactly what she said she wanted.

[juliebove]

Great insight as well!

Thank you!

Also, you know how sometimes when you are in that very still state of mind, and very relaxed, and you start to figure out all of your problems, and you figure out how to resolve things and make life more joyful and happy, but then when you get back into the world you let those solutions you came up with go away, cause you are afraid, and you don't want to let go, but part of you does. So when your mind is posotive and clear, and you know that the answer's you are recieveing at that time are the highest good to do, but when you get out of that state and back into a crazed life or a stressful life, you don't want to change it, you don't want to give that effort, you just want to leave it the same even if you are misarable. You need to listen to your intuation!

Exactly. So many times we talk ourselves out of that which we know in our hearts because it doesn't seem to match up with reality. And really it can take a lot of energy to try to be positive all the time.

I also know that it's human nature to crave or perhaps settle for that which is familiar. People who grew up in abusive homes often get into abusive relationships, not because they want the abuse but because it is familiar to them.

[Conscious Midwife]

I watched the secret in its entirety online while it was running for free. It's at least 90 minutes long and I took 4 pages of notes.

I plan to purchase the DVD soon!

[juliebove]

I watched the secret in its entirety online while it was running for free. It's at least 90 minutes long and I took 4 pages of notes.

I plan to purchase the DVD soon!

I was told it was an hour and a half long. Seemed a tad longer than that to me, but I did stop it at one point to go use the bathroom.

[SparklePlenty]

I have watched the movie several times, and my husband and I are considering showing it weekly or monthly at our life coaching office.

you can watch it online or buy it at: www.whatisthesecret.tv

And if you pay the 4.95 to watch it, and then decide to buy it, they will deduct the 4.95 from the purchase price. I ordered and got mine in 2-3 days.

I am sharing it with everyone I know, including my 85 and 88 yr old parents! :) And believe me, the Law Of Attraction is working full time in my life. I am saying that our recent two week trip to CA was planned by a Law Of Attraction travel agent. :) Truth is we went with no reservations beyond the first 2 nights and the trip unfolded magically and absolutely perfectly! Major gratitude from us! Strong intentions.....high vibrations....perfect manifestations!! YEAH!!

Jan

[startootsie]

I'm not really sure where you get the movie. I think you can get it from "them" but not sure elsewhere to get it.

And yes, some people are actually addicted to misery. I know of one woman who became rather bored with her life. Her kids had moved out of the house, husband worked long hours and when he did come home he pretty much ignored her. Her friends had all gotten busy with various things or moved out of the area. She watched TV, but other than that had really nothing to do aside from housework. She had no hobbies or interests. She was constantly talking about how she would like to just go away to a health spa where they would pamper her. She could sleep all day if she wanted and people would do things for her. She wouldn't have to lift a finger. When it became clear she would never have enough money for a health spa, she said she'd like to go to a hospital. After all, movie stars did it. Why couldn't she? If only she could go to a hospital, everything would be fine.

Then one day she became ill. Long story to that and I don't know that the Drs. ever did come to an agreement as to what is/was actually wrong with her. She did have breast cancer. She did have a lump. She knew about it but chose not to do anything. Even when she was hospitalized for what appeared to be some other thing, she refused a mammogram citing patient's rights. But eventually it got to the point of "remove the cancer or die". There is one school of thought that the cancer itself is the cause of other problems because she allowed it to progress and did nothing. However some of her other Drs. have thought she has additional ailments as well.

At any rate, she got to where she could not take care of herself. She had round the clock assistance in her home by family members and hired help. People fawned over her, hoping to cheer her up or help her to get better. That didn't happen. And it was clear that she didn't want it to happen. She did not want to do housework, or make meals, or bathe or do anything for herself. But after a while, people grew annoyed with her. She was always in a constant state of depression. Constantly snapping at people and just plain unpleasant to be around. The only thing she seemed to delight in was making us run around like servants, waiting on her. She refused to do anything the Drs. told her to do. Refused to do anything in terms or rehab.

At one point she was put in an actual rehab facility. We went to visit and saw her physically fighting one of the employees who was trying to get her to do some sort of exercise. It was clear that she had the strength at that point to do some things, but she flat out refused to do anything to help herself. Again, citing patient rights.

