Not Supportive

[Rawzula]

Since becoming raw, I've slipped up a couple of times and eaten cooked food :eek: . I live with a roomie/friend who is NOT supportive of my diet. I've had eating issues in the past , and he constantly reminds me of them. It's hard staying 100% raw. The produce in my area is so expensive, it's ridiculous!

I will stay on track and continue to eat raw. It will NOT be easy, but I will do my best.

[Sharon in Colorado]

You are very fortunate that this is a roomy/friend and not a spouse or family member. Many people here are dealing with non-supportive spouses and family members and continue to carry on.

Do not allow others to trample your way of life. You are not giving them a hard time about what they eat or how they live, hopefully.

You do what you want and do not allow yourself to stumble based on what others say to you - this is your life, not theirs.

[Revvell]

First of all, eating raw food is not an "eating issue". It's about eating for life, awareness, aliveness... not to mention (o.k., I will :) ) it's the natural way to eat.

Secondly, tell your roomie, what you eat is none of his business and you'll not say anything about his SAD program if he'll leave you alone about yours.

You could also say, you know, this is just an experiment. I want to find out what's really going to work for me in the long run. Would you like to come along for the ride?

If not, pretend you are on a carnival ride. Some like the roller coaster, others don't. He takes the ride he wants to go on; you ride the ones you want to go on. Keep it simple and remember ~ play with your foods. You're an adult now. :D

Revvell

[Rawzula]

I don't give my roomy/friend a hard time. He's set in his ways and no amount of talking would change that. I had a lot of eating issues in the past. My roomy kicked me out because I was unable to lose weight. Now that I moved back in, he's so critical of my eating habits, it's almost oppresive. I understand he means well, but being mean and borderline cruel isn't the way to do it.

I think he's beginning to realize that I mean business. My past actions have made him very skeptical of any effort I make to lose weight. He expected me to lose 5 pounds in a week :eek: We all know that's an unhealthy amount of weight to lose in such a short time. :eek: I made him realize that trying to lose so much weight in a week was impossible for an overweight person like me. He's since dropped that subject. I will keep on going and not let my roomy/friend criticize my eating habits.

[Sharon in Colorado]

I am not sure I understand. Did you say your roomate kicked you out based on your weight? I think that is what you are saying but I am confused. This is illegal last I checked. The fair-housing act I believe states a no discrimination law. I am not even sure why you would want to live with someone like this if what you are saying is accurate. If there is discrimination against you then you can take legal action. This is no friend to you.

May I ask how old you are?

[Rawzula]

It was more than the weight. I admit, I was lazy and indifferent towards him. I was so set in my old ways, I refused to change. I came from an abusive household where being physically, emotionally, and verbally abused was the "norm".

Where I used to live, the abuse ran so deep that it changed me into the person I am today: weary of everyone, guarded and careful. My mom used cleaning as a punishment. Even if I was extremely ill, I had to do housework and other things. The abuse didn't end until I moved out two years ago. It took being kicked out to realize the error of my ways. By the way, I'm 23.

[Graciebeliever]

Hi Killik!

I am just coming up to one month in my Raw food lifstyle change. And a total change it is!

Stay firm in your choices. Stay here and read read read. So many of your questions will be covered here and if you need support then go to where the people totally understand what matters to you. Here is where you will find it!

Go slow, let your body adjust, Don't do this just for weight loss alone (it's a SUPER by product of eating raw) do it for your TOTAL self. You will be so plesantly amazed at what your body will tell you.

Expect Detox. Healing takes time and some days you might not feel all that great but stick with it!!

It is all totally worth it and information about Raw is all at your mouse button.

I might suggest to you that not talking about your decision to change what you eat. When your body and attitude changes, people will see it! Get your feet firmly underneath you before telling others all about what your doing.

This is the first time I have said basically nothing to anyone but my sons and they have been 100% behind me.

Hang in there, focus on what you want and do the best you can.

AND READ!!!!

[dreamrawalwz]

I don't give my roomy/friend a hard time. He's set in his ways and no amount of talking would change that. I had a lot of eating issues in the past. My roomy kicked me out because I was unable to lose weight. Now that I moved back in, he's so critical of my eating habits, it's almost oppresive. I understand he means well, but being mean and borderline cruel isn't the way to do it.

I think he's beginning to realize that I mean business. My past actions have made him very skeptical of any effort I make to lose weight. He expected me to lose 5 pounds in a week :eek: We all know that's an unhealthy amount of weight to lose in such a short time. :eek: I made him realize that trying to lose so much weight in a week was impossible for an overweight person like me. He's since dropped that subject. I will keep on going and not let my roomy/friend criticize my eating habits.


Actually no it's not an "unhealthy" amount of weight, ESPECIALLY if you're overweight and at first. The more overweight you are the more you'll loose when making a radical diet change (cutting out junk, meats, cooked, ect.) A lot of water weight will most likely drop FAST. As other said though, relax and let your body do what it wants to do first. :)

I hope that doesn't sound rude, I appologize if it does!

[Sharon in Colorado]

Yes, if you are obese or have a lot of weight to lose, it will come off quickly, especially in the beginning as you eat natural, fresh foods.

Then it may slow down some, especially if the majority of foods you are eating aren't truly fresh (such as nuts, oils, dehydrated foods, etc.).

Just keep eating your fresh foods, lots of fruits, greens and veggies, stay hydrated and get lots of activity and your body will release the weight over time.

Also it'd help if you consider getting in a healthier relationship. If this relationship isn't working for you, maybe try being on your own and finding your true self because it sounds like you went from one unhealthy relationship to another. Mental peace will effect your physical body no doubt.

[codajess]

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I believe you posted the same thing on veggieboards less than a week ago, and said you got kicked out already (twice.)

My advice, as much as it sucks, but you've really got to be your own support sometimes. It's definitely nice to have support and surround yourself with positive people. But for the most part, you need to take responsibility for your own life.

[spicyfull]

Rawky you said it all..........Amen to all of the previous replies........

I know it can seem that produce is costly. But we must make sacrafices. Did you know that it is possible to eat RAW for less than a $ a day?
You can do this by sprouting seeds. You can have sprout salads.You can use a dressing of Olive Oil and Apple Cider Vinegar.

I want you to succeed. I want you to eat right and be productive. I want you to take charge of your life and leave your abusive relationship. I think that is what you forgot to tell us is that it is a relationship.
My friend you are too young to continue in that lifestyle. Ask and It shall be given. ask for a way out, ask for doors to be open.
You are too precious to be lost in a world like you are in............Save yourself....

[Rawzula]

I slipped up today and ate chicken :eek: :eek: :eek: Now I feel sick to my stomach. I will get myself back on the bandwagon and keep on going. I won't let one mistake derail my efforts to be 100% Raw. It would be nice to find some Raw friends here on Long Island. I'm probably the only Raw person in my town! :eek:

I plan on leaving as soon as I can afford to.