Her husband died. And eventually it got to the point where she had to be put in a nursing home. There was just no way to provide round the clock care otherwise. There wasn't enough money to hire 24 hour help and even spread between the assortment of friends and relatives who "could" help, there were periods of time when she had to be left alone. And that just couldn't be because something bad always happened, even if she was left alone for an hour or two.

So now in the nursing home she gets round the clock care. She doesn't have to do a thing for herself, ever. People come to visit her. They didn't come to visit before because coming to visit meant having to do some sort of work for her and getting yelled at by her. But that doesn't happen now because if she needs anything they simply get an attendant.

She seems happy there. She is no longer depressed. So it would seem that she got what she wanted. It isn't exactly a health spa, but she is getting exactly what she said she wanted.


You can either have a happy vibrant life, or a sad misarable dead one, which ever you want you can create it, you just have to let go of fear, and FLY! Thank you for the story!

[startootsie]

I have some experience with fear... Of couse because I chose that way of life, and now I am working on changing that! I have experienced a happy joyful life, a sad boring life, a stressful life, a misarable life, and I have created all of this.

Now I am creating a happy vibrant, joyful, meaningful full of love life, and for that I love myslef and my life!

[Rawdiva]

I watched "The Secret" on line and I am definitely going to order it, to watch as many times. Thanks JulieBove for sharing this wonderful information about the DVD and also your story not only about getting the dog but also the story about misery and the woman who was miserable. I am in such a happy state right now, and I noticed that when I am happy and full of joy, others respond in kind. :D :D

Today I went to the local cafe and ordered a Chi Tea. Well the lady who made my original gave me another for the road free!!! Amazing!! :D :D

[startootsie]

I am going back and looking at the posts I have made! I am just bumping this one up!

Create a day of love and light!

Christianna

[trinity082482]

It's very hard. Like for me. I would like to be 20lbs lighter. I am scared what I will look like thinner right because I might look dramatically different and it may not look much like I do now and although I know that is not a bad thing... I'm just scared. I should be scared to look the way that I do now. I know I'm not as healthy as I could be but I don't think I will ever be ready to be "Ready" I am always falling off the wagon and I am the worlds biggest yo-yo.. look out Oprah. My weight changes more than my underwear and I am very clean :D
It's crazy. I try and try and try and I eat lots of raw foods. I am determined to have a 20lbs lighter picture posted on here just to show struggling people that if I can do it.. good lordie.. anyone can!

[startootsie]

Hey!

Do you want to be 20 lbs lighter? Do you really want it? Ask yourself why you may be afraid of it? Is it change? Is it protection? If you want me to give you some affirmations to meditate on, I can. Do you want me to?

Love to all!

Create a day of love and light!

Christianna

[konmai]

Do you want to be 20 lbs lighter? Do you really want it? Ask yourself why you may be afraid of it? Is it change? Is it protection?



Those are really good questions. For me, there are some things I say I "want" or "desire," but when I really ask myself what am I afraid of if I were to have or achieve these things, there ARE actually things I'm fearing as a result as well. :D

For example, there is a position I've been wanting for a little while. With the position, I was afraid that I'd always have to be perfect as in no mistakes, b/c a lot of people would depend on me to set an example. :confused: Then, I was also afraid that since I'm young, I'm going to get a lot of scrutiny from those who are older and just my age would discredit me. Anyway, while I'm afraid of others, it's more about me not having confidence about myself. After putting these fears into the foreground, I was offered the position and declined it. Not once but twice. :eek:

People keep asking me why I wasn't in the position...was I not offered the position or trying to ask me every possible way, but for once, I finally didn't feel like defending my decisions. It feels great! :D

[startootsie]

Hey!

Do you not want the position? I feel like that sometimes too, but then I realize that if I really want it I am going to get it! I think it is a matter of how much you really want it...what is your "WHY"? Your reason for going after something? Not why you want it, but what your life will be like after you have it, and how much you will enjoy it and be happy!

Create a day of love and light!

Christianna

[konmai]

I realized I had no "why"s for wanting it anymore. :rolleyes: